i have a Lazy Eye

Posted by J79 on 2/22/2005 2:02:18 PM.

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by iamjoyous2003 on 03/02/2005
  
  honey i had that too, all my life, until i was about your age, then i had it corrected, pleae get it done, your inseurites will fade away, its incredible to know you can look someone in the eye and they dont look past themselves to see what you are looking at.. been there, done that. im sure the surgery could be done outpatient.. but do it, how ever you can.. you will never regret it.. it made my self esteme go way up.. and really improfed my life.. i really feel bad for you..i know your suffering and pain / perhapes yo ur insurance would cover it if your dr could say it was for emotional purposes instead of cosmetic.. well, anyway, good luck, you can contact me anytime, if you wanna talk... iamjoyous2003 at yahoo
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by garrett07 on 04/10/2005
  
  My eyes cross as well. I typically wear sunglasses with a mirror tint and dark tint so no one can see where my eyes are looking (or not, actually). I find it helps the comments die until my guide dog goes into harness. lol.
  
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  Posted by fairie71 on 06/10/2005
  
  hi...when i read your message, my heart fell to my stomach, cause i know how you feel. i always position myself to not have to look at anyone directly, where possible, and i wear dark sunglasses as well when i can. what kind of treatment were you thinking of to have this potentially corrected. Could you please provide me with this info. it is nice to hear from someone else that understand how i live every day.
  
  
  

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  Posted by sandypaj2 on 12/02/2005
  
  I work in a high school as a counselor and every now and then when the kids "hate" me that's the first thing that will shoot out of their mouth, a remark about my crooked eyes. Each time it happens, my heart drops into my stomach. It is something that I haven't fully accepted about myself, would like to change and I guess that's why it bothers me so much. And when comments like that are made I feel like crap about myself, and then I have to reming myself of the wonderful person that I am and that it is that individual that has the real problem, not me.
  
  For the most part, people think that I am wonderful as well. I am a good person and have outstanding qualitites, having a lazy eye usually does not fit into the equation when describing me.
  
  Confront it head on. "What's wrong with my eyes you ask? Well, I can't see so good in one eye and the muscles have become weak and it wanders to the side. Any questions? Thanks for asking me instead of commenting on it." Saying stuff like that helps when people make comments about my eyes, especially children. It doesn't make me feel any less unfomfortable, but it does help that I don't freak out or seem bothered.
  
  I hope I was able to help in some way....
  
  

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  Posted by Gunit517 on 01/02/2006
  
  I ahve a lazy eye. I am gonig to high school. Wat should do to over come the fact I have an lazy eye. if there is some cure to it or operation can you pleae help me.
  
  

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  Posted by Gunit517 on 01/02/2006
  
  I have one more thing why am I the one to get an lazy eye. Am is supposed to make a dffrence. my lazy eye is a curse . Please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  
  

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  Posted by Gunit517 on 01/02/2006
  
  I have an lazy. I am afraid Ill be made fun o in high school. How can I stand up for my s. Is htere a operation pleaselet me know.
  
  

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  Posted by daredevilish on 01/06/2006
  
  I see that most of those posts were quite old, but I am motivated to respond. I am turning 26 in a few weeks. I have been struggling with my lazy eye's, that's right both of them, for as long as I can remember. I have some sort of rare vertical deficiency. I believe it is called disassociatve vertical deficiency. My eyes do not work as a team and when one image is suppressed in my brain the corresponding eye turns up and in.
  
  I struggle in social situations, at work, and at school. I am a MBA student and consider myself successful for a person my age. I reached a point in college where I decided that I would allow myself to stand in the way of my goals. I had a vision of the way I wanted my life to be, but was constantly creating excuses concerning why I would never make that vision become a reality.
  
  I was depressed for a few years and got tired. I got tired of hiding behind my insecurities. I secluded myself from the world. I knew I was a great person (I think highly of myself) and wanted to share my talents, personality, and different outlook on life with people. I forced myself to interact with all sorts of people. I smiled a lot and gradually became confident with who I am.
  
  The only advice I can give is to learn to accept yourself as you are. You cannot find tranquility in other people, food, drugs, alcohol, cutting, or anything outside of yourself. I truly believe that inner peace and meaningful relationships are what make life so beautiful. I need to remind myself how grateful I am to wake up in the morning. I try not to take for granted the fact that I am healthy and strong. There are lots of people in this world that cannot say that. If the worst thing that happens in my life is that my vision isn't perfect and that I look a little funny because my eyes aren't aligned perfectly then I will have been very fortunate.
  
  I hope this helps someone out there at least a little bit. If anyone ever needs someone to talk to feel free to email me at AndrewRGilmore@hotmail.com or on AIM at NotoriousDrew53.
  
  

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  Posted by LishaSmith on 03/17/2006
  
  hi i am now 17 years old i had the operation done when i was 14 and it has done alot better, i am quite a pretty girl (not being big headed) and my eyes had always ruined me, i have 4 sistas and none of them had alazy eye and their all pretty too it used 2 really put me down, exspecially wen i started high school and all the boys bullied me, and now all the boys fancy me lol, even the 1s dat used to bully me, but after all dat time i still cant look at people in the eyes, my best mate is always telling me to llok at her wen she talks coz it looks ignorant but i just cant get my self 2!
  
  

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  Posted by skaterchick09 on 03/17/2006
  
  im 14 and i have a lazy eye, and i hate it. i know there is an operation but is like wayyy alot of money. and i dont know if people look at my eye? i mean i hate pictures cuz well, i notice it..alot, and i hate that, and it brings my self esteem down. it really sucks!! and my eyes are pretty too, but of course my lazy eye ruins it.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by PrincessNERDY on 03/24/2006
  
  I'm 16 years old and I have a lazy eye as well. I have glasses that help my eye stay in it's place, but when I take them off I can't look at other people. I'm afraid that they'll say something to me. I'm in a cosmetology class at a vocational school and today in school I was getting my hair done and I took off my glasses. A boy named Janier in my class started making fun of my eye and called me cock-eyed. It hurt me really bad. People stared at my eye all day. When I got home from school, I cried. I wish that I could get surgery, but my mother doesn't approve of that. It sucks so bad.
  
  

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  Posted by Gunit517 on 03/25/2006
  
  I saw your comments. IT really helped me alot. Still now I cant loook at people in there eyes. I am 13 turning 14 . I know how it feels that you cant look in people eyes and it ruins your face. I ussualy jsut think how I hate my eye. Now I just realizd taht people got really worse. Are eye is just minor. People are blind and cant walk.
  
  

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  Posted by Ajax on 05/05/2006
  
  I've got the same problem...i had surgery when i was 4 or 5,i'm 18 now,and till the age of 14 everything was going reasonable good,but then it got worse again and now i have a permanent vision loss of 60% in my right eye,and i can only see 70% through my left eye,i was following boxing lessons and did some competitions,but after the age of 14 i couldnt do that anymore,and trust me when i say it really hurts that i have to give up my dream.I got a relationship messed up because of my bad eyes as well,it wasn't her fault though,i just didn't feel good enough for her so i ended it all,she was all i got.I'm not ashamed to say that i actually sometimes cry myself to sleep at nights,the mental pain and the fact that i also cant/dont have the guts to look anyone in the eyes again anymore is getting unbearable.I dont know if there is a method to correct my eyes or not,but if there is,please share it with me.I can sort of live with the vision loss,but if look in the mirror and notice my eye is bigger than the other one...well yeah,you'll get the picture.
  
  

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  Posted by Kap2v8 on 05/05/2006
  
  hi im 20 my lazy eye used to be my left but about 2 years ago i started losing the vision in my good eye now it is my lazy eye and the other one works perfectly they say its just a suppression of the brain im booked to have surgery in a few months cant wait ill get back to u to let u no wot happens
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by candimist on 05/08/2006
  
  I am turning twenty years old and it is very comforting to know that others feel the same way I have been feeling for years. The funny thing is that I am a very pretty girl except for my lazy eye and because of it my self esteem is very low. I try to hide it sometimes and I am very nerous when I have to look into someone's eyes, I am afraid that they will notice my condition and comment. I have had five surgeries to try and correct it and neither have them were 100% successful. I am willing to have another surgery if I know for sure that it will work this time. Does anyone know of anyone who had surgery that was successful?
  
  

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  Posted by skaterchick09 on 05/08/2006
  
  well you guys are lucky to get surgery, its just to much money for my parents. when i was little i use to go to therapy for my eye, so i guess it was worse. I dont even like being in pictures..because i cant smile, and i really have a low self esteem, it bothers me alot
  
  

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  Posted by skaterchick09 on 05/08/2006
  
  well you guys are lucky to get surgery, its just to much money for my parents. when i was little i use to go to therapy for my eye, so i guess it was worse. I dont even like being in pictures..because i cant smile, and i really have a low self esteem, it bothers me alot
  
  

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  Posted by nimrodfreak on 05/10/2006
  
  im a 12 year old girl as a little girl i really did not care 'cause kids never saw what was up with my eye now that im older some poeple ask whats wroung with my eye i dont say noting, but one day while i was in the bus this kid said whats with your eye? your not NORMAL i kinda want to get out of the bus and everyone started to make fun of me. sometimes i want to get it out of my life. also when i take pic. its kinda dives me nutts to see one eye bigger then the other. i want to tell kids in my school just beacuse you have a lazy eye does not mean your not normal. i feel like everyone else in school and i have feelings to. i just want people to know that people with lazy eye does mean your not normal your like everyone else after that school day i found this site and want to share with everyone that if you have a lazy eye it does not mean your not like everyone else
  
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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Gunit517 on 05/10/2006
  
  I have the same thing one bigger then other. I am 14 years old. It sucks to have it. Just rember that your lazy eye is not as wrose as being blind of cant walk so please dont take it for granted. I know it can be hard. If you wnat to contact me is at www.killerblood549@yahoo.com
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Gunit517 on 05/10/2006
  
  Sorry I dont want you too think that I am a some pysco killer that kills kids but can anybody send me a pics of there eyes so I cna relate it to mine. I am very curious. People who has the same lazy eye liek me. PLeace contact me at www.killerblood5492yahoo.com.
  I will be very pleased taht you do .
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Gunit517 on 05/10/2006
  
  Sorry I wrote my email address the wrong way it www.killerblood549@yahoo.com
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by mary6 on 05/26/2006
  
  hi,,,
  i suffer the same thingy,ohh,it sucks so bad
  when i was young,my eyes were perfect,but like a year and a half ago my left eye began getting worse,you just feel like your upper lid is puffed up a bit and no matter how hard you try to open your eye like the other one,you cant
  now im 16 ,when i went to my eye doctor he gave me wipes called 'lid care' and he said that during 3 weeks my eye should be normal again because this medication gets out all the discharge out of the eye,
  ive been using them for a week,and ive noticed quite a small difference,,,and i know how bad it makes you feel,especially when your friends comment about it IN FRONT OF EVERYONE
  i hope you can all ask about these wipes and see if they work
  
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by skaterchick09 on 05/26/2006
  
  well my eye has been like this since i was really young,and i went to therapy classes for it, also when i take pics it bothers me too, and i dont think wipes would help my eye, because its been like this forever and i had therapy, like someone else said, its not like being blind.. : /
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by dw on 05/29/2006
  
  My daughter is 7 and has a lazy eye,we've been doing patching for well over a year now,I have to fight with her to wear it,Im afraid if it doesnt correct of what the future holds for her,she just doesnt understand and wont listen.
  Her eye doctor acuses me of not even putting the patch on her but what do u do what she keeps taking it off?
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Gunit517 on 06/01/2006
  
  I had an lazy eye ever since I was born. LAzy eye is taht a musle is not fully formed or you can get it when you are oyong. I am just saying it because I think some people havea diffrent illness not lazy eye.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by merrillaray on 06/18/2006
  
  well first of all, when i read some of these things about eyes on here. im like man, people who have had corrective eye surgery some are sucessful. and then again some are not! but however, what is happening in the eye is from most likely whe you were a child. and the name for the lazy eye is the medical term amblyopia. this means that the muscle in the eye didn't form all the way to be normal. so more like a stunt in the formation of the muscle. and surgery is gonna cost you some big buck's. not unless your on some type of medical or something. now have any of you had eye surgery to correct the eye or eyes? were they at all corrected the way you wanted them to look. if not there is more things that can be done to get it right. its just a matter of time. well i hope all of you will find the right treatment that will make you a much happier person
  
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Patch2See on 06/20/2006
  
  Hi Everyone!
  
  I just wanted to let all of you know about a new eye patching resource out there where you can purchase ophthalmologist/orthoptists approved fashionable, comfortable, and machine-washable fabric eye patches. I am a mother of a child with amblyopia, and through our unsuccessful and uncomfortable experiences with other patches, I started making my own patches for my daughter. When she started wearing my eye patches, she is now seeing between 20/25 and 20/25 out of her weak eye with her corrective lenses! The specialists at out eye center were so impressed with my patches, that they encouraged me to open my own website where I could offer these to others. I offer patches that slip over the eyeglass lens and I also offer the tie-on type made from various colored denims and faux suedes. I offer many different appliqued designs or you may order them plain (for adults, or for children who want to decorate them themselves). If you need an alternative to those aweful adhesive patches, check out our story and our selection at: www.lazyeyepatches.com
  
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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Gunit517 on 06/29/2006
  
  I am just wondering. i am 14 and going to high school. I have an Lazy eye. IS it likely that I would get made fun of.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Ralph2 on 07/13/2006
  
  
  To all you people concerned about your lazy eye. I would like to remind you that there are men who actually find a lazy eye to be sexy. My wife has a lazy eye, and I have no problem with it at all, she wouldn't be the same to me without it. Barbara Eden, Paris HIlton, Lucy Liu are a few gorgeous women with lazy eye. Just remember there are all kinds of people out there. Good luck with whatever you do.
  
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Gunit517 on 07/16/2006
  
  can someone answer my question about. Will i get made fun of have a lazy eye in high school?
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Moon07 on 07/18/2006
  
  Hi everyone, i am 18 years old and well i got lazy eye of course. Anyway I feel as if i should just end my life because of this. I feel its never going to get better and my family and I cant affored it. Today was my first day at my first job...mcdonald's and well i am deathly afraid of them puting me up front and taking people;s orders because i cant look them in the eye and it really bothers me. I am a very polite person I think and i am nice to everyone i meet and talk too, well not only people at school tease me but now my brother all of a sudden out of no where when we were playing a board game, first time ever he said anything bad about it especialy by my cusins and such. then my Cusin looked at me and looked at me cross eyed, I wanted to kill my self that night because I new people didnt like me for me having a lazy but now my family... i just wanted to kill my self that night and almost did but i could not. Anyway I dont know what to do with this new job and now my family teasing me now. Sorry for the long story
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Gunit517 on 07/18/2006
  
  thanks for answering my question. I wnat to know how to fell proud of having a lazy eye. The olny thing I am proud about that I am not the worse. OSme people cant walk or talk. would ave that or lazy eye. HOw can you stick up for your self in school. I need to please. I wil be very happy if oyu response to my questions. my sn is dbnice213 at aim
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by mrg on 08/03/2006
  
  Hi everyone,
  
  When I was 4, I was "lucky" and my mother noticed my lazy eye. However, I had an awful eye doctor who didn't know much about lazy eye, so they patched me for TWO WEEKS and that was it. Growing up I thought I was fixed. Things looked fine to me.
  
  However, as I got older, I was sometimes told my eye would wander off to the side. I would kid and say "sorry, i was looking at two things at the same time." "I wish I could do that!" they would joke back. It was no big deal at all when I was a kid.
  
  But in High School, one day I got my pictures back from picture day and my eyes were crossed and I was just stunned. Did I REALLY look like this? How come I never noticed this when I looked in the mirror! So from here on, started a streak of depression. My eyes actually crossed further. I tried to strengthen my left (lazy) eye, but the downside to this was now that I could see better out of this lazy, the double vision drove me MAD. Not to mention, I think it even worsened my cross-eyed-ness. In the period of 2-3 years it got incredibly worse. At year 2 I was told my eyes were not bad enough for surgeory. But then at year 3 they asked me how come I never had this done sooner! (Just goes to show how quickly they worsened).
  
  Anyways, lucky for me, I live in Canada for surgeory was free. Although, It was not the magic I suspected it was. Even thought I my eyes were relatively straight now, my eyes still did not work together, so they would drift apart. But I was very eager to get them working together, so often in my room when on the computer I would patch my good (right) eye so my left eye would work harder. Note: Some doctors will actually tell you this is not a good idea, and sometimes it isn't. Try to do it in moderation. For me, I find my eyes can *somewhat* concentrate on the same object... but it's funny because the left eye always looks a little down and to the left of the right eye. Why it won't align perfectly, I have no idea.
  
  But even so, I am still very sociall awkward. I find people won't look me in the eye, and this really hurts me. I will say hello to my mom or dad, and they will glance at me, then look away. My heart just sinks when this happens. They are the ones that tell me "Oh, you think about it too much!" but they are the ones that give me the look like: my son is too ugly to look at.
  
  I have noticed that even though my eye is somewhat straight now, there are still a few problems. 1) I still can't perceive 3D vision like regular people. Catching things is hard, etc. 2) My left eye is puffy and looks a miscoloured. It looks almost.. dead? 3) My left eye is sort of glazed over, again, contributing to the dead look. I think these are the reason why people still have a hard time looking me in the eye.
  
  I am not posting this to say, hey, just get over it! Because you know what, even though I've gotten so far (I am MUCH better than I was just a year ago), I still cannot look people in the eye. I really want to tips to stare at people comfortable without them looking away from me. Because when they do this, this makes me just so incredibly depressed. Sometimes I can be having a blast, and then just look at someone and say something, and they awkwardly look away (a person who is usually very outgoing) and mumble something my feet. It hurts, and is a real confidence killer. But you know what, I know others here suffer through the same thing. And we should just forget what these people think! It's their fault, not ours.
  
  Let's get through this togther :) This is our life, and although it's not perfect.. it could be a lot worse!
  
  Oh and another famous person with a lazy eye: Thome Yorke of Radio Head. He has a really bad condition and girls find it "sexy." (Why don't they find ME sexy? Maybe I need that confidence! ;))
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by mom123 on 08/13/2006
  
  Hi Everyone- I can really sympathize with what you all are saying. I am 43 and have had an eye that turns one way or another my whole life! I had crossed eyes and then had surgery at 10 to correct that; then one eye began to turn out and I had surgery at age 27 to correct that- well it still turns out! I understand what everyone is saying- it is SO embarrassing and it has also really hindered my life and made me a shy person. The worst thing has been with my kids growing up- I was teased ALOT as a child and have always had such a hard time looking at children especially teens because they are the most likely to say something. I had many embarrassing and rude public situations. Since I have very poor vison in one eye- I also have no depth perception and STINK at sports- another reason for low self esteem. Now that I am older I am beginning to need glasses- and wearing the glasses makes the turning worse! Oh boy. But- for the younger people out here- I will tell you this: look into every way possible that you can to get it fixed-and if it can't happen until you are older: you need to try to not let this define you. Every single person has something about themselves that is not perfect- some are more obvious then others. Be outgoing, friendly, upbeat and happy- and people will respond well to that. Think about the people that you are drawn to- they are people who make you feel good- and not necessarily the people who look "the best". I wish so much that I had not retreated into myself in high school and college-there was a lot I should have done and did not because I let myself be too scared. Believe me- the older you get- it still hurts but it matters less. Be who you want to be and you are AS GOOD AS EVERYONE ELSE. You deserve to be happy and the older you get you get tired of worrying about it all the time, and so many people have horrible things in their life- this is bad but could be so much worse. It is great to have this forum also to talk to other people going through the same thing- I didn't have that when I was a teen and couldn't talk to anyone! Decide what you want to be known for and DO IT. I decided I wanted to be happy and funny and that is pretty much what my friends think of me. BUT-do share you feelings with your parents; things have changed and surgeries are better; many time insurance WILL pay for this. A few years ago I started a yahoo group- check that out too! "Strabismus Support" it is called. I haven't been there in a while- but there are some good things there too. Good luck to everyone- my thoughts are with you!
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by rob_21 on 08/18/2006
  
  Yo guys, I'm 21 and I've always had a slight lazy right eye. I kinda knew I had it when I was younger, but never really thought much of it. I never had any kind of treatment for it. It wasn't until I was a teenager that it really started to bother me. I feel bad because I think my eye is probably not so bad as most, but like a lot of people have said, it really hits me when I see photos of myself. I like to think i'm a good looking guy, and none of my girlfriends have ever even noticed, or at least never said anything. In fact, no one has ever said anything to me about it except my mom, she noticed it when we were on holiday when I was younger. I don't even think I realised until she said. Like I said before I know my case probably isn't that bad. I think I have it as bad as paris hilton. I tend to avoid looking directly at cameras. The worst thing for me was my grad photo. I know people must notice it, but no one has said anything. Anyway, I just wanted to know if there is any treatment besides surgery? and if surgery is even recommended for mild cases?
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by nenaBoricua on 08/19/2006
  
  hEy ppl. i thikn i got a lazy eye 2... i mean my dr sed dat it aint lazy dat it was the way my eyes were shaped. I remember wen i was like 6 or 7 that my parents used to take me to this class for my sight but at the moment i didnt really care but i took the clases and even went to a specialist. I alwasy hated using glasses growin up , i used to break them n alll.... Now that im 16 ive noticed that theres something wrong with my eye- like its in a different position than th other and i just hate it. No one had really said anything until my ex-boyfriend pointed it out one day and kinda made fun of me.... i felt so bad . My question is- can this be cured some how? wel lim making a doctors appoint during this week and i hope everything works out. I hope at least some one fels like me about this lazy eye thing and i dont understand why god made me lik this... out of so many people... why me??
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by stephg7 on 09/28/2006
  
  I've been reading everyone stories about lazy eye and I am doing everything in my power to try to fix mine and my vision. Im 24 years old and was diagnoesd with a slight lazy eye in my right eye when i was 6, i was way to stubborn to wear my glasses or my patch and now it really effects my life drastically. I am now farsighted in both eyes and have a lazy eye in my right eye. People have told me to model my whole life and think i'm crazey when they see how insecure I am about my vision but they just don't understand. Im now wearing glasses with one lens much thicker than the other but it's still doesn't seem like it's working. I've heard about vision therapy any suggestionos? stephg7@comcast.net
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by danscott03 on 10/23/2006
  
  hey im 16 n ive had a lazy eye all my life. As a kid i never really thought about it. When i was little i had many differnet things done to try n straighten my eye but nuffink worked. Once i got older i noticed that if i looked people it the eyes they would look stop looking at me and look at what my lazy eye was lookin at. Since then ive never looked any1 in the eye for long n i always try to aviod photos. This ahs really affected me as it ahs made me a shy person n as im a teenager when i want to meet girls but feel like i cant as i can look at them properly. I just need a way to fix my eyes so if any1 can give any advice it would be truly thanked
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by danscott03 on 10/23/2006
  
  if any1 wants someone to talk to about their eyes then add me plz rodneytrotter03@hotmail.co.uk we are all in the same boat so the way i see it we should all help each over
  
  thanks
  
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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by What_To_Do on 11/03/2006
  
  I am 19 and have a very hard time dealing with having a lazy eye. Ive been told by countless amounts of people that i should be a model and they dont understand i cant even look people in the eye i am soo embarrassed and ashamed i had surgery twice when i was younger to correct it but it still turns out and honestly cant stand having this. I am soo insecure about it and i have no idea what to do I find it extremely difficult to meet girls and even make new friends cus i wont look them in the eyes. I dont even take pictures because of this What can i do please help
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by missmgmnt on 11/15/2006
  
  I feel for everyone here - all the stories sound just like mine! I am almost 30 and I've had a lazy eye since birth - supposedly in my family it hits 1 in 4 and skips a generation. My father and his brothers lucked out, but out of the four of us kids I got it! As a kid I used to hate when people would ask me about it... and frustratingly enough as I grew up I learned that children are not the only people who want to know "what's up" with my eye! You'd think adults would be a bit more sensitive, but I guess not. I went on a date with a guy who just came out and asked me what was wrong with my eye in the middle of dinner. After trying to politely change the subject without calling him out as the inconsiderate jerk he was, I finally gave in and told him it was just what I was born with! I mean, I don't get it - I don't walk around going "Hey fatty, why you so big?" or "Hey baldy, what happened to all your hair?" So why do people think it's ok to point THIS out? As a young child I had several surgeries to correct it but the damn thing just won't stay put! After years of forcing myself to "see" through my bad eye, I am now finally able to control it for pictures and brief conversations with people, but I often have to look away when I feel my control slipping. I get very dizzy ad get a lot of headaches. Glasses don't help the lazy eye either - just the vision in my better eye. I was going to get a botox shot in my eye about two years ago that would have helped to keep in stable - my eye doctor recommended it and insurance would have covered it too because of the headaches, but I never went through with it. Maybe someday...
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Albusure on 11/21/2006
  
  Yes I know how you feel. Every day I think about killing myself because I hate living with the embarisment. I wear dark glass at all times and people think that I am trying to be cool, or that I am high. In the bussiness world, I think that my vision my hurt my career. I just dont know what to do. I pray for help but it never comes. I have had to live like this since I was 12. The day my eyes began to turn out my life has never been the same. I have never been the same person. It seems like the day my eye turned out, I died. I know that there is a 4% chance of being born with a lazy eye and of all of the millions of people in the world, why me?
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Acire on 11/25/2006
  
  Hi!
  My name is Acire. I too have a lazy eye. I have went through hell in back because of my "crazy eyes". I was suicidal at 15 and forever scared. But though the chaos, I have come to accept my eyes, even though I look at them everyday wishing for them to be normal. For those who are considering surgery, I have had four operations for corrections. All four turned out to failures. The surgeries have made my eyes fragile. I had my first two surgeries in the first 5 years of my life. Before high school i decided to "be normal", and try for a surgery. They surgery made one eye crossed. I was TOURMENTED thought my freshman year. The summer of my 10th grade year, I had my last surgery. It returned my eyes to be lazy. But this time there not as far out as they were. If you want to try surgery, go head! I'm just warning you not to get excited and know it doesn't always work. If anyone wants to talk for support or even about surgery email me at. :D!!
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by prettyxgirlx on 11/25/2006
  
  I have a lazy eye. i am now in 9th grade and cant stand my eye sometimes. I have had it since i was little but im still now use to it. I have contacts now and it sometimes corrects it to where i can talk to people or take pics and nobody will notice it.but i can and everytime i talk to someone it hurts to look at them strait in the eye because i figure that im not .I still cant stand lookin in the bathroom mirror unless there are all lights off and i have a pound of makeup on...My mom says i need counseling but i think its just the eye
  
  anybody in the same position as me?
  IM me on aim
  prettyxgirlx69
  
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  xoxchicwitluv
  i need the advice im starting to think about worse things to do day after day
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by sdizzle on 12/27/2006
  
  hey i have kinda the same problem as everyone else im missing a muscle in one of my eyes so if i look in different directions the bad eye over corrects and it goes the other direction looking like a lazy eye. theres a really long name for it but i cant remimber it. theres no surgery for it so im kinda screwed. it sucks cause i cant look people in the eyes because of how afraid i am about my eye being crossed. it really messes with your self esteem and makes it hard to talk to people making me shy and usually depressed.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by eric blankenship on 01/01/2007
  
  i have a lazy eye in both eyes. it used to be just one when i was in the special forces in the af. now it is both. i can at will-not use either one and my eyes will float away from each other and my kids get a kick out of it. i have to blink severl times to line them back up. i have also have problems with retinopthy in both..leakage of small blood vessals ...whic cause little black spots on my eyes...no one knows what has cause any of this.. i have high blood pressure, high colestoral, sugar test higher level they say border line, i have joints in my fingers that hurt, i have bone spurs in my shoulder and i get pinched nearves in my neck on both sides...does anyone have a clue what is wrong with me...is it arthritis, is it just getting old etc..both of my grandparents had arthritis..one had rhemintory arthritis and the other had osteauthritis...so who knows...sometimes my shoulders hurt really bad as well and knuckles...please email me if you have a clue..eblanken111761@aol.com. my doctor just puts me on meds without any answers...plus sometimes i can feel my hear beating realy fast and then i get tremors on one side of my body that goes away after a time period..please help me find out what is wrong with me..email me at eblanken111761@aol.com
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by righteye on 01/17/2007
  
  A lot of you are asking why god made you this way and what is wrong with you, the only thing wrong with you is the way you treat yourselves. Just because people give you looks and kids are insensitive to it doesn't mean you need to bash yourself up and scream in front of the mirror. I've had lazy-eye since I was 9, I have a rare situation in which my eye didn't turn lazy until I was a little older. At my job I work with a lot of kids and young adults who give me weird looks and make rude comments but the point is to not get discouraged. My friends have told me that it makes me stand out and that I have something that not just anybody can.
  I am still self-conscience about my lazy-eye, from time to time I wish I didn't have it but I will never blame god or myself for it and I will NEVER commit suicide or have suicidal thoughts about it.
  This upcoming week I'm going to the doctor to try and get surgery, I've made the desicion based on my career choice and the fact that I would like to be a little more confident. No body should pressure surgery on themselves or anyone else. I'm gonna do this for me, I've tried vision therapy, the patch, and a few "remedies" that have all failed. Hopefully surgery will work and I can come back with good news.
  Bottem line, don't let lazy-eye ruin your life.
  
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by ibanez20 on 01/23/2007
  
  wow when i first did a search on this i had no idea there were so many pple out there like me...i just graduated high school... i'm 20 yrs old and no future cause of this..
  i myself have "lazy eye" most pple call it hunchback ... i was actually my childhood cause of the way i looked when i was achild... i was just wondering have any of u tried patching your eye and just being crucial with it..you know leaving it on 24/7 .. cause i was thinking if i took my stronger eye out and had to live with my lazy eye..evetually it will have str8tened out....right?
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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by lazyeye007 on 01/26/2007
  
  Good evening everyone I am a male and my age is 35.I also have lazy eye and was made fun of through out my childhood just like all of you.Basically I have one eye bigger than the other.The amazing part of it all is that I can actually see with my weaker eye but only when my dominant eye is closed.The reason that I am writing this letter is to let all of you know that I am currently searching around for a special lense that makes my smaller eye look equal size as my "good eye".This is only a cosmetic upgrade if you would.I know that if I can accomplish this optical illussion it would change my life forever.You would think that at age 35 I would have gotten over this but not yet.I have problems looking at people straight in the eyes fearing that they will point it out and embarrass me like so many other times.Well I will keep you posted and feel free to give me any info if anyone finds this blessing somewhere.God bless to all.
  
  

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  Re:I have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by pimp26greatness on 02/05/2007
  
  Come on people, cheer up. I'm 26, and I was born with a lazy eye. Hell yea, It was hard growing up with it. I come to realize, God made people like us, the elite, the people who will set the stage for greatness. I can't tell you how much power this Lazy Eye gives me, I love looking people in the eye, makes them turns there heads, and I be like, you can't look at me in my eye? I be laughing, and the people who do give me a steraight look, gives me props for confidence. I swear to God, i get so many women with my confidence, gotta have faith, look good, dress good, it's all about your mouth piece.. Maybe it's me, I have the Gift of Gab. Keep Ya' Head Ya'll, Lazy Eyes makes us the Elite.. Famous Peeps who have Lazy Eyes, Biggie Smalls, Sticky Fingaz, the guy from Onyx who plays Blade in the Mini Series. So come on ya'll snap out of it.. All you gotta do is play sports, or exercise your eye, it will strengthen for mayb an hour , plus wear sunshades, whatever it may be. Lazy Eye's makes us the people that turns us into legends.. Take Heed to what I say.. It's a Beautiful thing peace!!!
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Bubby on 02/05/2007
  
  I had a lazy eye since I was a kid, but only found out when I was 18. My opticians never noticed my condition. It was a friend that noticed when I took my glasses off; apparently my eye start ‘wondering’. She didn’t really explain to me what a lazy eye was. I thought she was referring to my right eye, because it always went into the corner when I looked in the mirror at my left eye. I didn’t take much notice until another person mentioned it 20 minutes later. I was a bit offended that people were making comments about the appearance of my eyes, but decided to research it for myself.
  
  After I found what I was looking for, I compared my vision with what I had read, and realised that what I had chose to ignore when I was prescribed glasses at the age of the 9 was not normal vision; only half of it. Of course I had no idea what normal vision was because I never had it. When trying the glasses I had wondered why I could hardly look though my left lens, without saying anything I decided that it was because the lenses were so big that I could not look through 2 lenses at the same time. I really wish I had told someone now, but maybe it wouldn’t have helped anyway.
  
  I was always made fun of from the beginning to the end of my school life. I couldn’t understand what was wrong with me and neither could anyone else, because its so bad it doesn’t try to look anywhere so doesn’t turn. One person in highschool did notice my condition when I was 14, but just told me I had a lazy eye. I said ‘I know’ but I thought she just meant that my eyes weren’t straight. Well if she really knew what a lazy eye was she’d have understood why I was so bad at P.E. Because of it I’ve hardly ever enjoyed any part of my life, and ever since I’ve known I can’t relax without trying to find cures for it or wanting to commit suicide.
  
  I still fail to notice big or little things and people think I’m stupid. I’ve lost all my confidence and avoid the type of people I could normally prefer to speak to because I see myself as inferior to them, and if I do I get really nervous. I have always had a problem with maths and it seems to be something I can’t ever improve. I just can’t remember too many things at once and make silly mistakes. Sometimes at work when I’m serving customers. If there’s a big queue I sometimes forget what I’m doing and get confused. My family thinks I’m using my eye as an excuse to be dumb, but I’m not. This happens in many other situations as well such as when i'm told to perform more than one job i simply forget what i'm told. Does anybody else have a similar problem?
  
  
  

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  i have a Lazy Eye(lazy eye doesn't have me)
  Posted by ibanez20 on 02/14/2007
  
  this is for all you...listen and listen GOOD.. i have had lazy eye for the past 20 years of my life... and the only thing that is gonna fix it is an eye patch...you gotta were it.... make yourself wear it day and night if u have to...that's the only way to strengthen the muscle....find a hobby and if u don't have one get one...i play guitar..so i hang around alot pple my lazy eye does get attention but when pple meet me it totally get's overlooked.. stop feeling sorry for yourselves.. well this is for the kids who are 12 and 14 etc...wear your eyepatch...your brain is still developing... so it should work...it may be hard at first but get over it... i wear my eyepatch cause i came up with a theory and it was kind of stupid but it worked..
  well i thought about the fact that my good eye say for instance get's blown out by a bb... now my lazy is the one that is in control right? use that knowledge and shut off your good eye for at least 3 hours a day.. look into food that gives your eyes strength such as spinach... i have had eye surgeries all my life..but your know what? most of the healing has to come from you...just like rehab with a broken leg..it doesn't get fixed right away to where u stop walking on it ..you gotta work it out everyday right...well same thing with you eye..surgeries are meant to give your lazy eye more muscle....but the rehab is gonna be crucial... but in the end it will be well worth it... trust me... stop feeling sorry. and start doing something about it..just live life... when i was little you couldn't practically see my lazy eye cause it was way way way out of the way..almost like i was rolling my eye back..but i started working on it and now i'm getting itstronger...i hate dark glasses.. i hate wearing sunglasses.... i hate covering up who i am... so i don't do it... i'm 20 years old..i plan to have a life..have a wife..get married..have kids... so yup..that's all i gotta say...if you wanna email me kool..my email. is kirk_hammett_1234@yahoo.com
  
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by gina1234 on 02/18/2007
  
  Hello lazyeye007 what cosmetic lenses are you using? Pls let me know thanks.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by ericbell40 on 02/18/2007
  
  Yeah, i'm 16 years old, and i have a lazy eye in my Right eye only. It's only really noticeable when i take my glasses off. And even then, my right eye only turns when i focus on something sharply. It will happen sometimes when i have my glasses on too. But not that much. Only when im tired, or stressed does it turn when glasses are on. When i was younger i patched, and it has helped some what. But i want to correct this for good. even if i cant see that well in my right eye, i'd still want to be able to have a straight eye. I'm a good looking kid, who has a very good future, and i dont want my "lazy eye" to interfear with my dreams. i've tried to pray to god, and he has helped some, but i want some more answers, so please! help me as i am suffering just like you all are. SO, i'm going to ask a few questions and i would like a response please! My first question is, Is there a cure!? surgery or any other method. Can someone with a "lazy eye" were contact lenses?
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by JustMe on 02/18/2007
  
  I have had a lazy eye since I was 5 and now am almost 50, I know how everyone feels and how it can make you miserable at times. When I was younger I use to never look people straight in the eye,,,however, I now look everyone straight in the eye (at least to the best of my ability) and I have found that less people tend to notice my problem if I do that. I have also noticed that people that make cruel comments about my lazy eye are usually insecure about themselves and they are actually the person who has the worse problem. I know for young people it is especially hard to have this problem and today there are many treatments including patches (although they do not work unless they are started at a very young age), glasses, botox, and sugery. I know most of there treatments can be expensive but for those younger people, I would get a job and save up my money to have the treatment of my choice. For those that this is still not an option, I have personally learned to go with the flow. I have the money to be able to afford surgery but I am not going to get it. I have learned that life usually evens out. I have three sisters who were born perfect while I was born with a lazy eye and asthma. However now almost fifty years later, I am happily married, happily employed, and have aged better than all three of them, So, just keep in mind things could be worse and don't be too critical of yourself. By the way, Demi Moore also has a lazy eye.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by sunz on 02/27/2007
  
  Hi, I'm irish and I'm 21 and i to have a lazy eye, I often get told by girls when i go out that im quite good-looking but i just don't get it myself, i'm not being big headed just what other people say, I've had 2 serious relationships both with stunning girls one for 2 years and another for 2 and a half years. I've had my fair share of girls but its them that do all the talking to me i've no confidence to approach a girl what-so-ever. :( I've recently been thinking about surgery as I just want to get my eye straightened, my eye turns slightly in when i dont have my contacts or glasses on but even with my contacts on it still is off a LITTLE you can't REALLY notice it until photos....but it still bums me out, this week i had a girl txt me and ask me out for a drink, shes stunning and works in the coyote bar at a local club in my town, sadly i just said no as i can't stomach having to face her with my contacts in knowning that maybe if she notices it i'll just get rejected, It's starting to get to me so so bad now that i don't wanna leave the house and just sit at home all day watching t.v and playing games, I don't wanna be like this, i've had a consoltation with my eye doctor but he says he won't do the surgery as its not that bad, can he do that legally? if i go private and its for cosmetic purposes doesn't he HAVE to do it? anyway my msn is d_dday@hotmail.com if anyone wants to talk, i'll be happy to show you picturs and maybe we can get through this together, i just really want this surgery before uni starts again in september im starting to think im a failure :(
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by emma-lee wojo on 03/08/2007
  
  hi guys dont worry i have the some probem as well, i say belive in your self dont let anything or anyone put you down but yes i do agree operations dont work i have had for since i was 7 and know im 17. ive been emotional and depression since i was 13years old. ive cryed and cryed i no nothing can save me now so ive tryed to hurt myself and i diddnt want to take apart of this life anymore but than i realize there was eyepatches i say get them it really works trust me on this dont waste all of your money on a operation well i have to go if u want to talk to me about anythink i have been throught it already contact me on
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by YungLavi$h on 04/17/2007
  
  WOW IT REALLY TOUCHED ME WHEN I READ YOU GUY'S POST, BECAUSE I THOUGHT I WAS ALL ALONE AT ONE POINT. I AM A VERY HANDSOME YOUNG MAN. I HAVE ALWAYS GOTTEN PLENTY OF COMPLIMENTS ALL OF MY LIFE EVEN AS A KID, BUT ALWAYS HAD ESTROPIA.THOSE KNOW IT AS CROSS EYES. I NEVER PAYED ATTENTION TO IT WHEN I WAS YOUNGER. IN FACT ITS QUITE STRANGE BECAUSE WHEN I LOOK IN THE MIRROR MY EYES LOOK NORMAL TO ME. I SEE 2 STRAIGHT EYES LOOKIN BACK AT MYSELF, BUT WHEN I TAKE A PHOTO I CAN DEFINETLY SEE THE DIFFERENCE AND IT PISSES ME OFF. I ALWAYS GOTTEN PRETTY GIRLS GROWING UP, ALWAYS BEEN PRETTY MUCH POPULAR. IT SEEMED THAT THE OLDER I GOT THE MORE CAUTIOUS I BECAME ABOUT IT. IT DOES HURT WHEN YOU KNOW YOUR THIS GREAT INDIVIDUAL WITH ALL THESE STAR QUALITIES BUT YOUR SCARED TO SHOW IT BECAUSE OF THIS CONDITION.MY FATHER TOOK ME TO EYE DOCTORS WHEN I WAS YOUNGER AND THEY WOULD TELL HIM I WOULD GROW OUT OF IT,YOU BELIEVE THAT SHIT. I BET IF THERE KIDS CAME OUT LIKE THAT THEY WOULDNT BLOW IT OFF SO NON-CHALANTLY. MY FATHER ACTUALLY BELIEVED THEM BUT MY EYES NEVER CAME TO THERE NORMAL POSITION. I HAVE BEEN SO DETERMINED THAT I AM GOING TO PAY OFF ALL MY BILLS, AND TAKE OUT A MEDICAL LOAN FOR THIS SURGERY. IM NOT JUS ACCEPTED IT LIKE ITS ALL GOOD. IF THESE WOMAN CAN GO OUT HERE, AND GET BREAST JOBS, AND LIPO-SUCTION, WHY CAN'T I TRY TO GET MY EYES TO LOOK PROPERLY. THAT SHIT KILLS ME WHEN THE INSURANCE COMPANIES SAY ITS COSMETOLOGY.CROSS EYE IS NOT NORMAL SO HOW CAN IT BE COSMETOLOGY.I FOUND A DOCTOR IN CALI. HER NAME IS DR JOTTERAND, AND HER WEBSITE IS WWW.STRAIGHTEYES.COM.SHE HAS DONE NUMEROUS OF SURGERY'S ,SHE SAY ITS NEVER TO LATE TO GET IT DONE, SHE EVEN DONE OPERATIONS ON THE ELDERLY.IF ANYONE HAS ANY GOOD INFO OR SUGGESTIONS THEY CAN E-MAIL ME AT BOVAINJ@YAHOO.COM. AFTER I GET MY SURGERY I WILL LET YOU GUYS NO WHAT HAPPEN. STAY STRONG AND POSITIVE, AND GO AFTER WHAT YOU WANT. IF ONE DOCTOR SAY'S IT CAN'T BE DONE GO TO ONE WHO SAYS IT CAN.DON'T LET PEOPLE PERSUADE YOU TO NOT WORRY ABOUT IT BECAUSE THEY HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH THIS EYE DISORDER DRAINS YOUR LIFE EMOTIONALLY.THIS IS MORE OF A EMOTIONAL KILLER THEN A EYE DISORDER.STAY STRONG, AND STAY POSITIVE!
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Helliev on 05/18/2007
  
  hey guys. im 16.. and i have a lazy eye.. its just my right one... but its quite bad.. ive seen worse.. but mines pretty turned out. i was born cross eyed.. and i had an operation on each of my eyes. my left eye got sorted out.. but my right eye didnt. and now i cant even look people in the eye for more than two seconds without having to look away for fear of people noticing it turning out. I hate it and it makes me upset a lot of the time. I think the worst parts are when im having my photo taken with my friends... when i look over the photos.. sometimes im lucky and nothing shows up.. but most of the time all i see staring back at me is my dodgy eyes. i think im almost ashamed. also... i hate the fact i cant look into peoples eyes.. because when i come to have a boyfriend, which i dont at the moment, but when i do im afraid if i look into his eyes he'll get freaked out. i dont want that to happen. i tried eye patches when i was younger and they didnt help me one bit. i wore them for years after my operation on my right eye... but nothings improved. i dont need glasses just yet though as my left eye is strong enough to see for both eyes.. but i will do when i learn to drive. can anyone tell me.... do glasses help to focus a lazy eye? because if it does.. id get glasses right away. id do anything to improve it. i really would. please let me know on this email: .
  
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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by webergayl-52@earthlink.net on 05/23/2007
  
  I was born with a lazy eye, and sometimes I can make it
  go straight, but it gives an headache when I do that.
  The eye doctor told me to hold a pencil about a foot from
  my face and keep looking at the pencil as I bring it closer
  to about 4 inches from my face. He says I have a
  wondering eye. That is why I can make it go straight some times. My Grandmother and my Dad and aunt and
  uncle form my father's side of the family has a lazy eye.
  That is where I got it from. And I hate it.
  
  

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  Dual lazy eye
  Posted by majorstiffy on 06/01/2007
  
  I have a condition known as dual lazy eye. The left or right or both can go lazy at any time. It is not that hard to deal with if it is one or the other but if it is both it is incredibly hard to deal with. To focus on something I acctually have to jerk my head to the side while I blink so they roll over to what I want to look at. It is the worst when I am drunk but it has happened in the middle of the day when I am not drunk.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by RoseAngelKH12 on 06/05/2007
  
  I have had a lazy eye since the day i was born...I'm now 14 years old. Everyday I go to school i get at least 1 comment about my eye (ones smaller than the other) and it's really embarrassing....I get picked on because of it - I get called Cyclops and other really hurtful things like that- and everyday I cry about it,wondering, Why me? I had a corrective sugery done when i was 4 and it didnt seem to work all it did was open up my eye more but it's still really noticeable....now as I'm going into High School I'm forced having to explain things about my eye and be completely embarrassed about it....to this day i cant look at someone in the eye or even like to look at myself in the mirror....so i was wondering.....is there any kinds of treatments that can help me fix this more ?
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by yo1234 on 07/10/2007
  
  ok, i agree with a response that says some of you may not have the same condition. My right eye strays to the right when i try to talk to people. It first started as my eye lid drooping a little bit. I think i worsened it by trying to compensate for it and it made my eye muscle stress and that caused it to start shooting outward. if i concentrate i can look straight for a while but its just hard to keep that up. the thing is, it started when i was around 21 and im 24 now. dont ask me why it just started but it sucks. does anyone else have pain behind the eye and in the ear like me? doctors tell me i have no ear infection or anything. i think im just stressing my eye out in some way causing pain. it feels as if there is something in the corner of my eye pushing it outward. i have recently started looking people in the eye again when i talk to them and i find that if you seem confident then they arent as weirded out as bad. The bottom line is that worrying causes overcompensation and that worsens your eye. like i said my eye never strayed outward until i started really overcompensating for the drooping lid. does anyone else feel like there is something else like an infection causing the lazy eye? My head on the same side of my eye has suddle pain and my ear inside actually hurts worsen than behind my eye sometimes. Im worried about my eye but also about my overall situation with my ear, eye and head. Ive had CAT scans that shows no tumor or sinus infection or anything. my eye feels bulging and off center. Light makes it worse. My right eye feels that it just doent move as quick as my left eye. sound like a lazy eye? i dont know. i too get depressed when i think how great i could be and how many more friends i could have without the situation, but it all comes down to how you treat others. If you dont talk much or look away constantly while conversating, then you will not make any friends, but if you confident no matter what, then you could make some great friends. this site has made me not feel as alone in this. also, my eyes feel like they are stuck in one place when i try to talk and look people in the eyes. maybe thats just anxiety from how i feel i look. I think my eye is just a little off center but i hope it doesnt get any worse! good luck to all. please respond if you know anything about my symptoms.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by flowerpower on 07/26/2007
  
  i have a lazy eye......
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by unhappy on 08/05/2007
  
  hey hey hey hows things going hunni just want to say i have a lazy eye very very very unhappy wb xoxoxoxoxo
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by dirk1977 on 08/09/2007
  
  I have to say that some of what was written was inspirational. I am 30, and have had a lazy eye all my life. I see 20/100 out of my lazy eye, but 20/15 in the other. Talk about compensating!
  In schook it was TOUGH, I was picked on constantly. I was well liked, and to this day I have so many traits of my personality to let shine. I am constantly commended on my situation, but I feel that I am no different than anyone else. God gave me this deformity, but gave me so much more! I am not a religous person, but I have to say that I am blessed so much in my personality.
  Now this is not a gung-ho post. I HATE my lazy eye! My confidence as far as meeting women is low. I can make any stranger comfortable, but as far as long term it is not happening.
  I have recently had a dream come true. An eye physician reffered me to a specialist in ADULT lazy eye surgery. I know it may not work, but it will certainly do away with the "what-if's". To all of you I want to say that we are different than everyone else. I am the person people ask to tell them a funny story of my run ins in life with ignotant people.
  See I work at DIsney, and have to make eye contact 100% of my day. Co-workers, and guest there is no escape. When I get that IGNORANT guest that ask me a question, and i look at them, and they look over their shoulder I chuckle to myself and think "I wish I could stare at your bald head", or comment on their large "ski slope" nose.
  Just keep your heads up, and realize people are not out to get us, they just are ignorant to our situation. We may not be able to educate them, but we can humor them at times, and go as far as to make them comfortable, and understanding to others. God gave us this for a reason, just do what you have to do to fix it, or learn to accept it.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by dretsabuc on 08/21/2007
  
  I hope you feel better. :)
  
  My lazy eye was inherited from my mother. I don't really notice her lazy eye often but she use to tell me stories about how she was teased in school for it. I'm 25 and was only teased in the 7th grade, which is where I discovered I had a lazy eye.
  
  In high school, teachers always assumed I would roll my eyes at them and I would just deny it without a reason because... I wasn't rolling my damn eyes.lol
  
  I am aware that my eyes will wander if I am staring someone directly in the face, so I avoid all eye contact. Add that on to the fact that I may have inherited glaucoma from my father( completely blind), it makes me feel very insecure about myself. Its like there are "two" images of me. There is more contrast and sharpness in my left eye ... but when I see out of my right eye, everything is brighter and 'smoother'.
  I test out both of my images when I look in the mirror to make sure I am happy with both pictures of me.lol Its pathetic. I pull myself away from others because I don't want my burden to become theirs.
  
  Here is a tip for some people:::
  I'm just going to start squishing my eyes together to make them appear smaller and to keep my eyes focused when looking eye to eye with someone. It works too, but you have to remember to do it and not get too comfortable
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by mcmeyer on 09/09/2007
  
  Wow, I'm so glad I stumbled upon this page! I am 21 years old and I've had a lazy eye since I was born. I had eye muscle surgery when I was 2 but it didn't help much and I had another at 17 and another at 18. The last two helped a little but my left eye is still lazy! My lazy eye has made me very shy. I only had a couple of friends throughout elementary and high school because I was too afraid to look people in the eye and talk to them. I've never talked to my friends about it either and I know they've noticed but didn't wanna bring it up. I'm the only one in my family that has this condition. My eye doctor calls it esotropia. I hate it so much cause it's made me just keep to myself and live in a shell pretty much. I'm scared to be around people cause I constantly worry if they are noticing my eyes. Also, my head kinda tilts a certain way when I concentrate on looking at things, does that happen to anyone else? I just wanna know if there's any surgery out there that can once and for all fix my lazy eye! Because no surgery has fixed it yet. I wanna get over my fear of looking people in the eye too. I've never met anyone else who has a lazy eye! I'm also very nearsighted in both eyes, have astigmatism, and I have nystagmus (which means my eyes uncontrollably shake). Can anyone give me some advice please?
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by jas on 10/05/2007
  
  hi guys i feel so much happy about how othre people are experiencing the lazy eye problem. i can see great from my right eye but barley nothing in my left eye. it really sucks but im learning to live with it. im planning to get it fix . but im scared. im also wonderif i can drive a car still..... some one help me answer this question im living in toronto
  
  

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  Mr Travelin' Eye--my children's book
  Posted by coloredsock on 10/13/2007
  
  hello everyone or anyone who reads this. i am 33 and have a 'lazy' eye. i've always been sensitive about it, embarrassed some. in the past couple years it's seemed to get worse, i think because my good (other) eye is getting overworked and so i'm having trouble with my vision. anyway, i am an illustrator and have my first kid's book coming out april 1st, 2008. it's called MY TRAVELIN' EYE and is a story about me when i was little. kind of a creative solution to a childhood problem. i feel like this book has been good for me, and i hope it helps kids who have a travelin' eye all over the world. i hope it makes them look at it differently and not feel bad, but special. so, if you read this, check it out next spring. thanks... jenny sue
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by coloredsock on 10/13/2007
  
  ps after reading more responses, i have strabismus, amblyopia and a stigmatism. i rarely drive anymore because when my right eye is tired, my lazy eye sometimes sees a random image (like a car) toward my right and throws that image straight in front of me. my brain has no idea what it is at first and then sees it as a car and it's pretty dang scary. i also want to 'fix' it with surgery simply so i can drive. i no it will still be legally blind, but at least it won't make me see double cross vision. any advice would be great...
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by preethi on 10/22/2007
  
  hi,
  i am 25 and i have lazy eye.i just want to know will the eye condition get worse after getting old.
  am i going to become blind after getting old?
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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by coloredsock on 10/29/2007
  
  i have that same fear actually...
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Jem on 12/06/2007
  
  I Am 14 and i have a lazy eye its like the right 1 turns in when i concentrate on things it really gets mee down everydayy i have ppl comment it like i have name calling ( cockeye , bogeye) it really gets mee down !i have had a operation when i was about 4 and that helped alot i also wore patches but because i was little i would never leave them on ! i had glasses when i was little too but because of the name calling in skwl i wouldnt keep them on either and now i feel so ashamed to even try and look people in the eye nobody in my family has a lazy eye n i would really like too no wer it came from ! my eyes are nt horrible eyes either they are quite big and sparkly brown eyes (not being big headed) my mates no am sure they notice but they never bring it up if i had a boyfriend for a year and could never make eye contact and i didnt want him too notice my eye so it made us very distant and soon people would call me names too him and then he would notice it ! i want contact lenses but i feel to ashamed to even speak to my mum about it ! i cry everyday about it why does it have to bee me and why my eyes ! my friends have beautiful brown eyes too and none of theres have a turn it reli pisses me off i am so down about it but i really wish i could get some contact lenses that would sort my problem n get my life back on the roll !! plz help somebody thanks for listening !! xxx
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by LiLMiSS on 12/28/2007
  
  Hi I'm 16 i'm a very pretty girl i've heard it all my life but then again i've been teased all my life because i have a lazy eye.I didn't know i had a lazy eye until about 5th grade whne people begain to call me lazy eye, one eye jack, cyclopse, and criss cross. When tha started happening thats when i started becoming depressed.Until this day I've been sad and feel lonely.I never can keep a relationship going because i don't like looking people in the eyes but when i do the persons i am dating family or friends will notice and make smart remarks about it and then i end up in a fight.I really want some type of surgery to get this corrected becuase i always wonder will i ever get married, when i'm grown and have kids will they too suffer like me,why was i cursed with this stupid eye.why didn't god just let me die instead i'm so afaraid and sometimes it makes me so sad i want to kill myself that's how horrible it is where i live everybody knows everybody and everybody has an oppion.Sure i have alota friends but sometimes when i meet there friends they talk about me.i cried writing this because i don't kno wht to do
  
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by taryndee on 01/01/2008
  
  hey everyone.. unfortunatly i have this contition too.. im 15 years old and i got it around 2 yrs. right now i wear glasses and they make my eyes look straight. its only my right eye that is bad. i got surgery when i was 5 but it didnt do much. i also tried the eye patch thing when i was little but i kept ripping them off cause dey annoyed me soo much. when people ask me to take off my glasses i say no cause i obvi dnt wanna get made fun of. when im at home i try to have dem off for a while but then my eyes hurt and i get headaches. anywho, i may need another surgery soon and hopefully because this eye is driving me nuts and i am hiding underneath these glasses.
  hopefully things go well for everyone elses eyes
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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by caprisun on 01/19/2008
  
  Ive had it since i was 2,i had the eye patch and drops till i was about 5...i wasnt teased during that age about it.
  It has gotton alot better.Since then ive wore glasses...glasses are the best to use because they dont make your eyes look straight your eye becomes straight because the lens is forcing the eye to look in that direction...
  
  dont do surgery because they will only fix the musscle...when its acutally a brian issue,unlike some i can see pretty well in both eyes and i can move my eyes(i know someone whom eye refuses to move)
  
  but besides her i dont kno anybody else whom has this issue.Personaly i feel like iam alone with this problem after going here i kno iam not!
  
  I wear my glasses or shades...
  tends to help...
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by caprisun on 01/19/2008
  
  wait why is that most ppl have it in the right eye?mines is in the right eye as well.....
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by blahblah000 on 01/31/2008
  
  Im 14 and I have a lazy eye too. But its in my left eye and I am CONSTANTLY made fun off for it. I dont talk to people anymore because I hate it so much. I never look at anyone either. Sometimes when Im talking to my mom she stops me and makes me follow her finger with my eyes. Its completely embarassing and really upsets me. =l
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by lainierose on 02/06/2008
  
  I live in Australia and I want to thank you all for your resonses on this message board as I was born with a Lazy Eye and did not have it treated. I now have my left eye being my Lazy Eye wandering out to the left and I then have the white of they eye showing and the pupil sitting out in the corner of the eye. I was horrified when I noticed it and when to my Doctor who did not see it and said it was not that he didnt believe me but .... anyway I came home again quite stressed and decided again to look on the internet and found all of your responses and now I know what it is. So thank you all.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by i-am-nad on 02/25/2008
  
  hi there, im 18 and have a lazy eye all my life, ive had 3 squint operations 2 on my lazy eye and one on my good because once one eye is moved it moves the other one out of line, i have also worn the patches but still no luck my left eye still turns out and it also slightly drops aswell, i have been to the doctors and the hospital, both say that it cant be operated on because it doesnt turn out far enough, but when i look in the mirror its looking totally the different way to what i am, i was bullied as a kid, and i dont get many people anymore asking but im still scared to have eye to eye contact with people as im scared what people may think or say. im due for another appointment soon to check if i can have an operation again.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by missvee on 03/05/2008
  
  wow it's nice to know i'm not alone. i'm 25 years old and was born with a droopy eyelid. as a baby i was unable to open my left eye at all. i had 2 eyelid operations as a baby which opened my eye. i have good vision but my eyes are 2 different shapes and i can't blink or close my left eye at all. i was teased so much as a child and teenager that i found it very hard to live my life. i have wanted to have plastic surgery but was told by my specialst it would make my eye look worse.i still live my life as if i'm normal and thanks to makeup i am able to disguise my condition and make my eye look less noticeable. i feel real insecure about it though and feel like i will never find love or get married cause no one could ever love me like this... i have a great personality i'm very loud and crazy and have lots of good friends who think i'm silly for feeling insecure...does anyone else have a similar condition to me? i would like to hear how others are dealing with this... even though i don't have a lazy eye as such but i know how you're all feeling...we gotta stay positive and make the most of life...
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by angelgirl28 on 03/18/2008
  
  I have a lazy eye also atleast thats what my mom says it is. Its my right eye and it wont turn to the right. So if i am looking to my right my right eye wont go that way but my left eye will...Its a self esteem issue for me and I try not to look to my right at all. I was teased when I was younger. I recently joined this dating site and started talking to this interesting guy online and even on the phone and I dont want to tell him this. I just thought about just meeting him and maybe my eye wont matter...You dont really notice it just when I look to my right. But in away I am about to give up with meeting someone. I was born premature and the doctor gave my mom some kind of medication so I wouldnt come out so early because there was a chance i might not survive well I was born and left with a hearing problem and a week muscle in my eye. I wish I could fix both. Im glad I found this site I know I am not alone.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by bookworm1876 on 03/22/2008
  
  I have a lazy eye, my right eye. All my life people have said i was pretty and that i should not feel self consious. In school children used and still call me fish eyes or fishface, because of my eyes. I really hate them, i wish i was not cursed with this pain, and i just want it to go away. I want to be like every other girl, but my eyes are stopping me, can someone please help me, i mean i wear glasses to cover my eyes, but is their anything else i can do, anything at all. Does their exist a surgery or something, anything please someone help me find a better chapter n my life
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by julia_burns on 04/02/2008
  
  I have had a lazy eye ever since I can remember. My Parents first noticed it when I was starting to walk, I had no depth perception and would miss stairs, or mistake changes in colors of the floor as steps down. I had corrective surgery, which improved the vision (otherwise I would have been legally blind) but my right eye still turns all the way in. I wear glasses everyday of my life since I was one year old. People tell me that they dont notice anything, but I never believe them. When I take off my glasses if I try to focus on anything my eye will go all the way in (like it shuts off and lets the good eye take over) but if I "blur out" my eyes (sorry, I dont know how else to explain it) then they are straight. I cant see anything, but I look "normal". My own husband never knew I had a lazy eye until I finally told him about a year or so after we were married, he was shocked! I guess I hide it well. The scary thing is that I was always told that it will probably get worse as I get old, and will probably end up legally blind, and not be able to drive etc. I fail the depth perception part of the drivers vision test everytime, but somehow talk them into passing me (I usually make it seem like it is their machine that isnt working, hee hee) I have read about a new procedure that is used to correct lazy eye. They implant a contact lense into the eye, like under the surface, and it is permenent. I dont know where this is done (USA< Canada??) but I will look into it further. My glasses force my eye to look straight, it is something they put in the lense, it costs more, but it works, if no one can really tell. I think it is a prism or something? Anyway, hope something in this messge helps someone out there.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by 123dani08 on 04/02/2008
  
  i am soo glad ive read these messages with people in the same boat as me
  I have had a Lazy Eye since i was about 2 years old. my mom and dad took me to the hospital and they gave me patches for a while, but that didn't work, they then just gave me glasses, which helps correct it, but not 100%.
  To be honest, i really HATE it, ive had it all my life and i get teased because of it and im 15. It knocks my self confidance down andi cant look people in the eye because im scared they will comment on it as people have done in the past. I hate going shoppingg with friends at times, because people look a you as if you're a freak. they really annoy me and sometimes i just want to scream because it annoys me!
  I am concidering gettin treatment ASAP cause i am starting college in Sept, and i would feel a lot more confidant if i didn't have this problem, not only that, but im fed up of it. Please reply if you have had the surgery to correct the lazy eye.
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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by yoitskarilla on 04/05/2008
  
  Im 15 years old and I have a lazy eye. Its my right eye and I always knew something wasnt right. It wasnt until I was 10 years old when I got my glasses that my doctor recognized it. Ive done research and there are different types of lazy eyes. Ive had mine from birth because a nerve attaching my eye to my brain didnt grow before i was born. Some people say they don't notice it and sometimes if i focus it moves back into place. The patch doesnt work because my eye is also part blind so i can barely see if i cover my good eye. I want to be normal and appreciate what god gave me. I make jokes about myself and act like im fine with it but i still have problems looking people in the face. People say im weird without knowing me, some think im mentally disabled when actually im a good student. Some call me fish eyes, fishyface, all that jazz. i can crack some good jokes but everyone always goes for the low blow "at least im not cock eyed" yeah well im not letting it stop me from having friends and trying to act like im normal and neither of you should either. It really doesnt help my self esteem and im starting to think that im hideous. Unless i get this fixed it was ALWAYS effect every part of my life. I wish i could do more than just pity myself.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by anonomous on 04/13/2008
  
  Im 15 and i have a "lazy eye".ive had it since birth.when i look in the mirror i cant tell usually unless im really tired,but i know i have it....i get reminders on the daily from classmates....this lowers my self esteem greatly...and as i get older the more depressed i get...i want the surgery but i dont kno if it will work or can i afford it......glad 2 c im not alone
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by coloredsock on 04/15/2008
  
  i can relate to so much of what everyone has written. i've had mine since birth and still have it but have grown to accept it and even appreciate it. i actually just published my first kid's book called My Travelin' Eye--about my lazy eye. writing and illustrating this book has really helped me and since it came out, kids and adults with travelin' eyes have said it's helped them, too. i hope you like it if you read it--i'd love to hear from you if you do see it. you can find it on amazon. also i post thing on it on my blog: http://www.dancingelephantstudio.blogspot.com/
  
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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by 1995^hannah^ on 04/20/2008
  
  I have had ma lazy eye since birth thn I had surgery on it when I was eather 1,2,3,4 and I am 13 now and I neva new I had a lazy eye until I was I think in year 2 and it aint tht bad now but I still get asked what is the matta wiv it kuz I somtimes goes up a bit when it wants to but I just squint a bit to stop it. when I get asked about it I say I was born tht way kuz I was. when people have asked me about it and I have told thm about it they just leave me alone kuz they now no what is wrong wiv it.but when I look through it.......It isnt very good at lookin at wrightin kuz somtimes I wud wanna try and reed wiv it but I cnt cuz the wrightin looks a bit blurred.even when I look at the T.V. but when I am a few metres away from wrighting It goes blurry a lot so I wuddnt be able to read it clearly so u will just be hearin me struggle wiv reading it and I have problems because I have a lazy eye (you can get problems wiv lazy eyes) but other thn tht it is fine
  
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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by ChElSEA. on 05/05/2008
  
  Well my name is chelsea and i am 14 and i have a lazy eye, ummm well i was looking at exactly what it was and well its my left eye that is lazy and well i feel really bad.I noticed this problem like 5th or 6th grade people started looking at me funny and saying whats wrong with your eye and sometimes i just get sick of telling them so sometimes i would just stay quiet, i feel really depressed hurt and i HATE looking at people I feel like screaming my family and friends and surprisingly I have a boyfriend, he has noticed and asked when we met and I told him he understood it and he doesn't laugh but sometimes I see people laughing at me but usually it is when they first meet me.Thats another reason why I hate meeting people because Im afraid when they walk away they will start talking about me and how funny I look.Well I suffer alot from it, emotionally, but sometimes I just get over it
  Well Im not blind out of my left eye, I see very blurry, well if someone can respond to me and refer any help please do =]
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by luluwllms on 05/08/2008
  
  Well its great to know that im not the only one who lives through this. I actually have retinal coloboma which is a rare birth defect that causes blindness in eyes and I only have it in my right eye( I can only read words).Well I' ve actually had it since birth but I just started REALLY noticing it when I was a freshman( 13 years old) and now im a junior( 16 years old). I have allways had it but I heard some boys at school making fun of it,I looked in the morrror one day and noticed my eye. It hurts me when I look at the photo album and i notice my eye going astray that I never noticed. I also had a boy crush, he liked me back and we were always flirting since freshman year, In 10 th grade the yearbook came out and Im thinking he saw the picture of me because he started avoiding me. I was so hurt...I dont know if I will ever have a relationship, or be able to take pictures with my friends. look people in the eye and everything.I have no self esteem and the thing is boys actually find me attractive until they notice my eye.My doctor told me that there is no cure and I ll have to live with this for the rest of my life. Does anyone please no what I can do to hide my lazy eye..please
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Tussen on 05/14/2008
  
  Yeah I hate it too... I guess all of you live in the US. I'd love to chat with some of you about this... It's horrible. I wanted to meet some people to share and moan about this with. I live in Sweden and I'm 27 but I travel quite a lot in Europe :O)
  My msn is missmagstar@hotmail.com. Please get in touch so I don't feel like I am the only freak there is :O)
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Kay on 06/07/2008
  
  I'm in my 30s and have had lazy eye since about 12 months old. I've had surgery at least 7 times and it has only worked temporarily. I have just had surgery again and it has not worked at all. Everyone has different reasons for lazy-eye, mine is that the muscle is not attached to the eye, only the shaft that covers the muscle. The doctors can't actually find the muscle now and I'm stuck with it. Surgery hurts but if it works it's worth it. I would suggest if you're interested in surgery have a CAT scan first to see if you have the same problem as me. I have too much scar tissue now for another op, but if they can find the muscle first go for any of you it could be a success. I know how hard it is meeting people for the first time and some people are ignorant and make a deal out of the way our eyes look. I'm really sad my op didn't work and now I'm just going to have to accept that this is the way I was born (It's a congenital defect in my family). Fortunately it has never stopped me finding friends or forming great relationships. Good luck to all of you.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by DanielaG on 07/02/2008
  
  Well, I´ve been reading all your stories, and I can tell you that I know exacly how you feel, I´ve been in the same situations, as well as you, I have a lazy eye, my right eye. I have cried, I have shouted, I´ve been depressed and I have gone to many doctors, and all of them told me the same thing: If you didn´t corrected when you was a child, its imposible to you to see with your right eye (as you do with your left eye), you can do surguries to make it a "little more" straight (It will never be completety straight), and that I would do it the rest of my life...I´ve been trying to accepted the way I am, but its so difficult, sometimes, I dont know if I could ever get married, or at least, have a boyfriend, get less shy... or if people could stop looking at my eye like if I were some king of alien... It makes me feel so sad...If someone can help me or if someone needs to talk, here I am (daniela_32g@hotmail.com)... Im so glad that I am no alone..
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by AB500 on 07/05/2008
  
  Hey, I live in New Zealand and have never met anyone with a lazy eye. I've also never posted about this on one of these boards before, but the comments ring so many bells it's crazy...
  
  I was born with a lazy eye and had three operations before I was five years old to correct it, and happily it worked. But when I turned 11 and went to a big intermediate school my shyness kicked in and I sat at the back of the classroom always, even though I couldn't really see the board. I guess my brain decided to discard my left eye in favour of just my stronger right eye. Ever since then I've had a REALLY pronounced case of exotropic strabismus, only disappearing when I concentrated- which should have been one of the 12 Labours of Hercules, so freakin' difficult.
  
  When I was 16 I heard someone refer to me as 'that girl with a lazy eye' and I swear it felt like I'd been sucker punched. So I went operation happy again and got another. This one, while minimalising the 'wandering' effect of my eye completely ruined my ability to align my eyes at all. Does anyone know why? Every time I ask my doctor he shrugs and charges me $110. Grr.
  
  You know how blind people pick up excellent hearing skills and such? I think that having a lazy really ought to come with some compensation. Like, when you look at happy, beautiful and successful people wandering around you get a flash of what their life would be like if they'd been born with this.
  
  I'm 19 now, and kind of a neurotic mess about this. I hate looking in the mirror, almost as much as I hate meeting new people. I can't look them in the eye, or even at their face. I look at the ground or to the side and I know they think I'm being weird or rude but I can't help it. Then there's my disgustingly good looking friends who whinge about how hideous a single split end makes them.
  
  Anyway, chuck us and email if you wana have a bitch this, or have any advice- ace.of.pie@gmail.com
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by ana_k31 on 08/01/2008
  
  i too have a lazy eye, fortunately my parents detected it and i had an eye operation when i was only three years old. it's my left eye that fails to see. even though it had an operation, all it sees is a blurry image. fortuantely it doesn't cross anymore, but it's my right eye which seems to be crossing, i don't know i see it in my pictures my right eye often is the one nearest to my nose,.
  i dint go through teasing becuase nobody noticed that my eyes were crossing,
  
  the worst thing was in swimming class, while i was in the water, one girl was winking at me ,. not i agood way winking like teasinly winking,. like she was doing an impersonation of popeye the sailormn, that was when i noticed that i nly had one eye open,. my good eye, the right one
  i dont' know i guess it just grows into me
  
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Thinlizzy on 08/10/2008
  
  Hi, in answer to most questions....I've always had a lazy eye, in fact i was born with my fist in my eye, it broke a nerve and that's why i have one. I had my first op at 10 months, this turned my eye ball round, a second at a year- basically pulled my eye lid up, and a third when i was 4. I also used patches over my good eye for three years (this barely ever works apparently and didn't with me). I get loads of comments about it from people i've just met, or people say things to each other about it in the street, but a side affect of my last operation is that my eye doesn't close completely when i sleep, so i have to use drops for dryness. Having spoken to a consultant recently about another operation because lately my eye has begun to droop again, he thinks it's not worth it because of the dryness it will suffer with being stuck open.
  Without surgery though, you can, and i'm going to, get your eye brows shaped slightly differently to make the bad eye look more open, or even do some makeup ( e.g thicker eye liner on good eye) which i've discovered more recently, as i've found out i'm stuck with it as it is. And ofcourse it's always good to remember that those who comment on it obviously aren't intelligent enough to understand even a simple problem like ours, and those who love you don't care.
  Good luck with getting over it!
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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by anbonner on 08/11/2008
  
  hi im from australia. i to have a lazy eye! never before have i known so many people with the same problem,it brings a tear to my eye. im 33 years old, married with 4 healthy children no lazy eyes in sight.but as you all know looking at somebody when they are talking to you can be very difficult,i am feeling uneasy talking to my childrens friends parents and other people in the community. i have stayed at home with my children for the last 12 years but now i want my eyes fixed,whatever it takes! my husband says he has never noticed my eyes wonder but i see them everyday in the mirror. i had both my eyes operated on when i was 2 and was told i would need another when i was 18 or 19. i was to scared then but now im ready,wish me luck! and good luck to all you brave people.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by sid007 on 08/14/2008
  
  hello,
  
  i have been living with an lazy eye for pretty much all my life. when i was younger i had it really bad, it would continue to wondering out to the side. i used to get mean comments about it, but i found if i joked about it it would take some of the tension off me. i am 18 teen now and about to go to college. now a days i myself barely ever see it cuss when ever i look in the mirror it seems like it is completely straight, but i know deep inside that it is their and people are looking at it. i believe this does attach a huge chain an ball on my social life because i can barely look people in the eyes when in a conversation, and if i do it is only for seconds at a time. i have had a couple relationship but when they ended i would always hear a comment like " it's ok i didnt really like you with your crazy eye" or " your cock eyed who cares you dumped me". that has put a really big emotional stress on my dating life it makes me feel like i will never find a girl and will never be in a long term relationship. i have only had one surgery when i was about 6 years old, and like many others it only was temporary successful. i have many friends and have a huge personality but its always in the back of my mind that people are thinking or talking about my eyes. if anyone has any recommendations on a great treatment or a good doctor that could help it would be more then appreciated.
  
  p.s- this really makes me feel good that their are others out their going through the same situations and problems as i am. thank you to all the people who have the courage to get on a website and share their feelings to the world.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by hoopz15 on 08/18/2008
  
  i am glad 2 kno that other ppl in the world hav a lazy eye also mien doesnt wonder off or anything it's just that one eyelid is lower than the other 1 it's really no big deal to me i want to go and get surgery but i dnt kno how much it will cost or even if my insurence wil pay for it i am a 14 year old girl and i am n the 10th grade. i dnt get teased about it b.c no one tells me anything mean about it. boys still talk to me and sum wanna date me so my life is gud except wen i meet nu ppl and they question me about wats rong wit me i dnt answer them and i dnt luk ppl in da eye either.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Barton on 09/25/2008
  
  Right, i have a lazy eye in both of my eyes but only one turns in at a time? They tend to swap depending on which eye i look through but i usually look through my left eye and my right eye is covered by my fringe.
  
  I'm 19 and during my childhood yes i was bullied but nothing i couldn't handle really and it saddens me to hear about young people aged 14-16 getting into a depression almost. It's really not that bad a thing, i've dealt with it fine..i don't even see it as a disability. Yes it is annoying when people look behind me but i just say loudly ''yes i'm talking to you [insert name]''.
  
  People keep saying how they never think they'll have a boyfriend/girlfriend, get married etc. STOP BEING SO PATHETIC. No one wants to marry a shallow person, you marry who you love no matter how they look.
  
  I'm a confident, outgoing person and with that the men follow. Half the time they don't notice my eye, the rest of the time they don't care.
  
  Don't let it hold you back, i've not even bothered with any operations. My mum gave me the choice and i turned it down. I'm happy as i am and so should other people.
  
  A lazy eye is NOT a disability, i was shocked to find a thread on it on this website for the blind. It's never held me back, i'm not a failure in life. On the contrary i'm at university and i've had numerous boyfriends.
  
  Stop stressing kids!
  
  

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  I have a Lazy Eye!
  Posted by jacquibebzz on 09/28/2008
  
  Well i wasnt born with a lazy eye, but my mum noticed it when i was anout 9 months. I had surgery to tighten the muscles in both eyes, it has workd fully in my right eye, but my left eye - well i think anyway, turns.
  
  I ask my mum, dad and grandad about it and say are both my eyes looking at you, they say yes but im not convinced fully.
  I dont get bullied in school but me and my friend really like this lad and he knew it, on day in music class he said to me "ohh izzy (she also liked him) was propper slagging you off last night on msn, i said really and he said yes she called you a bog eyed prick, i knew he was lying when he said this, but then suddenly everyone looked at me and i knew i was going bright red and i got really hot. This year the lad is still in some of my lessons and i hate talking to him, the other day in tech i was sitting by him and he started to whisper to his mates then they all looked at me, i dont think it was about my turn (my turn isnt bad at all but i know he knows about it) now i cant believe i even liked him, hes a rat, hes got a horrible personality aswell.
  
  

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  Oh sorry but does anyone know anyone who could try and correct my turn, please reply, thank you.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by danii1212_xo on 11/19/2008
  
  I too have a lazy eye.. but I am different to other people because the eye I have a lazy eye in I am also blind in. When I was born my left eye was completely facing inwards but when I was 6 months old I had an operation and it improved but it still slants inwards and is very noticable. I find it hard and embarrasing to make eye contact and to look people in the eye. I have been bullied for my lazy eye at school, and it has definitely knocked my confidence down although I am an outgoing girl with lots of friends. You just need to forget about the people who make nasty comments because those people do not matter, I have realised this now. My eye makes me feel less attractive than others although it shouldn't. It has never stopped me from making friends but the ''school hard nuts'' now and then like to make a joke. I have been for a hospital appointment recently to see about trying to have another operation but there is a change it may not work or start making my eye go the other way instead, and I dont want to take the risk.. So it looks like I am stuck with the eye forever unless scientists devlop something to fix it. I never actually realised how many people we're going through the same thing.. I feel better now. X
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by levi_808 on 12/17/2008
  
  Hey i to have a lazy eye.I had a lazy eye all of my life, this has kept me from looking at people straight in the eye or taking any pictures.I just wish i could talk to a girl without worrying what she would think of me because of my eye.I am 18 now and never experienced a girl friend or love because of my problem.Sometimes in a great while i will get depressed and maybe shed a tear but i am strong inside and wont let this put me down. I just want to be normal like everybody elts around me like when i see my friends talking to girls and having a great time, it feels like i wasted most of all my life because of a lazy eye, it has held me back from alot of things. I am glad that i am not the only one going through this problem, but i do feel sad for everybody that is going through what i am gonig trough because i know what it feels like and i know what u guys are gonig through. I am glad i got this off my chest, maybe one day i can get this fixed but for now im going to grind through this hard time and hope everything will get better for myself and u guys. Contact me if anybody would like to talk. leviagcalon@Yahoo.com
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by ilton on 12/19/2008
  
  I never thought I would find something like this. I have degenerative myopia, and a lazy eye, along with other problems. Basically I can't see that well, especially out of my left eye. I'm so self conscious about it a lot of the time. It just makes me so bad about my self, it's a strange thing. I'm almost 20 and I avoided people in school because a lot made fun of me, I've gotten over that, but because of that I have come to realize I don't the best social skills in the world. I do have a girlfriend, and I love her deeply, she doesn't care, and didn't mention it until I brought it up. This is just advice for the younger people here, just try to enjoy life, and enjoy school, I know it's hard but you'll regret not having done more normal things just because of it. Like everyone has said, I HATE looking at people in the eyes, which I'm getting better at but it's still awkward, and for me looking at people straight in the eyes when they're close is actually physically uncomfortable, but that maybe because of a number of factors. Again this is great, I feel so alone with my problem this just made me feel a little better.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by ilton on 12/19/2008
  
  I have to live with mine, because my doctors, who are very famous and have done much written books about this, literally, don't think it will pay off, they thing I will begin to see double, or go blind. Not worth it. It's kind of hard to live with it to be honest, and it annoys when people act like it's no big deal, but most people don't understand, once again, I'm just glad I could read all this in a weird way it made me feel a little bit better.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by sharkmanjsa84 on 12/23/2008
  
  hey um has anyone had surgery to correct crossed eyes and how much does it cost and did it help?
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by elliexxx on 12/28/2008
  
  hi.I'm 15 and I have the same problem.Ive had it since I can remember and when I was young I had glasses but you couldn't see it. I was told I didn't need a patch and that I have perfect sight in both eyes and it would go away.theproblem is still there and very noticeable and for some reason I feel too embarrassedto wear glasses or ask for contacts.the glasses I had made my squint less noticeable but the strength of the glass was the weakest you can get.if I have perfect sight and barely need glasses wwhy is my right eye so crossed?when I was in school nobody would make fun of me but se people would ask what was wrong with me and a little kids would say my eyes were funny or that I need glasses badly right infront of people and I got really embarased.I look people straight in the eye all the time because sometimes I forget and then sometimes someone looks at me strangely and it makes me really depressed.I have never had a boyfriend and I know that's the reason.once someone was interested in me and I overheard him saying it to his friend and his friend said " haha you like the cross eyed girl!" and then he never looked at me again.i hate getting my photo taken and I am always really sad.I often feel like going over and talking to some people and u think why not but then I remember about my horrible eye.I have had horrible experiences and people have shoted out "monster" in front of my whole classs when my photo was shown.I'm just glad to know that other people feel the same way I do. If you ever need to talk I'm always hear.just email me at : XsugarcakeX@gmail.com. Don't let what other people think of you let you down
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by tiny19 on 12/31/2008
  
  well lets see im 19 and i have a lazy eye ive had it from the day i was born. when i was born i had corrective surgery but you can still see it and i hat it all my life people have picked on me because of it and ppl at school would make comments and it was embarrassing and everyday i would come home from school and just cry and my mom and dad would tell me that there are ppl that are like me but i never see them but now i do and im glad two see im not alone but i still have ppl that look at me like whats wrong with your eye but what makes me mad is when i see them all the time but they still do it and i do have a boyfriend and i just love him and why i do is bc he had never met me and i told him that i had something rong with my eyes but he still came to see me and ive been with him 4 one year and then some
  
  well if you want to talk kimmy1903@live.com
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by smrj1995 on 01/02/2009
  
  you know what...i know exactly how u feel...i have to walk to everyday have to close one eye so people won' make fun of me. Nobody in my family has it either and i think that, that is not fair to me when everybody else gets to look straight and i look 2 ways, some of my friends know about it though and i call them great friends because they never make fun of when they notice it or point it out. when i get in a argument with someone they say the same thing over again "that's why you crossed-eyed" or "both of your eyes is looking two ways" but i stand my grounds and every mnute they say something like that...i bake on them real hard and they wind-up regreting whatt they said....i love my life, and god made me this way so i should be actually thankful for what i can do, other kids can't even walk and i am complainng over a lazy eye, but it is very heart-breaking that i have it cause when somebody say something about it i cry..well this is the end of my paragraph...bye, peace&love.!
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by playintraffic on 01/11/2009
  
  hi im 19 and ive had a lazy eye from birth and have infact been blind in it and have no colour within my left eye leaving it completely white. Although i haven't been strongly bullied during my school years i did have seriously low self esteem issues and knew that people would refer to me as the kid with the "lazy" or "cock" eye which is something you can really never get over and has lead me to search for unique ways that people can refer to me rather than my lazy eye. Due to my left eye having no colour, since the age of 5 i have been wearing cosmetic lenses that are similar to my other eye, however this does not move much, causes my eye pain (so i can only wear it 5 or 6 hours a day) and fails to make my eye look a "normal" size. Apart from my eye (without sounded big headed) i am considerably good looking which has meant i have always been able to find girlfriends, but because of my insecurities they are normally shortlived, and i am also slightly bitter of what i could be if it wasn't for my problem because of some of the personality problems e.g. shyness it has given me. I have tried hard to find ways of covering up my eye and now have a very thick fringe (like many people my age do these days) and constantly wear hats to keep it in place, this has meant that the people i have met over the last few years have no idea of my problem but have on occassion asked "why do you always wear your hair over your eye?", which i try and not answer by changing the question. This solution means that i have trouble going out when its windy outside as it blows my fringe to pieces and again makes people ask "why don't you come out more?" My social and personal life have deeply suffered and with going to university in the near future i will encounter more problems where i will be living with people 24/7 and i cannot wear my lense for even a third of that time. I've also just got out of a relationship of over 2 years where i somehow managed to never show my girlfriend my eye although she knew something was wrong and we did occassionally talk about it, even though the problem didn't seem to phase her apart from the fact she was sad i couldnt be totally comfortable with her. I went to the hospital about 2 months ago to discuss the possibility of a scleral shell which is a thicker wax/plastic type lense which has no movement but lifts the eyelid considerably (although not to the point of regularity) they have said they will ring back to arrange something in the next 6 months hopefully ready for the end of 2009. This solution is also covered by the NHS as my previous lenses only lasted about 4 months and cost about £300 pounds each. This gives me a slight glimpse of optimism but i do worry about the day when it will not be appropriate for me to have this "emo" type fringe. As i have got older i have found that people are slightly less superficial and shallow and ive hooked up with some nice girls who have had no idea of my problem. If i can just make my eye normal sized for now, perhaps i can make my fringe slightly less thick so my eye can be seen but so you cannot tell it cant move. I do however see how easy it is to go oh i could of been a football player, or better looking, or more popular, but at the end of the day life is like a game of cards and although you may noy be dealt with the best cards, these are not neccessarily the cards you end up with. And another thing, The likes of Gabrielle (who uses a very similar solution to me), Paris Hilton (perhaps not the best example), Forest Whittaker, Abe Lincoln, Keri Russel, Mellissa Joan Hart, Eliza Dushku, Bernie Mac and many many more have had similar eye problems and have made great lives for themselves. I hope i have somewhat gave hope or made someone feel less alone because i certainly know you have.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by philliplouis on 01/25/2009
  
  I'm Phillip, 14 years old turning 15 in two months. My parent's say I was "born with an undeveloped eye", now I don't believe them but those are my own insecurities with them. My vision in my left eye was weak so my brain refused it they've told me. The lazy eye didn't start until two years ago in seventh grade. Now i'm a freshman in Highschool about to become a Sophomore and my lazy eye is still there. It has hurt me so much more than words can ever describe and I feel all alone and a freak out of the bunch. It really has hurt my social life and I feel like right now there is something I can do to correct either my muscles in my left eye to make it follow better or to repair my vision completely. I know people do have it much, much, much worse than me but they are nowhere I can see them, just me. I absolutely HATE being blind in one eye and I just want to be normal. Please, if any of you know of any surgery or operations that could be done feel free to inform me of them. I'm going to see an eye doctor within the next month to see if there is anything that can be done, but until then I'd like to not be in suspense about this. I am tired of my depression and I really want this. This is good to know that there other people going through what I have been dealing with, and that i'm not as alone as i've been feeling. Wish you all the best lives!
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by philliplouis on 01/25/2009
  
  By the way, my email is phillipbaez@yahoo.com.
  Feel free to inform me of operations or just talk to me because I do know what you're going through.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by hansolo27 on 01/27/2009
  
  
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by hansolo27 on 01/27/2009
  
  I know how all of you feel. I am 23 years old and was basically born without a right eyelid muscle. So my eye was completley shut until doctors were able to operate on it. By that time I had lost about half of my vision in my right eye. 4 operations later and alot of eye patching got my eye to as good as it was gonna get I suppose.. My left eye is about 20/15 while my right is about 20/80-20/100. I basically use my right eye for peripheral purposes.. As far as appearance, when I tilt my head down, my lazy eye is very noticable. When I tilt my head up, it looks like my lazy eye is larger than my left eye. Thats why I try to keep my head at a certain level or try only to look at people certain ways so its less noticable.. Im sure many of you can relate.. You find ways to adapt to it.. Also, my right eye ALWAYS stays open unless forced closed, so when I sleep my right eye stays open..
  
  It was worse when I was younger and growing up.. lets see, Ive been called things like "one eyed freak," "lazy eye," "cock eyed." Or the best was one time when a girl said to me "Even though your cross eyed I still think your hott..." lol oh really? Its amazing how incredibly ignorant people can be. Like many of you, I developed an ear for hearing people talk about it or noticing it.. I know it hurts.. As much of a burden it is to live with, I never let it hold me down or hold me back from doing things I loved to do. Without sounding conceited, Im a pretty good looking guy and had always been a good athlete.. Last year I graduated with a bachelors degree after playing four years of D1AA College Football.. I met my girlfriend in College and we've been together for 2 1/2 years. I stay active and love to snowboard, workout, relax, hang out with friends etc.. I try to surround myself with people who arent petty and accept people for who and what they are like my family, friends, girlfriend, and myself..
  
  You have to realize that life is too PRECIOUS and too SHORT to focus on the negatives or the things that you do not have.. There are SO many people out there or have it MUCH worse than we do.. Ive learned that life is all about overcomming adversities and doing the best with what you got.. I wish you all the best.. God Bless..
  
  Feel free to email me at Hans0lo27@aim.com
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by wizard61 on 02/18/2009
  
  So many folks posting here are young, and I remember when I was 18, and my eye doctor told me "Who's gonna want to date you looking like that?" For a few years I was horrified, then I was angry, and then I decided to grow strong, physically and emotionally. Guess what -- when I decided that my eye was a beautiful part of a beautiful me, lots of nice (ok, I'll say it, and HOT) woman were interested in me. And now, for 16 years, I've been married to the most beautiful one of all.
  
  Your lazy eye is about a thousand times more important to you than it is to anyone you know. But your confidence and courage shine like a beacon. For God's sake, don't do the "looking down" or "keeping the eyelids almost closed" thing. CONNECT with people, by looking them in their straight eyes with your straight eye. If they get confused (I KNOW you know the look, or their looking over their shoulder), help them out. "I have a lazy eye, so concentrate on my left/right eye... you'll get used to it in no time." Not only does it help them connect, but they think "WOW, is (s)he cool! I wish I had that confidence."
  Now, for younger folks who still might be around those who make fun, another post-er was right on... those jerks are feeling awfully bad about something about themselves. They may feel they are not pretty or skinny enough. They may be jealous of your brain. Freud may argue they feel insecure about some shortcomings in their Lucky Brands. Whatever it is, hit their teasing back with class. Don't be hurt, don't be embarrassed, and don't even lower yourself to retaliate. Idiocy advertises itself best when it stands alone.
  
  So I'll make a little personal pitch to follow my way. Since that visit to the moronic eye doctor, I've spent my life, among other things, building up my fitness, and am in fact a personal trainer and fitness consultant to corporations. I promise you, when you get to the point of having a great physique, the world treats you very differently, and you may even go weeks without remembering that you have a lazy eye.
  
  I won't check this site too frequently, but if anyone is having trouble coping and you wanna chat with someone who has had a lazy eye for 47 years, hit me up at thinwizzyfit@gmail.com. Hell, you can just email me a "hi there" if you want, I don't care, I'm friendly. And I promise I'm not selling you anything... I target gray haired CEO's anyway. :-)
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by johtrr8 on 03/04/2009
  
  WOW where do i begin....I'm 23 and was born with a lazy eye...Since i was 5-6yrs old i wore the patch everyday 2 hours a day and honestly it would of worked if i didnt have the people around me call me "pirate" it really brought me down especially being so young that i stopped wearing the patch....my lazyeye didnt start to bother me until i got to highschool..people went as far as asking me are you not getting sleep or are you high??yea it was crazy....i guess the part that bothers me the most is when i would go out on dates i NEVER looked the guy in the eyes...i have a wonderful boyfriend that excepts me the way iam but it bothers me...it really does i cant take pictures without tilting my head a bit so that u cant notice it...i always have to wear eyeliner otherwise i look soooo tired and im not...i just wanna get this fixed!!! so i look people in the eyes and take normal pictures...if anyone can recommend a good surgeon i would appr it...oh and ive asked my eye doctor and he was worse than the people that made fun me he told me theres nothing they can do and made the joke about tilting my head pictures so that people couldnt notice!! my email is johtrr8@aol.com
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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by mlp4eve on 03/06/2009
  
  I think that the people that look at us and that is all that they notice are not worth even talking to because they are shallow. I always remind myself that it could be worse I could have been born with no arm, or no leg. I could have been born blind or deaf. I have been told by all of my friends that I even have a lazy eye and it seems to bother me more than anyone. God has made us all unique and I am grateful that I can see. Some of the most famous people have a lazy eye and they are still beautiful. Paris Hilton, Terri Hatcher, Jessica Alba, and Lucy Liu to name a few. When you feel good about your self and don't let peoples comments bother you, people actually look up to you. People with insecurities like to be mean to people that is just the way the world is. I am sure that all of you are beautiful and talented and have allot going for you, do not let a little thing like a lazy eye make you an unhappy person. LOVE WHO YOU ARE!
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by henry dawson on 03/29/2009
  
  hi everybody, im 20 years old , i have a squint in my right eye which causes my right eye to pull up, and it struggles to look down. as im sure you all know having problems like this with your eyes effects your state of mind. not just because of how it looks, but how uncomfortable it feels, the variation is huge which makes life very inconsistant. im angry that the doctors dont talk about how messy and tiresome your muscles get behing your eyes, rather than looking at my eye in cosmetic term im looking at it in a functional manner. im having my eye detached from the muscles and eye lid closed up and when i hold my right eye closed my problems dissapear, i know im always going to look different, but i dnt have to act wierd, so by having my eye permanlly closed, i may look different but act normal, relieve the stress from my eye , and my mind
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by kitt008 on 03/29/2009
  
  omg i am so glad there is others out there feeling like me! i spend every day worrying what people think of me for my lazy eye, when i go out with friends i position my self at an angle to the camera so they cant see my badly crooked eyes. Im scared of talking to people i first meet, and i always am afraid of going in to rooms alone as i hate people mentioning it and asking about it, i feel like a freak and its ruined my life, i feel ive been cursed with these damn eyes i hate them, boyfriends never seem to b bothered, but i always get someone with a comment about it, and whispers like 'why is she looking over there?' when im not, it really hurts and ive had enough and want something done but im scared of operations and i dont know if it will cost me, im 19. i need to have it done, its really getting me down and spoiling things for me. if anyone can help, thanks x x
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by munce47 on 04/02/2009
  
  I am impressed at how many feel the same about this cooked/lazy eye." I have had it since I was born and I am now 47 years old. Actually my eyes were crossed when I was born, and after the surgery time took its course and my eye just went crooked, or lazy. I too feel embarrassed about it. It is Hard for me to look at people in their eyes. It’s hard when they say .. Are you talking to me? Are you looking at me? Yes I know! I would love to show off my beautiful browns eyes to people. Feel like a normal human being . I, too wear the sun glasses too when ever I can. I look down instead of up most of my time when talking with people. Its hard.. no matter how old you are when you have such a physical disfigurement .
  I would love to know how much something would cost to fix it. Just want to extent my heart to all those who are like me and me like you. Thank you all for sharing.
  
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by psycho1991 on 04/08/2009
  
  lol I have a lazy eye too. =)
  I really hate my eye. I'm pretty much blind from my right eye so when I look straight my eye moves to the right.
  I'm always in my room and never go out because I'm afraid people will make fun of my eye. I hardly talk at school for the same reason. When I walk I can't look up so i walk looking down at the ground. =(
  Really messed up life lol.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Maranda76 on 04/11/2009
  
  Hello my son has a lazy eye also he is 7 years old. Yesterday he had the surgery to straighten it out and the insurance actually paid for it which surprised me!! If you want to have it corrected call your insurance and see if it is covered. I didnt think it would be because I thought they would say it was a cosmetic issue, but they didn't and it's medicaid Ohio just thought I would let everyone know it may be covered by your insurance.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by smdh on 04/22/2009
  
  Hai, I'm Sarah. I have a lazy eye and I hate it so much. ._. My mom would never tell me that because she does not care, the one who told me is my sister... she was making fun of it ;/ Anyways...yeah I don't want to live with this stupid eye and if I just tell my mom she will be like noo it's okay and make something up like I said she does not care >_<' anyways yeahh... I don't know if you want to talk I guess email me? :l my email is
  Power-rangers-xd@hotmail.com
  
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by smdh on 04/22/2009
  
  Oh yeah and also I have not been to a doctor about it because I never told or asked my mom about it... anyways yeahh. I guess if you want to talk email me.
  Email:
  
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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by DHotka@aol.com on 04/26/2009
  
  You are definately not the only one out there who is experiencing this. I understand exactly what you are going through because i myself am experiencing the same thing, however i am only a sophomore in high school. needless to say, high school is not the best place to have physical deformities in any way or shape but its important to remember that everyone has flaws, ours unfortunately is just visible. I too wish could undergo the surgery required to fix it but you must be 18 and i am not. A good friend of mine also experienced our problem and she was able to correct it, in the time before you can afford the surgery it might be beneficial to wear an eye patch on your good eye to focus (and hopefully correct) your bad eye. I understand this may not be the "coolest" thing to be wearing around your friends and collegues but for the times that you are home alone it could be helpful. Anyways, i wish you all the best and know that your not alone in your ordeals. Feel free to email me at: csipresident@aol.com i would happy to help you in anyway that i could.
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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by njb on 04/27/2009
  
  I am 26 years old. I also have eyes that don't always appear to be straight.
  
  Reading the posts on this discussion board gives me chills and makes me cry. I feel EXACTLY the same way as so many of you. I HATE my eyes. I am incredibly emotional about it. I feel like my eyes are traitors to the rest of my being... that they betray me and the hard work I do to be the outgoing, confident person I truly am.
  
  My eyes make me nervous in social situations. Talking one-on-one to somebody I don't know is the worst- I'm constantly worried about if my eyes are straight or not and what they're thinking about me- that I look stupid? that they feel bad for me? that I look funny? what they're going to say later to other people when I leave?
  
  I HATE taking pictures and I'm notorious for closing my eyes, squinting, or looking away right as the picture's being taken. My friends are always telling me- "keep your eyes open for the picture!" -But I've never talked to them about why I shut them- never even talked to them about my eye turns, at all, never. But I'm sure they notice it. It's so silly of me, really. I'm too ashamed to talk with them about it and honestly I don't know what I'd say. What is there to say? I have no explanation of why... I was just born this way. Why? don't know. Mom didn't drink or use drugs while she was pregnant with me... No head trauma or anything... I don't even feel like I have a good name for this condition to explain what it is to others. Strabismus I guess? But nobody knows what that means. Whenever I look up definiitions for the terms associated with "crossed eyes" I find different information anyway.
  
  I wish I could give you all a big, giant, hug. I know the hurt, the depression, the hopelessness you feel.
  
  Here's a glimmer of hope I would like to share:
  Vision Therapy.
  I've just started it and have seen results already- especially with depth-perception and "two-eyed" vision- using both eyes at the same time. I'm hoping my eyes will appear straighter as time goes on.
  Try it out. Insurance even covers it.
  In many cases, surgery will not fix the eye turns. However, vision therapy is gaining popularity. Your normal eye doctor probably never mentioned it to you- mine never did. (Which I'm pretty bitter about, actually.) But the fact is they probably didn't know about it.
  
  Get on the internet and search for a developmental or neuro-optometrist. A good web site is to start at is http://www.optometrists.org/ There you can click on "find a doctor," answer a few questions, and they'll come up with a list of doctors specializing in what you need. Even if you're "all grown up" and you think the window of opportunity to make changes is all gone, believe me it's not. And for those of you in your teens, check it out! I wish I would have known about this when I was younger. It would have saved me a lot of tears.
  
  BIG GIANT HUGS to all of you. Thank you for sharing. It has given me validation in my own thoughts and feelings to read yours.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by njb on 04/27/2009
  
  Here is another link that I have found helpful. Another story similar to all of ours- but describes how vision therapy CORRECTED her vision problems. There are additional links to more resources at the bottom of the page.
  
  http://www.children-special-needs.org/lazy_eye/lazy_eye.html
  
  
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by njb on 05/21/2009
  
  More websites with interesting and helpful information regarding strabismus and related eye problems:
  
  Neuro-Optometric Rehabilitation Association
  www.nora.cc
  
  College of Optometrists in Vision Development
  www.covd.org
  
  Optometric Extension Program
  www.oepf.org
  
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by outofcontrol2009 on 05/23/2009
  
  WOW , it's so inspiring to see so many people who have found this page and shared their experiences !!
  
  i'm 18 years old and my whole life i've had a turn in my right eye. i've never actually been fully aware of it myself until i was about 14 years old (The dreaded high school years!) , this wasn't actually because of bullys or being taunted about it but just because as you go into your teens i guess you are more concious of your image or whatever. anyway, it hasn't been until the last two years that i really have come to know what it is like living with a lazy eye ! everything you guys have mentioned so far, i have felt your pain. not knowing where to look when talking one on one, taking photos and trying to angle yourself so you don't look lazy eyed, etc etc.
  
  one thing i have found is that 80% of it is just myself worrying about it all the time, please don't get yourself down guys because if you have great friends and family then they won't make stupid comments like ' are you looking at me ? ' etc, those kind of people are more socially awkward than you are and have no idea how to respond in a different situation for them!
  
  i never get anyone confront me about my lazy eye and i believe this is because there is so much more to me than a lazy eye . i'm studying fashion design at the moment and working part time in a marketing company where i work with so many people every day in the workplace or in college and they all know me for my personality or my individual style not my stupid lazy eye . please people do not get yourselves down about it , some of the posts about people saying they don't leave the house etc makes me so sad because once you realise what a tiny part of you it actually is , you'll get over it! and other people will get over it !
  
  it was only recently that i got the courage to say to my closest friends what do you think about my lazy eye ? and they all say well its obviously unforntute that you have that but i see for YOU, not your lazy eye.
  
  work your shades if you want to conceal it, play with your individual style and let your personality shine through whether that is with your clothes or your hair or your talent.......... be strong and hold your head up high guys :D love and peace !!!!!!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
  
  im not saying its easy because i still think about it every day,
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by timmy on 05/28/2009
  
  I am 17 and my boyfriend has a lazy eye. I find him attractive though. Cause i know that he is mine. he does not care what people say. I don't think that u should fix it cause maybe as a teacher some kid will need someone to be there for them mand u can help with that since u know cause u have an lazy eye. So i don't think u should fix it. u should be proud of what u have. u were most likely made like that for a reason.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by timmy on 05/28/2009
  
  I am 17 and my boyfriend has a lazy eye. I find him attractive though. Cause i know that he is mine. he does not care what people say. I don't think that u should fix it cause maybe as a teacher some kid will need someone to be there for them mand u can help with that since u know cause u have an lazy eye. So i don't think u should fix it. u should be proud of what u have. u were most likely made like that for a reason.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by rw on 06/06/2009
  
  A quick background: I am 37 and have had a lazy eye for many years. I had surgery 10 years ago that corrected it about 20%, enough to make me feel better about myself. However, that anxiety that we all feel never goes away. I never talk about this with anyone, not even my beautiful wife. And yes, like you all, eye contact is a fleeting thing. I feel it has affected my job prospects as I am nowhere near my earning potential despite a pretty impressive resume.
  The one curious thing though post-surgery is while I don't get the strangers looking-over-their-shoulder bit like I used to, I now get people rubbing their eyes while talking to me. I mean just about 50% or more of friends, colleagues, strangers,etc. inadvertantly rubbing their eyes whenver we're engaged in conversation. I don't think they're even conscious of doing it. I believe it is due to some minor red scarring on the inner corner of my eye, but perhaps I'm being oversensitive. Maybe it has nothing to do with me at all?
  My question is for those who've had laser eye surgery and still have a wandering eye to an extent but not as noticeable as prior, do you encounter people excessively rubbing their eyes while you're talking to them?
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by mtmalone on 06/08/2009
  
  Wow, what a great a site, I feel like I have been looking for all of you for all of my 28 yrs. I too have a lazy eye and lack binocular vision.
  I guess the reason for my post is to heal a bit and maybe help others if possible, especially the younger (high school aged) readers.
  I know how difficult it is to look others in the eye with confidence, and I have spent too much of my life worrying about it. Really we only have two options. We can let it rule our lives, or we can overcome it (its not easy either way, but there's clearly a better choice). We can only change the things in our life that we can control, and in the end its about what you contributed to this world and the people you loved and who loved you, and your physical appearance will not affect that. For you younger sufferers, my sympathy is with you, but realize that high school is only a very short period of time in relation to your life, it will be over with before you know it. Focus on the things that are in your control, like doing well in school. In fact, work as hard as you can in school to get into the best college or whatever direction you want to go in. Really you don't have to be the smartest person either, just driven, dedicated, and disciplined.
  Appearance is one way to get affection from others, but one avenue we won't always be picked first in, but if you have skills, knowledge, and experience you will find find people with the same interests as you, where people will see you for who your really are. You will find more meaningful relationships with those people anyway. Honestly, being social like it is pictured on tv bears little fruit. From my experience it just leads to alcoholism and other things that take away from life.
  Lastly, it could be a lot worse. Be thankful everyday for the things you have, and don't focus on the things you don't. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.
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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by elleslazyeye on 06/09/2009
  
  If anyone is still reading this post, I know how all of you feel. I am 47 years old and I have had this my whole life. I was born with normal, straight eyes until I became ill as a child which caused my eye to turn inwards. They did an operation and it was slightly overcorrected. I also have DOUBLE VISION on top of all of this and so it really bothers me not only the eye going out but also the vision. FOR YEARS I was picked on in school and as an adult I still have to struggle when talking to someone because they often look behind them as they think i'm looking behind them. I became divorced several years ago and it was not til I started dating that it came up again. One date asked me which eye to look into! I was so upset. FINALLY I had to except that I am who I am and the rest of them dumb jerks who even mention it have NO IDEA of who I am inside. I have to say despite all the namecalling I turned out to be a person most parents would be proud of. I have had to work harder than anyone else and I am very compassionate - all because of what I've had to endure with my eyes. Now at the ripe age of 47, I am having corrective surgery. I am scared to no end, but I told the doc that my eyes gave me a headache.. they do, but secretly, I also want them corrected so that i can be taken seriously. I teach some classes with a small business and some of my students weren't sure if I was looking at them or not. I got fed up and decided to go for the procedure. And in the end, I found a great guy and you know what, he loves me for the inside. I am an attractive women and my eye does not bother him at all. I am lucky.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Blessed1 on 06/17/2009
  
  Hello Everyon
  First of all, I am so glad that there is a site for what we all have in common. I too have a lazy eye. I was born this way and I am now 28 yrs old so i've had to deal with this for a while... I was reading some of the posts here and they bought tears to my eyes... because I went through and still sometimes go through the exact same humiliation as a lot of you... I have always considered myself a beautiful person, inside and out, but even now I have a problem looking people directly into their eyes. When I hit about 13 I figured out ways that kind of worked for me... for example, the right eye is my lazy one but i have perfect vision in the other... so when i looked at people I would focus with the bad eye so that it wouldnt float around... the only down side to this is that even though both my eyes are looking straight when I do this... I cant clearly see that person.
  I too am looking for a way to get this corrected... I had a chance to do some modleing but my eye messed that chance up for me... but I consider myself Blessed because i have a wonderful husband who thinks im the most beautiful woman in the world... but i still have problems even looking him in the eyes..
  if anyone ever needs to talk about it...my email is sherisa112@yahoo.com
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by nixsa on 06/22/2009
  
  I have been dealing with the condition since birth and lucky for me I have a drooping eyelid to go with it. People tell me that I am pretty and beautiful and I think that they are just being nice. People ask me constantly mostly children what's wrong with my eye. I hate it, I know how you feel. Its good to know that there are others out there who share my same selfesteem issues. It hinders me in relationships and daily life I feel so insecure and like everyone is starring at me trying to figure out what's wrong with it. I thought that if you didn't get it corrected as a child that you are out of luck as an adult. I would love to get this thing taken care of! And finally know what it feels like to look "normal". I could take pictures and not be worried that my eye is shut or off center. UGH!
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by runningbak37 on 06/30/2009
  
  I have a lazy eye. Its not easy at all for anybody. I am fourteen years old and i am pretty good looking. With the acception of that one eye. I never really look people in the eye. Most the time they look behind them to see what im looking at. It sucks. I dont really have a problem for now. I have a beautiful girl friend.... i dont think she has noticed yet though. I have alot of friends that have my back. I am athletically gifted and all this but i have this curse and my self esteem is crushd i need to know how much this surgery is......please. Even if i have to pay for it.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by msainttt41 on 07/10/2009
  
  sucks no joke! I was born w/it; my idiot doctor at the time told my parents there was nothing to be done except wear an eye patch to force it (left eye) to work. Well, I did but then thought my eyes looked fine, so I stopped wearing it.
  
  The doctor didn't tell me my eye would get worse and start to drift. I was really a cute kid too. It wasn't until I was about seven (7) years old that realized that my eyes didn't work properly. I went w/my father hunting and he gave me binoculars to use, I looked through them but couldn't see anything out of my left eye. At the time, I didn't think too much about it...I was seven (7).
  
  Life continued I went through school. I was one of the most popular kids in school. Girls were attracted to me. Girls would ask me out; doddle love notes and pictures on my papers when we would exchange them w/classmates to grade. Yeah, school was great until one day in sixth (6th) grade when one of my teacher's kept asking me what was wrong. She said, I didn't look right, I said, I felt fine. She wasn't convinced and had me go home sick. It wasn't until years later that I realized that was the day my eye "fell to the side" and I didn't look normal anymore.
  
  It was from that point that life change for me, and changed for the worse. The kids that were my friends, best friends all of a sudden made fun of me. I became instantly alienated from the rest of the kids. I wasn't popular anymore. I wasn't even one of the geeks or nerds. I wasn't even one of the un-cool kids. I was an outcast. Girls no longer had any interest in me. People always thought I was mad or upset. I went from being an "A" student to a "C", "D" student, because I didn't have fusion with my eyes; they didn't work in unison. My eyes would try and concentrate so hard on reading that I couldn't grasp the information I was reading. Lines would bounce from eye to eye because each eye was trying to fight for position. After five minutes of studying, I would get terrible pressure headaches where I had to lay down in a dark room and sleep just for the pain to go away.
  
  It wasn't just the reading, school in general was terrible. I would wake up every morning thinking today was going to be great and things were going to change. However, I would get to school and within minutes of being in class my eyes and head would start to hurt from trying to read the blackboard, or read passages in a book, or trying to look someone directly, or I would just start thinking about my eyes by doing certain test with my eyes like trying to focus with both eyes on an object or my "favorite one" staring repeatedly at my nose seeing if each side look the same and if on both sides my nose came to a point telling me my eyes appeared normal.
  
  
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by msainttt41 on 07/10/2009
  
  My school life continued; school life of bad grades, no dates, no parties, no friends, no dances and certainly no prom. I didn't get to take part in the events and fun experiences most kids get to experience. I graduated in 1993 and entered the work force thinking things would change....yeah right, like the song goes, "high school never ends." You still have your cool people, your awkward people, your geeks, wannabes, the hot girls every guy wants to date and ones other girls talk about because they're jealous, the achievers, the underachievers, and the alienated ones like me who the average ones and ugly ones make fun of because there is someone who looks worse than them so they can build up their own self esteem....vanity, the sin most people are guilty of unless your Mother Theresa. My lazy eye has given me one thing and that is the ability to observe and see people: their habits, their ego, how people treat people based on looks, how one person will treat the same act differently committed by two different people because one is a good looking person while the other is not.
  
  Anyway, I continued on until I was twenty-one (21) with people treating me different, not accepting like others, people calling me "sir" but in a condescending tone because "I was hard to look at" or I looked "unapproachable"...I've gotten that a lot. I finally decide to have surgery, three to be exact. I thought the surgeries would change everything...wrong again.
  
  The surgeries made my left eye come to the center, but for a short time. When I looked in the mirror they still didn't seem right. I still couldn't see properly. I still didn't have fusion. I didn't learn until years later when I met up w/a doctor who specialized in Vision Therapy (VT) that unless the eyes are trained to work together surgery, especially in my case, was only a short term solution. Also, I didn't realize how dangerous the surgery was and three to be exact...I could of went blind. Plus, if I didn't have the surgery my VT doctor would have been able to know w/good certainty where my eyes would end-up after the completion of VT, but after the surgery she wasn't sure where they would end-up.
  
  I was now twenty-four (24) and in a new job. I soon became friends w/a guy who was a night club promoter and he took a liking to me -why, I don't know. At first, I thought he just wanted me to "hook him up" w/cell phones and accessories. But, after I no longer worked there he still remained my friend. Anyway, he introduced to me everything I missed-out on when I was in high school. Parties, alcohol, drugs, girls, hot girls...an exciting life!
  
  I was still looked at as an outcast because I definitely didn't look like the rest of these people who were very good looking, the best looking people in Vegas. The people, who didn't have to wait in line to get into the Vegas night clubs or any night clubs. Soon, I got hooked on drugs, meth to be exact. It was an escape from the pain that was my life. It was for that short time while I was high that I didn't feel so bad about my eyes or think about them like I usually did...which was usually every waking minute, but I still thought about them.
  
  I started to become entrenched with these "clubbers", but I never got to fully experience what they experienced: other people wanting to know and be around them and SEX. Sex I still hadn't had until I finally had it w/some Asian girl that lasted all but two (2) minutes. I had to get the girl high and pretty much beg and still almost didn't get to "do it" because of my looks.
  
  What really frustrated me was I knew what I would look like if only my eyes were right. It was May, right before my twenty-fifth (25th) birthday and I was in this strip club, which was became an afterhours club at 4AM. There was this porn director who had arranged for the everyone in the club to take part in a porn, an orgy so to speak. Well, he spotted me and knew it was going to be a problem to get me with a girl, so he started talking to me, giving me one ecstasy (X) tab after another while trying to get different girls together w/me.
  
  
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by msainttt41 on 07/10/2009
  
  He tried and tried until the group was ending up being at the club longer and longer until he was paying to keep the club open when it should of closed and everybody should of been off to the hotel...it became quite uncomfortable and embarrassing. I finally got out of there with him trying to get me to stay and he finally said "if you have to go, you have to go." I left, went home and balled crying and praying to GOD like I never prayed before asking him to PLEASE, PLEASE make my eyes "go right" for my birthday...which was shortly coming up in June.
  
  I prayed before, but this was the first time when I prayed that I knew what I prayed for was going to happen. The night I was sleeping before my twenty-fifth (25th) birthday I felt something "odd" in the around my eyes. When I woke up, I knew my eyes and I looked different. I came to the mirror with my eyes closed, knelled down and opened my eyes and to my happiness my eyes were "right".
  
  I couldn't wait to get out and meet up w/my clubber friends. Their reactions were instantaneous. They remarked how different I looked. I suddenly had a lot of attention, especially from girls. I was seen as one of the best looking guys in the group, in the clubs, anywhere I went. Girls would smile and wink at me. I suddenly had opportunities I had never had. The girls guys dream about being with were interested and wanted to be with me... it was great! I became arrogant suddenly people weren't in "my league." It was funny, I was cocky and people liked me even more; they wanted to talk and be around me all because I looked good...people are strange. I didn't have a job, but it didn't matter, I was good looking, very good looking and could have any girl I wanted.
  
  Unfortunately, my looks were temporary. My left eye went back to the way it was in two years, so I don't know if it went "right" for those two years due to prayer or the meth I was doing? My scary looks returned, people's discomfort w/me returned too, life w/no girlfriends also returned. I wanted to just die! However, I still hope that if they were right once they could be again.
  I did research and learned about VT; and that it had been around since the late 1800's, which really pissed me off since my eye doctor, when I was young, never suggested it or even mentioned it, which could of saved me years of heartache since it easier, much easier to correct a lazy eye if treatment is conducted before the age of seven (7) after that it is much harder to correct a lazy eye, and gets harder every year after that. I was twenty-nine (29) now so it was going to be really hard.
  
  I started VT and it is now five (5) years later my eyes have gotten considerably better, and I can read and look at things much easier, however, I still get pains and still don't look "normal". I can now look in the mirror and see with both eyes without them tearing-up, but I still don't have fusion and people still look at me with uncertainty, and ask me, "how are you doing today?" translated, "you don't look happy." or "you look pissed." I try and "shake it off", but it hurts terribly, because I know that as long as my eyes are the way they are I won't get to enjoy experiences like most people get to experience like have girlfriends (boyfriends if you’re a straight girl), or girlfriend (singular), or get married, or have kids, or just interact socially like everyone else. I know that unless things change I will end up alone, which really sucks!
  I hate having a lazy eye, BUT I still am an optimist, and I do see and feel my eyes improving...thank goodness after five years. I'm thirty-four (34) now. I just hope my eyes become "right" soon, so I can enjoy life with normal eyes, looking normal while I'm still young enough to enjoy life with normal eyes. I feel for anyone who has to endure living with a lazy eye. I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy.
  
  I wish there was a support group for people with a lazy eye, so we could meet and support each other and tell each other our horror stories because only the ones who have it know what we’re talking about when we say things like, "not able to look other people in the eye."
  
  Ahh, keep punching everyone.
  If there's anyone I can help through my experiences and my knowledge please feel free to contact me: msaint41@gmail.com
  
  
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by GhtY on 07/31/2009
  
  Hey guys,
  
  I know this is an American site but maybe some UK ppl have found their way to this site, just like I did.
  
  I have read most of the comments on this page and understand everyone's concerns and feelings. Many of the experiences with photos and eye contact especially I can empathise with.
  
  I have just had surgery on the NHS to fix my lazy eye to look straight. To anyone reading I would suggest you go see your GP asap no matter how embarassed you are. The waiting time can be lengthy or there can be complications such as needing many eye measurement appointments (just where they measure the squint to see if it changes over time). So the faster you are on the list the quicker you will get your surgery. It took me around 6-12 months to get my surgery so to anyone reading if it bothers you I would really go to your GP. If anyone wants any more info e-mail me at lsalt2k@googlemail.com.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by John81 on 09/18/2009
  
  I have a lazy left eye and trust I am highly embarrassed to have it. Back at my end, no one back at home has this problem except me. This really makes life o difficult. I have no social life.
  
  I work 5 days a week and during my weekly off, I do not go out anywhere.
  
  I have now even come to a decison of not getting married as I do not want my wife to ever feel embarrassed because of my Lazy Eye.
  
  Only people with a Lazy eye would understand how hard life is. Nearly everyday back at work I get to hear so many negative comments, that people pass out about my eye.
  
  anyways, I guess this a part of life & I would have to face it for the rest of my life.
  
  Have a nice weekend ahead.
  
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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Texas Rose on 10/10/2009
  
  I have a wandering left eye. I won't say it is a lazy eye, because I am almost totally blind in that eye. It has been very painful to me, and has kept me back from participating in many things. I often withdraw from situations where I have to have direct eye contact with people.
  The worse part is when you are talking to someone and they think you are rude because they don't think you are looking at them. I have been often misjudged because of that.
  On the bright side - I have a good life. I have been considered to be attractive, and have had many boyfriends, and now a great husband.
  Bottom line - be thankful for what you have. There are always people worse off than you. I am thankful that I am not totally blind.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by John81 on 10/12/2009
  
  Hi Rose, Mentioned below are your statements quoted by you in your message above where in you had stated that
  
  
  "I have a wandering left eye. I won't say it is a lazy eye, because I am almost totally blind in that eye. It has been very painful to me, and has kept me back from participating in many things. I often withdraw from situations where I have to have direct eye contact with people.
  The worse part is when you are talking to someone and they think you are rude because they don't think you are looking at them. I have been often misjudged because of that."
  
  Then after all these loads of negative statements, you have mentioned that on a brighter side you are considered an attractive person, etc etc etc... Wow after so many loads of negative statements, how can someone consider you attractive..
  
  Listen, I would like to explain something to you. You are a woman and you might be very beautiful (except for the lazy eye). This is the only reason why people have fallen pity for you and probably that is why you have got a nice husband. I am not trying to criticize your husband, but I would like to convey some facts to you. It's just that your husband would have had you as the last option and that is why he got married to you because he would have strongly considered that instead of being alone in life, it's best to have someone, no matter if she has a lazy eye. Fair enough, trust me, if I was in his shoes, I would have also have done the same
  
  I am 26 years old boy & I have a lazy left eye. (Infact you can read my article, which is just above your message). Life is really difficult for me. I dont have even a single true friend today. Just like you, I am also misjudged by people. By grace of God luckily there's so much of money that my Dad has made that I can live a very comfortable life. But that also has a major disadvantage, because, till today anytime I have spent time with any girl, I have realized after a while, that they have been with me only because of the wealth I have. Today I am lonely. I know I can afford to buy people's company so that they can spend time with me, but I dont believe in someone or anyone liking me just because of the wealth I have. Apart from my lazy left eye, I am fair, slim & tall. I can say that people find me attractive, But ATTRACTIVE would mean only because of the wealth I have.
  
  I know it is very kind of you to come to this forum in order to enable us to think in a positive way. But please you should not try to misguide us in anyway. It is just good for you to give us the courage to face the World. But dont ever try and give a wrong impression that someone would ever like us because of our other qualities and they would not even care about our lazy eye.
  
  I would like to ask you a question. Would you ever get your daughter/ sister/ brother/ or friend married to a person who has a lazy eye. I know your answer would be a big NO, eventhough you yourself have a lazy eye.
  
  So please, please think before posting stuff in the forums.
  
  Wishing you a very happy married life.
  
  Thank you..
  
  

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  Re: I have a lazy eye.
  Posted by kj69 on 10/14/2009
  
  Well, Im 13 & I have been completely blind out of my right eye since i was 11 days old. I was diagnosed with glaucoma when i was 20 days old. Being a teenager and all its really hard to go through what i go through. Having a lazy eye has really brought down my confidence level & its ALWAYS holding me back in everything I do. I cant look people in the eyes when Im talking to them & i always feel ugly. all my friends are beautiful & seeing them with 2 normal eyes really makes me hate my life. My friends that Ive known forever dont say anything to my face about it but I know they talk about it behind my back. People are always asking me if I can see out of my lazy eye, or if it bugs me. I have alot of friends but its still really hard to look them in the eye. I have side bangs so I usually always just cover it up with them. but still, i always feel dumb with my bangs in my face 24/7. I dance too, so always being on stage really makes me nervous because i hate having that many people see my eye. Being in middle school & all has really made me less confident in myself. When i was younger i wasnt really aware of it, but now Im always afraid people are gonna only see my eye & make fun of me when they talk to me. Im afraid to meet new people b/c i dont want them to comment about my lazy eye, I hate being in pictures & i hate taking pictures of myself because of that reason. When people ask what happened to my eye, or whats wrong with it, I get all choked up, embarrased, & Im always at a loss of words. Im going to high school next year & i can honestly say I am terrified of what people will think of me. Theres no one else in my small town with my condition so i dont really have anyone to relate to. Im probably going to get a surgery done this year to correct it. Pretty much my whole life ive dreamed of looking normal cause i always thought i was the freak that didnt belong. If the surgerey goes well & i have 2 normal looking eyes i would suffocate with happiness. It would really change my life, I mean REALLY. Id have way way way more confidence in myself & i wouldnt have to always have to have my hair in my face, I would love being in pictures, and wouldnt be afraid of meeting new people. I actually think im kinda pretty, but my lazy eye always ruins it. Ever since i was 11 days old Ive had to deal with eye surgeries & crap. Im sick of it. but i thank god that i have perfect vision in at least one eye & I know my condition could be way, way worse. I appreciate everything god has done for me in my life. I just hope people can see me for me, & not for my eye, & I hope theres someone out there that can relate to this. ;) ♥
  
  
  wwwwooowww, this was really long, haha sorry (:
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Ago on 11/15/2009
  
  Hi,
  as most of you I have a lazy eye, I was born with it. I had a patch and glasses since the age of 1 till I was 5. It didn't work at all and the doctors said my eye was "too lazy to be cured". So my parents gave up on it. As I was growing up I didn't notice it, till I was 12 and some guy at school pointed it out, that afternoon I looked at myself in the mirrow and I realized it for the first time. For 3 days I didn't go to school and all I did was cry. At high school I was heavely bullied and it was horrendous. Ever since then I has being a massive stop in my life. I do NEVER look at people in the eyes, I pretty much don't have a social life and everytime I meet someone i'm so paranoid that they are going to look at my eye and notice it that I end up driving them away! I don't have any self confidence, I look at the mirrow and all I see is the lazy eye,! So many times I have though of finishing all off, cos it's not worth to suffer that much then I think how other people are worse off than me and I feel extremely guilty, but I just don't know how to deal with it. My friends say I just should get on with it,that is not that much of a big deal, but it is, they don't underesdand it cos they can see perfectly! How is anyone going to ever love me if I don't love myself?? When I was on my late teens I though the answer was to drink myself stupid and go off with random guys as my only resorce of "finding love" cos I though no one would love me with this stupid wonky eye!! That only made me feel worse about myself and lost any little confidence I had.
  I'm 22 now, and I work with children. The only reason of this is that I know they won't judge me like grown ups do! They won't look at me and ask was wrong with my eye, or even worse, they won't avoid looking at me. I would love more than anything to be a high school teacher, but I know I'll get bullied and it'll be hell. 
  
  I know my story is not different to any other, we have all being through the same, and I admire all of you that have the confidence of getting on with your lifes, I wish I could do the same. I would love to hold a conversation while looking in the eyes of someone, not to look down anymore!
  
  Some of you talk about surgery? What surgery? Every year I have a check up on my eyes and they always say there's no cure for it! Can anyone help?
  
  Many thanks to everyone that writes here, is a big inspiraton!
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by elcubano on 11/16/2009
  
  Well as most of you I have a lazy eye it bothers me deeply of it I cant look people in the eye. I hate when it drives people away from you just cause of it. Although nobody said nothing just in middle and in High school none but I know they talk about it behind my back. This just ruins my social life I don't know. I had 2 surgery's on my eyes about this but I still have the lazy eye. It's at it worst when I focus my vision at something especially school it just hurts me emotionally. I don't know if to get a third surgery but I cant take being like this killing my social life where ever I go.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by lazyi on 11/25/2009
  
  Yeah the whole "what are you looking at" thing when I'm looking at someone aggravates me too.
  
  My brother had his lazy eye corrected when he was a child and he wears contact lenses.
  
  I know this is gross but: I put in his contact lenses one time and had him take a picture of me..........for the first time in my life I seen a picture of me with perfectly straight eyes!
  
  The downsides? 1 - Everything was very blurry 2 - I went to an eye doctor who said that I have 20/20 vision and contacts would hurt my vision permanently. He sure was eager to do surgery though!
  
  My conclusion? I believe a lot of eye doctors don't want to prescribe contacts or glasses because surgery is where the big bucks are!
  
  I'm going to see another eye doctor soon and see if I can get contacts just for taking pictures and making videos. I hope this will work.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by jbby15 on 01/29/2010
  
  Well as of right now im sitting in my high school computer class. honestly, i've struggled with my eye since i was old enough to notice i was "different" than all the other kids. Lazy eye's run in my family. It's always the left eye and me,my 2 brothers,my mama and my grandma all have it. It sotra scares me because im scared that whenever i have kids they will have to go through everything i have been through and i dont want that for them. I used to get picked on soooo bad in middle school about it but whenever i got to high school i told myself that i wasn't going to let it get me down. I am a pretty girl but my eye just throws me off really bad. I always cover it with my classes and throwing my bangs over it. And even though it looks cute that way, i still know that i am hiding something.
  
  I just want everybody to know that you're beautiful and no matter what, don't ever tell yourself different. be happy that that's all you have. Some people are blind or deaf. Atleast we can see the beautiful world that surrounds us. Others can't
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by imperfectlovex3 on 02/01/2010
  
  i too have a lazy eye, like it weird because when i look in the mirror it feels as though as that i don't have one because your eyes are focusing on one object but when i look at others they stare at me weird and it hurts alot because i dunno how my eyes look to them. oh and sorry if it seems that i am rambling alot because thats what i normally do but anywhoo i would always ask my mom if my eye looked that bad and of course she says no ( but thats whats mothers are suppose to do) but any ways i still hide my lazy eye with my bangs because i dont want anyone to see the lazyness you know, and ive been looking up research for my lazy eye and there saying im going to need surgery for it, but im kindof scared to get it done, can someone please give me a little advice about it.
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by ct22 on 02/02/2010
  
  I wasn't born with a lazy eye, but the doctor used forceps and it caused me to have a lazy eye in my left eye. at age 4 I had a surgery on it, and it didn't even help.. as I got a little older(5th grade and up) I was made fun of soo much.. I was called cyclopse, googly eyes, cross eyes, you name it and i was called that, people always managed to remind me I had a lazy eye or something was wrong with my eye on a daily bassis.. it hurt a lot.. I use to cry almost everyday.. I don't get it and I guess I never have, it's like out of all the things wrong with everyone else it was always me that got mad fun of... like most of you all, I hated pictures, I hated going places, so scared people would notice my eye. When I was 15 I had another surgery, and it helped a little, not much though.. and then when I was 16 I had a nother one and it helped pretty good... and my doctor also used botox too for the eyebrow.. I'm 23 now and you can't hardly tell anything is wrong with my eye, unless you grew up with me you wouldn't even know. I can tell sometimes in pictures, but sometimes It looks good. But really none of that matters anymore, I married a wonderful guy who thinks I'm truly beautiful... now i see ilness's on tv, and think man i'm lucky! I hope this little story helped someone.. I would've loved to have someone who was going through the same thing I was growing up. God Bless everyone!
  
  

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  Re:i have a Lazy Eye
  Posted by Zak on 02/09/2010
  
  I was born with a cataract in my left eye, and after three surgeries to fix that and the lazy eye to follow, things got a lot better. right before high school, i had a detached retina and had two more surgeries to correct that. They told me before surgery that there was a 80 percent chance i would lose vision in that eye. Long story short, after the surgery it left me with a pretty bad lazy eye and a little scar tissue (luckily its not to visible). In high school it didn't bother me too much. I was captain of the football team, and had a lot of friends. When I came to college, I got to the point that many of you can relate. I didn't want to look people in the eyes, I was afraid it would affect my ability to get jobs, and I was worried about girls being wierded out. I'm over it. A lazy eye isn't something worth being depressed or worried about. I'm 20 years old, and have been through this worse than many with lazy eyes. I always considered myself a fairly good looking guy with the exception of the eye, but over time I realize it is stupid to worry about. I have never had problems with getting girls, believe me, and I have been dating the girl of my dreams for about 7 months now, and she just so happens to be one of the sexiest girls I have ever met (and no I am not just saying that). I can joke about my lazy eye, my girlfriend jokes about it, and all of my friends joke about it. Here is what people need to realize- it's not some deformity, and it won't stop you from anything unless you let it. Stop being so critical of yourself and definitely never let it depress you. If you are open about it, confident, and you can accept the lazy eye that may or may not be correctable, youre way better off. My lazy eye is probably worse than most, and it used to bother me. The second I stopped whining and feeling sorry for myself, that was when I was able to feel comfortable with myself. Like I said, I have a great job, great friends, and a hot girlfriend that thinks my eye is "cute." Don't settle for less or feel bad about yourself, it could be a lot worse than a lazy eye, trust me.
  
  

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