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want to know if there any one feeling like me

i am 17 years old almost 18 in seven months and i am totally blind in my right eye they say i can go blind in my left eye i am scared i think if i go blind what the point of living no one will like me

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I think that many 17 year olds have feelings of whether or not people will like them, blind or not. Truth be known, we ALL have something about ourselves that we think at one time or another that people will find unloveable. This self doubt is just part of being human and is completely normal.

What I have learned is that the outside stuff really, truely, doesn't matter. The most beautiful, able body in the world can be empty and selfish on the inside. The most physically challenged can be the most beautiful and loving on the inside.

I think the goal for all of us, impaired or not, is to live up to our potential. Strive to learn the things you want to learn, achieve the goals you want to accomplish, find things you are interested in and are passionate about and as you spend your time doing these things you will eventually meet people that love those activities as much as you do - and they will get to know you, for who you really are , and if you are true to yourself and a thoughtful, kind person on the inside they will natually love and want to be around you.

It's ok to be lonely or have some doubt, but don't let that stop you from gettting up each day and going forward. Keep being the best you, you can be.


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There are probably many people of all ages that feel like you do at this time. The first response to your question is a good one.

For information on making your life the best it can be, despite vision loss, look at the information on the AFB web site. Especially Living with vision loss .


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I know exactly how you feel. My name is Annie and I'm totally blind in my left eye and partially sighted in my right. It was really hard at first and then I contacted the AFB and the NFB and got a cane and stuff. Now I talk to people from the local center for the blind if I'm going through something tough. My email is
dc_blind_03@hotmail.com
If you want to talk, I'm here.

Annie


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I'd like to offer my husband's email address. He was 16 when he was shot with a 12 gauge shot-gun and lost vision entirely. His life changed drastically. He was a juinor in high school, had just bought his own car, had a pretty girlfriend, and loved to surf. He's 40 something now (I forget :) and he's going surfing this Saturday. He plays guitar, has two beautiful daughters and he still loves to go to the beach. He felt like you did at your age. Trust me. Please email him if you'd like. I'll let him know that you might be writing. rick.johnston@uniform.aramark.com


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I understand what wyour going through. My name is Alison. I'm 17. I',m totaly blind. I'll tell you right now it's hard sometimes to fit in. There's been many times where I woke up in the morning and thought why bother going to school. Nobody likes me. Surround yourself with friends who will be there no matter what. If they are tru friends they will be there no matter what. If you want to talk my email is alisonloftis@twlakes.net


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hiya,
i feel just the same as you and it is not nice i am registered blind and the only thing that bothered me loosing my sight is that nobody will want me now i am always alone now so if you ever want a chat or anything get intouch my email is herbz75@aol.com hope to hear from you
john


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Hi my name Alberta Crite I have sarcoidosis and gluccoma and astham tnat what I have I had it for 9 years I was dong. with sarcoidosis in 1997 of nov.17 and I was dong. with gluccoma in 2001 of June 5 and asthmas dong, 1997 April 10 write me back Alberta Crite of Detroit, MI


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Believe me, I know what you're going through.

I am not blind, but I know what it is to be shunned. In our society, we have this "perfection" fetish: you MUST have the "perfect body" (if you're a woman, that means 20 pounds underweight!), the "perfect clothes" (blow a wad on the "latest fashions"), and the "perfect career path" (which you can't get unless you're born with MONEY and CONNECTIONS).

I was born into a huge working-class family (seventh of ten kids), wearing the cheapest clothes possible, and brown-bagging my lunch (if any). Socially, there was no hope of ever being accepted. So, yeah, I know that much of what you're thinking.

e-mail: Thundermist04167@aol.com


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I went thrue the about the same thing when I am leaguay blind now I was your age I was in a wreck and I had a sareable concution it damaged ny optic nurve and now I have glacomia and one day I will be compleatly blind I have gone thrue depresurtion thinking my wife would leave me for another man yeah I feel the same way I am learning to deal with it but it has take a wile email me I would love to talk I have been looking for someone going thrue a simler thing like my self

Joseph168@centurytel.net


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I am 18 and am totally blind in my right eye and going blind in my left. I sometimes feel the same way as you because i have never seemed to fit in very well It can be a really hard time being a teenager and young adult and having to deal with things like this at the same time. If you want you can e-mail me at rebecca@stirling-service-group.com.au
I would love to talk to people who are going through similar things to me


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Yes trust me, i am in a public school. and i feel like a complete outsider sometimes. none of the kids at my school understand me.


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Hello friend, I am also facing this problem along with my two sisters and father. My thinking is getting negative day by day. I am 21 year old. I am leave in India. Now I want to do something for visually challenged person in India. We cannot accept defeat from this life. There are so many success blind people in this world. We can take motivation from them. If you want to talk to me you can write me @ bhola_dheerajdelhi@yahoo.co.in I need your support.


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dear friend you must have a much confidence in your god and your self , and it is very important to believe that lossing the sight is not absolutly the end of life and adaptive your self on new condition and accept it , if you want a be great man althought all difficultes.


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If you're still feeling this way, I can recommend doing something that has helped me in the past. When I was feeling depressed, afraid, and ashamed about losing my eyesight, I took the advice from a friend who told me that I should visit people in the hospital who were in a worse condition than I was. When I did this, it truly helped me to focus my attention off of myself and my problems. When you're mind is free from the preoccupation of problems of life, you're a lot more light headed and you can think of life in a much brighter way. Remember, too, that some problems in life are good to deal with because they can actually help you become a stronger person.

We all want to be liked by everyone, but in reality, that is impossible. Soon you'll understand that there are only a very few people in your life that are worth making an effort to by liked by. So hang in there.

Daniel...


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Hey my name is carol I know how you feel.I have rp slowing losing my eye sight I decided to rehab to get help it took 9 months to finsh it help not being afaid going blind when it goes. to anyone wants to email me at c-huebner@sbcglobal.net


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Hi
I know how you feel. i have no sight in my left eye but i have a small amount of sight in my right eye which i seem to be loosing cos the docs not sure exactly whats rong. its hard fitting in wither you have a sight problem or not but it seems to be come more difficult if you have a sight problem as your probably more consciance of wat people may think.


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Hey man, listen. I'm 16, and have been blind since birth. Don't get too frazzled. You will need to adapt no doubt but life will be the same. Lucky for me I still have a little amount of vision. I should use a cane but don't but my guess is taht you are a long way off from needing one. I read braille, but again, you are probably not to that point. Please don't think you're worthless. I can assure you that you are not. If you need any help at any time with anything, email me at cdog2005@gmail.com. Cody


Benefit of Yoga and Prayanam



Hi I am Siddharth from India and I am blind by right eye and my left eye is O.K.My right eye is blind due to cataract and retina detactment then once I heard about Yoga and prayanam then I contact Baba Ramdev Patanjali Chikisalayay or Patanjali Yogpith,Haridwar then I started Ayurvedic medicine with their Yoga and Prayanam after 8 few months I felt and seen the positive change in my both eyes.My right eye becoming healthy with very slowly and my left eye spacticle lens power decrease from +2.50 to +0.25.So everyone who is suffered from eye problem must do Yoga and Prayanam and it centre is all over the world and for which who living in India can contact us at their local(city) Patanjali Chikishalaya or www.divyayoga.com
From- siddharthbargate@gmail.com


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I would love to be 17 and have only one good eye!
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Been where you are... I'm 41 now...
I found someone that loved me and sorta turned the key for me, showing me I could be loved... and then I stopped feeling bad or sad about my self... A good friend once told me, "if you don't see anything in yourself, no one else will either"... I often think that being blind has been a great filter for making friends... some people don't want to waste their time with you, it's great to find that out front instead of a few months or years down the road. be a wonderful person and will attract that... In college one day, I realized, that for so long, I wanted to be "normal" and then I thought, "normal" is so boring, I've done so many other things that normal people don't do, I have great loving friends and family....

It's a mental exercise... that gets easier with time... I just got tired of being tired of feeling that way and said screw it... a wise man once said about worrying, "if you can change it, why worry. If you can't change it, why worry?"....

Find goals in your life and work towards them...

And know there are people that have done it...

Rafael


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