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WHY DO MA PARENTS HAVE TO TREAT ME LIKE A CHILD WHEN IM NOT?

HELLO. MY NAME IS MELISSA AND IM 17 YEARS OLD. THIS IS MY LAST YEAR IN HIGH SCHOOL AND MY PARENTS STILL TREAT ME LIKE IM 3 YEARS OLD. I SIMPLY CANNOT TAKE IT ANYMORE. I FEEL THAT THEY ARE PUSHING ME TO DO STUFF THAT I DONT WANT TO DO. LIKE PREGNANCY? I THINK ABOUT THIS 24/7 OF MY LIFE. I THINK THAT IF THIS HAPPENS THEY WILL GET OFF MY BACK AND LEAVE ME ALONE BASICALLY. I HAVE A BOYFRIEND AND IM SCARED OF TELLING THEM BECAUSE OF WHAT THEY MIGHT DO. WILL THEY ACCEPT HIM OR NOT? MY OTHER CHOICE IS GOING AWAY FOR COLLEGE. THE ONLY PERSON THAT IM THINKING ABOUT IS MY BOYFRIEND. IVE BEEN WITH HIM FOR A COUPLE OF YEARS NOW AND I DONT WANT TO LEAVE HIM JUST LIKE THAT. PLEASE HELP ME BEFORE I DO SOMETHING ILL REGRET THANK YOU.

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Wow sorry to hear this you guys I feel the same way sometimes but if yall wanna talk email me. I want to reach out to all of ya and talk if we can! Im 22 years old myself and don't get on here much cause don't see much people around replying to things.
My email is.
thediamondintheruft.92@gmail.com


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Hi.
I'd recommend counseling in schools for those that are treated like crap. they should be able to help you.

I'm reading some of these responces and they make me sad but some like this post from this 12 year old, well you're 12 years old you're not a teen yet, but saying that. If they are being abusive you need to get help. GO to your school and get help that way if you can.
If this isn't helpful maybe try talking to them. My perrants never did this to me, yes they can be a little anoying at times doing everything for me, but I'm doing things for myself now, because I talked to them and also forsed them to realise that I can do things.
Oh I didn't do anything stupid but I did show them I can clean cook ect. And some things like parents not allowing you to see your boyfriend/girlfriend well that's just them being protective. But again if they're being abusive please get help from school or look online or call the police if you can. Abuse is wrong and horrible and should be treated as soon as you can.


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Hi Melissa

Hot sure if you will still get this post as it's been a few years, but you may be experiencing Narcissism (controlling behaviour), have a look around the internet, there is plenty of information these days. If it is not this, it is still useful to read up on this (and Aspergers Syndrome - AS) as you will know some like this I can guarantee it. I've experienced both Narcissism and AS with my in-laws, just such condescending and annoying behaviour if you don't realise what is going on.


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hey there Melissa my name is Jackie I have the same problem I am 32 years old and my mom tells me to clean my room do the dishes do the laundry and if I don't she will take my stuff away that is not fair I think parents treat us like that because life was easier when we were babies tell your mother you are not a baby anymore and those chores are for babies hope this helps


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Hii my name is mero and iam 15.before i turn 15,i was as free as a bird!! my life was good,i go out and come back...i do trouble i get grounded and then they forgive me and i never do it again....but since i turned 15...my life has turned nothing but a disaster!! iam not allowed 2 go outside...my dad started becoming soo annoying,he doesnt let me go 2 the grocery cuz apparently iam a young woman..and i have no clue whats going on in this life!!! its really annoying.....and if a do go somewhere like lets say the grocery...he has 2 send my 9 year old sister with me....bottom line is that they dont trust me..AT ALL!! they think i have a boyfriend,which is what a normal 15 year old should have....but i dont like these kinda stuff,its a waste of time....but my parents dont believe me.....sometimes i just wish i can run away!!!


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My name is Cody and I am 18 years old I have had 3 jobs never been fired never had anything lower then a b on my report card and played every sport in the book... my parents neglected me for six years and now that I am eighteen trying to force themselves on me. Its not my fault they never payed attention to me for so long I did everything to get their attention but they were to focussed on my Meth addicted brother and my younger sister but I gave them the benefit of the doubt... now that I'm almost graduating high school my parents made me move from Hawaii to California switching high schools in the middle of the year tell me I'm selfish because I have money because I worked for the government. Dad is a marine I was hired as a gs1 and promoted to a gs3 at 17 years old. Have scholarships to 4 colleges and can't take any of them because my parents want me to stay with them longer tried to move out but my parents threatened me with "you move out you can't come back!" Which is dumb because I can for sure support myself and they know it and my dad made me quit my job and now I can't make any of my own choices like I used to do when they left me alone... you can't neglect someone for so long and then decide you rule over them right!!! Now I do not have a job my parents take the rest of my money they don't trust me... won't allow me to renew my license get a car because they know I will just take off... they are afraid of me leaving because they know I can support myself... what do I do!!!!


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My name is Cody and I am 18 years old I have had 3 jobs never been fired never had anything lower then a b on my report card and played every sport in the book... my parents neglected me for six years and now that I am eighteen trying to force themselves on me. Its not my fault they never payed attention to me for so long I did everything to get their attention but they were to focussed on my Meth addicted brother and my younger sister but I gave them the benefit of the doubt... now that I'm almost graduating high school my parents made me move from Hawaii to California switching high schools in the middle of the year tell me I'm selfish because I have money because I worked for the government. Dad is a marine I was hired as a gs1 and promoted to a gs3 at 17 years old. Have scholarships to 4 colleges and can't take any of them because my parents want me to stay with them longer tried to move out but my parents threatened me with "you move out you can't come back!" Which is dumb because I can for sure support myself and they know it and my dad made me quit my job and now I can't make any of my own choices like I used to do when they left me alone... you can't neglect someone for so long and then decide you rule over them right!!! Now I do not have a job my parents take the rest of my money they don't trust me... won't allow me to renew my license get a car because they know I will just take off... they are afraid of me leaving because they know I can support myself... what do I do!!!!


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hey! im 16 years old i'll be !& in 3 months and i have a boyfriend we have been together for almost 4 months and i cant go anywere with him or be with him along! i dont understand why my father has to be so tough on me. its like he dont trust me and he refuse his little girl to grow up! and i dont understand why!!!!!!! he dont even want to meet my boyfriend or anything! can someone help me please!!


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i cant belive this why wat did i do wrong in my life 18 years old i cant do anything in my life i cant enjoy my life i feel like a stupd dog im not allowd to do anything i cant put make up on or nothing thir always ignoring me when they need something from me they all nice and shat they treat me like a african american slave :'((


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hi im hamida im 18 and there treating me like crap y i cant do anything like other teens do i cant have a phone,car,go out with my bff everything i cant do i swear i hate me life i only stay home and clean :((


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It can be tough dealing with parents. They typically have your best interest in mind, but sometimes they can be over protective. It is important to discuss this with them, but also to demonstrate that you are maturing. There are a number of ways to do this:
1. By taking responsibility - doing chores - clean your room and the house/apartment. Do you have chores or things that you are responsible for completing at home?
2. Do you ever cook dinner?

Basic idea - take responsibility, show them that you are maturing.

Abuse - I don't know what kind of abuse you are talking about. Abuse is not alright, if you are being abused, then you should talk to someone you trust. There are a number of resources out there on abuse. Abuse is no joke.

I hope these thoughts are helpful.

Sincerely,
Joe S.
AFB Staff


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I am 17. My mom doesnt let me wait in the car by myself, take a walk around my neighborhood. I don't have texting she takes my phone away at 9 at night and checks my calls. Makes me go to church. Makes me go to the gym. When I am upstairs and she wants something shell tell me to get something for Her when it's one room away from her. She expects me to get perfect grades even though I'm in highschool/career working towers my LPN. She makes me go to sleep at 10, when I say I'm gonna nap she checks on me to make sure I'm really sleeping, won't leave me alone at home. Watches me walk out to the bus every morning. She was also abusive in the past. Shes killed my self esteem and I hate myself because of her. I can't deal with it.


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hi im fransha an im 11 years old an my damn dad is treatin me like im 1 plez get this bitch away from me


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Hi, My name is Morgan and i am just shy of 13. I was looking at a different responce, and I saw yours. If all the stuff that you listed about your dad is true, then that is phycal child abuse. Your father can, and sould be arested for that. He does not treat you like a child, more of like an "anger doll" that he can just throw around whenever he pleases. I strongly suggest you go to the poliece, or call D.I.F.U.S. i dont know their number, but they can help. their job is to help children (sorry for using the word "child", i h8 it 2) who have abusive parents. You dont deserve to be treated like mud and you have a right to be treated like a human. Like i said, as soon as you read this, i suggest going to, or calling, the poliece. they can help. Parents abusing their child is a crime, like murder.


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Hi my name is Khadijah im 15 years my mother treated me like im a child to and its was getting very fustrating. Everyone told my mother to keep a close eye on me because i was very quiet.one day i told her that i have a boyfriend, so she wanted to meet him, when she meet him she found out that he smoke and has a misterminer on his record. She didnt kick me out the house, she told me i couldn't see him anymore and to break up with him,but i told her no because i been with my boyfriend for 3 years and i also told her that i loved him. so she got so pissed off and tryed to get my tubs tied because she though i was having sex when i wasnt. Befor she could do that i moved out the night she was sleeping, i couldnt move with my boyfriend because she knew where he lived so me and him went off together and never went back.....


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im not a child


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Being free is a great feeling. Doing whatever we want to do whenever we want to do it is awesome. Especially not having someone around constantly checking up on me. But not when I get in trouble and have to pay the consequences. I am 17 yrs old. When I was 15 my friends invited me to a party and my parents said no because they were not comfortable with my friends. They felt my friends were too rude and disrespectful by staying out late at night, not calling their parents, partying too much, and sometimes smoking cigarets and drinking beer. I used to get made at them all the time because I did not like them telling me what to do. Then one night two of my friends stole our neighbor's car and went on a joy ride. Now my two friends are dead. Their parents let them stay out late and now they are dead. My parents never told me I told you so, but I know they are right because they always tell me that they are responsible for me and everything that happens to me. That means they love me. I guess my friends parents did not love my friends enough to be strict with them and tell them they cannot stay out late. Now my friends are dead.


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I know........I am 40 years old, remarried and my parents still treat me like a little girl. There are so many times I would like to just scoop up my husband and run away. I know I am the only daughter but there comes a point that they just have to let go. The more they nag me about something the less I want to do it. Yes, I know that sounds like a child but we own our home, he works all the time and so do I.


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Fuck that shit! I have the same fucking problem. Melisa, guess what? I am 16 years old and I have never even been on a walk by myself. My name is Sarah, I live in California. I have never even been to a fucking party before! Isn't that pretty fucked up? It is weird, I go bungee jumping, and ride roller coasters, but yet I can't even go anywhere by myself. Whenever I go to the store or anywhere else with my mom, she makes me hold her hand the whole time. Isn't that just going way too fucking overboard? My mom is vry paranoid about murderers, obductors, and fucking child mollesters. Oh yeah, and she watches too many fucking murder shows. I don't think that I will even be on my own when I turn 18. What should I do?


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omg i 17 yeas old i just had a baby 2 months ago and i can't wait till i'm 18 my parents tell me what to do with my child if i can take her here an there who can watch her i have 9 months till my birthday i don't think i can last im trying so hard not to take the baby and run but then when i turn 18 and i move out im scared shell take me to court to take my child away from me but she still tells me what to do and i trying to be an adult but no i still have to be 5 years pold to them im sick of this bull shit


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Hi my names Ryan and i have an asshole for a father he treats like im 6. he is always on my back about things especially school. and he constantly flaunts his position over me. he tells me that i doesn't matter what i think like he's a king and all that matters is him and what he think s and feels. sometimes i feel like he only had me to show off like he's a big family man when he's not he always takes his aggresion out on me throwing into walls and choking me and then acts like nothing is wrong and trys to be my friend also when ever he does listen to me he says things like "oh im moving out becouse you hate me" or "you dont love me i might as well just die " i cant stand it . i love him but i hate the way he acts. it's very hard for me to talk to him because he blows up and attacks me. I am always depressed and i've thought about taking my own life but im scared to do it and i dont know how many times i ran away from home.it all just makes me want to die. somebody help me i dont know what to do>


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I FUCKIN LOL'D


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OMG IM SO MAD IM 18 YEARS OLD AND I CANT STAND MY PARENTS ESPECIALLY MY DAD ...THEY TREAT ME LIKE A LITTLE KID WHEN IM NOT ..FOR EXAMPLE THE ONLY REASON WHY I BECAME MEMBER HERE CUZ IM SO FRUSTRATED BECAUSE TODAY I SAW THIS SHOES ONLINE CONVERSE HIGH TOPS N I TOLD THEM I WANNA BUY THEM N THEY ARE LIKE OH U CANT BUY THEM CUZ U GNA LOOK LIKE PUNK WTF IM NOT EVEN PUNK I DONT EVEN HAVE THAT STYLE I DRESS FROM ABERCROMBIE N HOLLISTER IF I WEAR EXTRA HIGH TOPS CONVERSE THEY NOT GNA MAKE ME LOOK LIKE PUNK N WHO GIVES A SHIT EVEN THO IF I DRESS LIKE U PUNK WHO THE FUCK ARE THEY TO TELL ME WHAT TO DO ..IM SO MAD RIGHT NOW IM 18 N I FEEL LIKE 10 YEARS OLD IM OLD ENOUGHT TO KNOW HOW TO DRESS AND WHAT I WANT , THEY TREAT ME LIKE KID OH U CANT BUY THOSE THEY ARE UGLY SHUT DA FUCK UP I CANT STAND THEM ...ANY HELP HERE GIRLS :(


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hey im 13 my nicknames payasito n damn i got da worse dad ,, my mom went back to el salvador so my dad juzz keepz gettin worse 4real ,, if i go walkin around my dad starts screamin my name in like a public area n shit it pisses me off n its really imbarasin ,, n when i get in trouble in school he actz like i messed up like a shit load of times wen it wus once in about a month ,, then he wants 2 tell me i cant wear clothes that i wear alot n that i like alot ,, yeah i wear sum baggy clothes so wut iz me whoz wearin it not him ,,, i wear xxl t shirtz n he doesnt like them but i do ,, then he starts actin all lovey n shit in front of all my friends really messed up ,, he pissed me off so much ,, one time he wanted 2 put n extra hole on my belt cuz my pantz were low n im sayin no n he starts freakin punchin me hard like shyt like as if i wuz his size n i was gonna run away but he had me by the coller n wuz still hittin me ,,, actin like he got the right 2 do that
4real i need sum help cuz 1 more time n ,,a mi vale madre me voy por la calle


My family treats me as a kid.



Hi my family treats me as a kid and
I am 20 years old. Were ever I go they
keep a eye on me. Also they treat me as
a dog.


My family treat me as a dog



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my parents treat me the same way and i am tired because i am 19 years old i do not what to do with them..............


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well i am 19 years old and sometimes my parents treat me as s child and they like to embarrased me in front of my friends i love them but sometimes i do not want to be with them iam really tired and also they want me to do and wear clothes like them. we just can use skirt.......
i do not what to do


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Hi I'm ariana I'm 17 ...I got pregnet by my boyfriend & had a abortion cas I knew my mom would go crazy but she found out anyways lookin through my things .. If I would have known I would have kept that baby n that kills me everyday of my life n she rubs it in my face...Lets jus say I'm not the greatest daughter but I'm not completly lost I love my family and have goals in life all I asked for was a little more freedom and trust n she never had that 4 me..my mother makes it completly imposible to live at home I mean she physically abuses me when I don't do what she wants and verbally she never talks she yells. everyday I go to sleep crying. She never gets over anything or tries to move on. she wants me to leave my boyfriend n not have friends n to do only what she says ..one day I was hangin out with my friends n she wanted me home at a certin time so she calls n says she's in the hospital wen she was fine at home..but the way she treats me is another thing at times I feel she needs phyclogical help and our relationship is such a bad and abusive relationship I can't take it. next month I can leave ill be 18 but I'm afriad she will cut me off no car.. no money for school I'm afraid I won't make it alone ..and I do want to go to school. So that worries me but I can't take this house anymore I don't feel like its mine...she has everyone against me. I don't know what to do!!??


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ok first stop thinking about a child your seventeen and having a baby is a big responsibility. its a whole new perspective. Almost like graduating high school when your out you wish you could have done more. Its the same feeling when you get pregnant especially when you havent lived life for you outside of highschool yet. I am not joking. live your life first.. seriously cause you cant do that when you have a baby. It will be all about the baby when its born doing things for yourself will be close to impossible. until the baby turns a certain age. at your age 18..19..20 these years are the most important when it comes to your freedom and boyfriends and your life. live it live it free.. take these times to get to know the person your with closely while your in college cause it will determine if he truly want to be with you years beyond.


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why cant you go to your boyfriends college?


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i am 16 yrs old and a junior in high school....i have a boyfriend....nd we are realli close...my mother checks up on my phone calls on my fone bill and she doest want me 2 talk 2 him....and she threatens that she would call his mother....nd talk 2 her about the late night calling..i would understand if i was a bad student and i have bad grades but i got an 81 GPA on my report card...and she acts as if she has 2 choose my friends for me ...when yet all i want her to do is understand that he realli is my only friend and its not easy 2 talk 2 her because she always yells all the time........


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hi , i have a big prob with my family. they seam to treat me like a 4 year old and try to make me do stuff that i shouldnt b doing at all. i know its wrong what they r trying to make me do but i cant tell them no??? they have treated me like this since i was 16 , they give me no brake . i have a job and a gf i take care of . i got my own responabilitys at the house and starting to pay rent there . but they still insist on treating me like a kid. what should i do about this??? i have ben trying to figure this out 4 the past 2 years. i have ben doing everything right in my life so far, i have grown up so much in my life but they dont notice me at all until they want to yell at someone , they always yell at me and tell me to get out of there house and i do nothing wrong at all. but when my brother can do all kinds of stuff wrong and he is 18 they dont say nothing to him about it at all. he could basicaly get away with murder and they wouldnt do nothing to him. what should i do ?? plz try to help me out with this mess i am confused and lost on how my parents r treating me . thank u so much 4 taking the time out of ur way to read this . thx bye by:steven


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hi my name is morgan I am 13 years old and feemail and all so blind, yes I know how it feels, some times my dad will want to play littel kid hand games or stuff like that with me, but he duz not like to fakt that hes little girl is a tean and doing stuff on her own now, but I just let him do it any ways, cuz I don't se him very much cuz my perints are devorst, even thoe I may not like what he duz, I still let him cuz I tresher every momint I get with him, he duz not know cuz we don't see each other, just know that you might be mad at your mom and dad, but there probebly trying alot! And remember if u need to talk I am hear for u, I plzzz if u need to talk, im hear for ya!


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Melissa, this sounds like a question to me for you to ask your parents individually, as you are now a young adult. So ask the parent like you are a yound adult. You maybe surprised to learn and understand a loving caring parent or two. maybe. Besides, I dare you. smile
please post the results, good and bad. thanks dreams float joe


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As a parent, I treat my children based on how they act and on the basis of how they handle responsibilities. Sometimes parents tend to forget that the once adorable cute baby is no longer a baby but a beautiful opinionated growing young person who will soon be an adult. So be patient because neither parents nor kids come with "how to" manuals.

It may feel to you that your parents treat you like a three year-old but take a step back and look at your actions--are you acting like a three year-old? If you feel like your parents are pushing you to do something that you shouldn't do then maybe you are not ready to be treated as an adult. Parents never push their children into a bad situation--remember that you make those choices yourself and therefore, you should accept responsibility along with the consequences.

This is part of growing up. Don't be afraid of what your parents will say--could it be that you don't communicate with them on a daily basis? First try to talk to them about school, daily activities and once you feel comfortable you can introduce the "friends."

Remember nothing happens overnight, it takes time, patience, lots of understanding, love and even more than 3 tries. By NO MEANS--DO NOT do something you will regret. You may also want to talk about counseling sessions just for you or with the family. This might be helpful in beginning the communication process.

I have an eighteen year-old daughter and an eight year-old son and they always say, "You are treating me like a baby."
We may not have parents of our choice and sometimes parents do not make the right choices or even know what's best for their kids but remember that you have the right to ask for help--you've taken that step by reaching out.

I hope this helps you. Keep positive and keep me posted.

Concerned mom :)



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Can't your boyfriend go away to college, too?


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