I've been married to a blind man for 16 years
Posted by Edith on 3/23/2005 at 5:36 PM
This is my third time trying to submit this. I hope I don't end up posting three times. My husband lost his vision when he was 17. Unfortunately he became a very angry person, was violent and drank and did a lot of drugs. That went on for about 5 years. I met him shortly after he got sober. Anyway, it's been a difficult relationship because we both have a lot of baggage from our families of origin. We have just begun counseling for the second time. My issue with his blindness is that I feel invisible to him. He comes home from work and is in his own world and I feel so lonely. I have a hard time with this. I read a lot of your posts and they seem pretty harsh where members discussed sighted people that had a problem with the blindness. My husband is more than just his eyes. But we just can't seem to be intimate. We have two daughters and he enjoys many hobbies. He works full-time, plays guitar and sings in a band, attends AA regularly and sponsors a lot of guys there. He's been paying the mortgate on the house by himself now since I stay home with my two year old. He is an inspiration to me. I think I need him more than he needs me. But anyway, I'm rambling. I wanted to know if anyone knew of a support group for the sighted partner. Thanks.
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Re:I've been married to a blind man for 16 yearsPosted by Info Center on 4/20/2005 at 4:19 PM
Look for support groups on AFB's Home page. You will find the AFB Directory of Services (which is now known as "Where Can I Find?" tool http://www.afb.org/services.asp, where you can locate organizations (in your area) that provide services to people who are blind
or visually impaired and their families.
or visually impaired and their families.
Re:I've been married to a blind man for 16 yearsPosted by Leon on 5/14/2005 at 10:50 AM
Hello, My name is Leon and I was blinded july 28, 1978 in industry. Anger, disgust, rage, & bitterness all go hand in hand with the acquiantence with blindness. May I suggest just talk to him, read to him, and do not selectively delete those things you think he does not need to have read to him, or at least don't get caught doing it by having another say to him did you know.....? I am past most of the anger issues until the control issue raises it's ugly head. I detest feeling that I am in a mirrored fish bowl to be viewed and spied upon by anyone but I can't see them or who they are. If you wish to converse about this further my email address is email@example.com
Re:I've been married to a blind man for 16 yearsPosted by snewsome on 6/14/2006 at 8:35 PM
Thankyou for sharing your situation. I am actually looking for some way to meet a blind man to date. I work for blind people and find them inspirational and more alive than I currently feel. Do you know how I can meet a nice blind man between 35 and 49?
Re:I've been married to a blind man for 16 yearsPosted by Theprinceofcats on 1/21/2009 at 9:56 PM
Hi, my name is David, I am a 41 year old blind man who is full of energy, lots of love to give, great personality and I love animals espically cats!!!
I am almost 6 ft.with gorgeous blonde hair, tan skin and muscular.
I am moving to Cincinnati at the beginning of March and plan to attent college and then on to law school to help other disable people.
I would love to find some one who could understand me as a unique person as my vision goes beyond eye site.
I have been to hell but have made it back alive.
I was blinded by a motorcycle accident when I was 17 years old.
I don't really know exactly how this post will work but some one wants to meet a blind man and that is me.
Hope to hear from you soon,
Re:I've been married to a blind man for 16 yearsPosted by adscorpio on 5/10/2009 at 1:28 AM
I am interested in communicating with you. Please respond back on this post so we can chat further.
Re:I've been married to a blind man for 16 yearsPosted by sclay328 on 2/4/2010 at 2:25 AM
This is a pretty old message and I don't know if you will see the response. I am also married to a blind man, and I feel your pain. No one seems to recognize the frustration and sacrifices that the sighted partner goes through.
I am interested in communicating with you.
newPosted by ichbinrachel on 6/9/2010 at 10:07 PM
I have never known any blind people but I would like to get to know someone, and am interested in dating a blind man age 24-29. I don't know where to go to 'meet' someone though, or at least become friends
Re:I've been married to a blind man for 16 yearsPosted by ebabanisi on 6/15/2010 at 10:25 PM
Hi. Just talk to him. Meaning, you could talk about anything at all sighted people love to talk about. Go out to restaurants, cuddle him, give him massages when you're ready to go to bed. I am sure all this things will rekindle love again. also try and make love as often. Hope this helps.
Re:I've been married to a blind man for 16 yearsPosted by rexlesliehowardjr on 6/30/2010 at 2:44 PM
I'm a little late in posting this response. I just signed up for membership. I am sorry for the difficulties some have faced where unresolved anger are in play. I'm not sure I can give any good advice here because I've never really been angry at being blind or being discriminated against by others. sure it happens but we can either take offence or try to educate others about blindness. I choose to try and educate. True enough, some people are just beyond learning. LOL. I signed up for membership here because the topic of discussion interested me. I am a 44 year old blind man interested in dating a sighted woman. I just moved to the Oklahoma City area and don't really know anyone. I have a couple of close friends here but I don't know anyone in the dating scene. I work for a company that buys and sells medical equipment. I formerly worked for a law firm but because of the conomy and the nature of the law firm's work, I had to seek other employment. Anyone out here from the OKC area?
i am marrying a LUCKY STARPosted by lseiler on 12/14/2010 at 7:30 PM
i am a 33 year old man with cerebal palsy vision loss slight deafness and a human being i fell madly madly in love with a totally blind woman 28 this december we were dating for close to seven months i consider her my LUCKY STAR the reason why i had no chose but to put a ring on her finger is because she completes me she loves me what woman would take all of herself and love someone who she hardly knows take him to the hospital when there sick give them there last bit of food and care so much nonet goes out of the window and disability goes out of the window on this one i am marrying a LUCKY STAR i have my xmas wish my LUCKY STAR I LOVEN HER DEARLY I CANNOT DO ANYTHING WITH OUT HER LJS3673@HOTMAIL.COM
Re:I've been married to a blind man for 16 yearsPosted by roderricklendy on 9/24/2011 at 2:50 PM
I am a blind man of 34yr and looking for a woman who is into me and want to be with me. Someone who do not feel sorry for me. I want to belivie that thier is a great woman out thier for me but it is getting hard to belivie that. Do you know anything I could do Please advise am kind of tried of hearing just pray about. I pray all the time am getting restless.
Re:I've been married to a blind man for 16 yearsPosted by forkermak on 10/28/2011 at 8:38 AM
Been Married to a blind man for 16 years... She is a great lady who dedicated her life for her blind husband. Really hats off to her.
Re:I've been married to a blind man for 16 yearsPosted by robertymaloney on 11/24/2011 at 6:37 AM
I can feel the pleasure of being married to some one like this as i my self is a husband to a blind wife for more than 20 years and i really enjoy the movements passed with her as she is so helpful by all her means.
Re:I've been married to a blind man for 16 yearsPosted by HABILEX on 12/31/2011 at 6:23 AM
well try to talk him about how you feel. I don't know much but i have been dating a blind man 4 over 2years now and it has been great.even though there were times i really felt alone. i just spoke to him about how i felt and that really helped.I wish u all the best and pray that u can't reconnect with your husband.
Re: I've been married to a blind man for 16 yearsPosted by TheBlind.US on 9/15/2012 at 1:34 PM
I was married to someone for 20 but am now dating a wonderful guy by the name of Joel who lives in Kauaii Hawaii.
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