blind in one eye
Posted by albertschoon on 5/5/2006 at 2:27 PM
I've recently got a new colleage who is blind in one eye. I know this is probably a strange question but I was wondering, when talking to him and making eye contact do I concentrate on looking just at his seeing eye? I don't want to seem rude to him.
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Re:blind in one eyePosted by AFBInfo Center on 5/9/2006 at 9:15 AM
You should look at him the way that you would look at any other person that you are speaking with. I think that he would think you rude if you concentrate your focus on his one good eye.
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Re:blind in one eyePosted by Bikerider on 6/25/2006 at 1:17 PM
Speaking as someone who IS blind in one eye, look at him in his good eye. When someone is talking to me and they look over at my bad eye, I'm very self-conscious and I tend to look away at that point. Also, as was previously advised, when you approach him on his blind side, do say something to let him know you are there. It's embarssing to not know someone has walked up next to you and bump into them.
Re:blind in one eyePosted by Bikkybec on 9/4/2006 at 8:30 AM
I was really interested to read this topic as I too am blind in one eye and have found some of the advise usefull to me. I find that i prefer it if someone is looking at me normally but i tend to turn so that my good eye is facing them so that i can see them properly. I do agree with the telling them if you are on their bad side and try mot to sit on that side of them as i find it hard to communicate with a person if i can not see them. I was wondering did your colleage tell you that he was blind in one eye? do you think that if i got a job a should tell the people there about this or not? I hope this helps
Re:blind in one eyePosted by kasumikyo on 9/26/2006 at 10:49 PM
You should look at him like you would anyone else. dont focus on his good eye, because he will notice even tho you may think he wont. and that; make him feel pretty bad. but dont look at his blind eye either because people with eye problems are very self concious. i know, because if people ask me about my problem, i can answer or even look at the person. just look at him between the eyes so it give the effect that you're looking at him normally. dont focus on just one eye, but look at both.
Re:blind in one eyePosted by sarasota84 on 1/23/2007 at 7:40 PM
I know that this message was posted awhile ago, but I wanted to add my two cents. I'm blind in one eye, and I prefer people to look at me in my seeing eye. If they look at my blind eye, I feel like they're wondering where to look, and it makes me feel self-concious. I do not find it rude for someone to look at me only in my seeing eye. I prefer it. And furthermore, I'm curious...how do you look at "normal" person anyway? You watch both eyes at once? HAHA....perhaps I tend to focus on one eye or the other because I want people to focus on my seeing eye when they look at me. But when both of my eyes used to see, I'm pretty sure I when I looked at other people I focused on one eye or the other......
Re:blind in one eyePosted by lsuepet on 1/7/2009 at 3:04 PM
i just found this site, and i want to encourage a few of the younger people who have posted about their ability to lead a normal, successful life. i lost my eye in an auto accident at age ten (almost 47 years ago!). i lived in iowa and i got excellent treatment and an excellent implant at the university of iowa. my artificial eye movement is excellent and most people don't know that it is artificial. as i've aged, my lid droops more due, probably, to gravity affecting my damaged muscles, and i'm not as happy with how it looks, but most people don't think twice about it. i've been told by some people who do notice that they thought i had a lazy eye or something.
anyway, i was an excellent student in grade school when injured. i missed some school, but made it up. since i was so young, i had little trouble adjusting to the loss of the eye. it was discovered that my remaining eye was nearsighted and i had to get glasses, but my vision has always been corrected to about 20/20 so not an issue. i continued to be a good student, got good grades in high school, participated in some extracurricular stuff (band and marching band the biggest), worked part-time starting at age 16, got my driver's license, was basically not molly-coddled by my parents, siblings or others. after high school i got academic scholarships and a state grant, work-study job, as well as state vocational rehab money to pay for books, and i went to a small private college for less than it would have cost to go to a public university. i graduated with excellent grades and got admitted to law school -- paid for by loans and working my butt off during summer and part-time during the academic year. i've been a practicing attorney since 1978 and my vision has never held me back from anything i've wanted to do. i've been married twice -- the first time for 23 years -- and i have 2 grown children who are also productive members of society.
my message for the newly blind in one eye is this: pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get on with life. you are SO lucky not to be blind in BOTH eyes!!! especially if you are young, do not use your impairment as an excuse not to succeed or not to accomplish goals in life. where there is a will, there is a way. i am a perfect example -- not just because of my injury but also because my family had no money to educate me and i had 3 other siblings. i,myself, found the way to accomplish my goals, with my family's blessing and support, and anyone else who WANTS to do this can do it, too.
Anyone who wants can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org for suggestions or advice. I'll try to answer everyone.
Re:blind in one eyePosted by jenelle11 on 1/21/2009 at 10:12 PM
hello, my name is ashley and i wanted to share my story to anyone who may be in the same situation as myself. In 2006 i was in an auto accident and lost my left eye; i was 18 years old and i had just graduated from high school on my way to start college. I had so many emotions going through my mind because i felt like one my boyfriend at the time wouldn't love me and that people would look at me differently. After getting my prosthetic eye i felt a little more confident with myself because you couldnt tell at all. Im about to turn 21 and i truly am blessed that when i got in my accident i was blessed not to lose both eyes. You can do anything you could do before you just have to learn how to train your eye. With time, you will understand. Im confident with who i am as a person, and i try to tell people that theres never a battle that we can not face. Just believe in faith and yourself.
Re:blind in one eyePosted by jenelle11 on 1/21/2009 at 10:13 PM
oh..and im willing to talk to anyone or even listen. if its easier to talk to a young person i can understand
Re:blind in one eyePosted by proaging on 11/21/2009 at 10:20 PM
I just set up a Google Groups at http://groups.google.com/group/blindinoneeye to enable people with vision in one eye to make connections.
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Re:blind in one eyePosted by kandiearth24 on 8/18/2010 at 12:16 AM
I got attacked and lost my eye at abut age 22. I am now 29. I have just completed school and have a degree in nursing. When people speak to me i prefer them to lok at me in both eyes even though sometimes i feel self conscious. I am told it looks like a lazy eye. And no one believes i have one eye. It is difficult for me because my brain works fine and since i look normal i am told not to tell anyone as it will affect my career. I stumbled on this site as I have only seen someone like me once. People with one eye can live productive lives , I drive and take care of ppl for a living and would like to go back to become a doctor or nurse practisioner. Any advice is strongly appreciated.
Re:blind in one eyePosted by thomasmalcolm15 on 2/26/2011 at 3:29 PM
Hey, I'm in highschool and have been blind in my right eye since birth. I have primary hyper plastic vitrius, also I have acute angle closuer glaucoma with nistagma. So from time to time, when I am talking to someone face to face, my eyes begin to shake and I can not concentrate. Also, my right eye, which is blind, is of a lighter color and noticeably smaller. I HATE when someone looks directly in my left eye, the eye I can see out of. My advice is that you look at both eyes, its will make him/her more comfortable. DO NOT make any negative comments about his/her eye. I believe that you won't, you seem like you have respect. Just my point of advice. He or she I'd no different then you when it comes to communication, hope this hellps!
Re:blind in one eyePosted by loveshaynaflint on 9/29/2011 at 2:04 PM
My name is Shayna and when i was little, about 4 or 5. I had a retna detachment in my left eye. being so young i just ignored it and didn't tell anyone. By the time doctors had noticed abnormal vision, it was to late and i had lost complete vision in that eye. A few years later in the first grade, I had yet ANOTHER retna detatchment in my right eye...the only eye with vision. Thankfully, i spoke up as soon as it happened and the doctors saved my vision. I'm still very young...only 14. Because i have no vision in my left eye, it's lazy and i can't tell you how much i hate that. People ask me why don't i just get contacts? because contacts can lead to infection, which can cause me to go completely blind and my doctor doesn't want that to happen. But I've been pushing for contacts for about 3 years now...I think i know the risks better than anyone. It should be my decision right?
Re:blind in one eyePosted by baileydenison on 2/27/2012 at 4:28 PM
Wow i had no idea there were more people like me out there. Im only 18 and im about to go college. I am really nervous because everyone in my high school knows about my accident. When i was in the 3rd grade i was shot by a gun rickashay. I have not seen in my left eye since. I still played all the sports i wanted to, i was cheer captain of my varsity squad, i have had plenty of boyfriends, and i havent let it ruin my life. It wasnt always easy though. I finally got contacts and i love them:) i hope you all feel beautiful and handsome. what happened to us made us who we are now. It wasnt our fault, we cant change it. So i have just learned to treat it as a blessing:)
Re: blind in one eyePosted by KatarinaBallerina on 3/31/2013 at 7:47 PM
I am a freshmen in high school. I lost my eye completely when i was 8 years old due to glaucoma, high pressure, PHPV, retinal detachment and several other factors. Now i wear a prothesis in my left eye. I am a pre-professional ballerina and train several hours a day in hopes of turning professional one day. Being blind in one eye makes it very difficult to hold my balance and turn as every other dancer could do without even thinking twice about it. It can get extremely frustrating sometimes. However this experiences has taught me to be thankful for what i have. ALso i am beginning to drive soon and am curious if an extra mirror will help my driving?
Re: blind in one eyePosted by rpb1984 on 6/4/2013 at 2:07 PM
Extra mirror could be cool. I've wondered about that too.
Re: blind in one eyePosted by LifeIsFragile on 6/29/2013 at 6:22 PM
I am new to this site, & glad I found it. My heart goes out to those with vision loss, & blindness. I was 13 years old when one of my brothers shot me in the right eye with a b*b gun, at about 20' away. As a teenager I had two major surguries to save the eye (4 hr. retina re-attachment was one of them in 1977) & to present day I am still legally blind in that eye, due to excessive scar tissue. Since the 1970's I have since had two muscle tightening surgeries, to make the eye properly allign with my left good eye. I am now 54 years old & my vision in that eye remains the same, light & dark is all I can see. I really hope that anyone who has lazy eye as I did before the muscle tightening surgery, can get the surgury performed to properly allign both eye's. I went through jr. high & high school being teased & harrassed, & had quite a complex. It took a long time before I could ever stare someone straight in the eye! Children & adults alike can be mean in their comments when it eyes not alligning. I got so tired of being asked "what happened to my right eye?" Please share & do not become a recluse like I did. I grew up bitter with people, & still have problems to this day because of thoughtless comments through the years about my eyes. You have friends on this site, please share!
Re: blind in one eyePosted by brianrose1992 on 7/2/2013 at 9:04 PM
I am blind in my right eye due to having problems when I was a kid with my right eye so you can say I was born with it. So I was wondering if I can work with my problems I been out of high school for 2 years and I was just wondering what kind of work I could do with my eye problems. Thank you
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