Posted by wiz999 on 9/28/2011 at 8:20 AM
I am a 40 year old man who went blind 5 years ago. I lost everything, my career as a pilot, car, home etc.
Losing my vision was upsetting but i did not get too low about as i had still my wife.
So, for the next 2 years my wife guided me around and drove me everywhere. I didnt want a cane as i want to live life "as normal". i did not want to attract attention to my disability. it worked, people were treating me as sighted without realising my blindness. Life was great- we travelled the world, went dancing, eating out etc
However, 2 years ago me and my wife got divorced. I moved with my aunt and lost all contact with friends. Ever since i have been housebound and havent been outside. i spend my days mostly asleep.
All i think about is my blindness and how bleek the future looks. How will i ever meet someone else again? i always dated as a fully sighted man. i feel lonely and sad.
I hardly eat and miss my wife and wish back the life we had together. she understood my situation.
my aunt does the daily duties like shopping etc as its less hassle and safer.
Anyone else in the same situation? are you also housebound and how do you cope/spend your days?
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Re:houseboundPosted by rachel N on 10/1/2011 at 10:14 AM
Learn to get around and start using it. I would show you, but I doubt I am anywhere near you. You need to learn to be optimistic and unafraid to go out. It's going to be alright.
Re:houseboundPosted by R27784 on 10/1/2011 at 1:38 PM
I agree with Rachel. The situation is not hopeless at all. I used to try to get around without a cane as you, for the same reason as you. I did not want people to know that I was blind. I was ashamed of myself, and I wanted to live life as "normally" as posthattsible. One day while on a college campus, however, I took a step in the wrong direction and fell down some stairs. All that I heard all around me were girls laughing at the situation.
Ever since that time some years ago, I just stopped caring what people3 thought about my blindness. I used to stay at home all of the time because I was too afraid to get out and going. It is hard, lonely, and depressing to be in that state.
Just start off by setting some small goal, then go and achieve it. I learned back at that time that I couldn't just jump on a bus and go around the city; I had to get out and walk around, slowly but surely.
Acceptance, oftentimes the most difficult step, is one fo the first steps which you will have to take. Then build up your confidence, find something you are good at, and make a career out of it. You are by no means hopeless, and you ae by no means a lost cause. You can do this.
Re:houseboundPosted by Ehuffman on 2/8/2012 at 2:15 PM
You can learn to live life again. It is hard and you will struggle, but you are still a human being worthy of respect and dignity. Blindness will always be a part of who you are, but it does not define you.
Would you like to correspond? How did you lose your sight?
I hope to hear from you,
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