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Need Help!!! Urgent re relationship with blind person.

Hi
I am a sighted person interested in a blind guy since the past many years. I tried everything to get closer to him as heard that blind people don't trust others easily. I invited him out for coffee, to discuss business plan etc,no reply. So I calmed down and stopped chasing him.
Recently, I contacted him again when a friend of mine told me that she saw him in town. I contacted him on facebook as he is in my friends there, to go somewhere for coffee. And after two three messages he replied back and we agreed to meet at a cafe. I was looking forward to the meeting, but was so nervous that he don't know what is in my heart,and what if he doesnot like me. Anyway, he stayed for coffee and after an hour asked for leave as he had to finish some work. Later on around 6pm I text him to let him know that I enjoyed the drinks and suggested that it would have been better if we stayed longer to know each other more. I got reply from him next day in the morning that he enjoyed it too and that he is going to another city to collect his documents!!
I discussed this with my friends and all of them said that it seems he is not interested and that I stop any further contact with him to avoid any more humiliation. My point is that maybe he was not comfortable with me as it was the first time we met each other personally and that I should try and contact him again.
Despite my friends advice I sent him a message on facebook again asking about his trip etc. No reply yet. I want to ask the other people who are on this forum what should I do now? Whether I keep on contacting him and asking him out or just drop the idea considering maybe he is not liking me?
please help, this is something very important for me.
thanks
sasha

There are currently 3 replies


let him make the next move



If you wait for him to get in touch with you, you show you respect him as a person. You treat him courteously. You treat sighted people with the same kind of courtesy, by the way. You already know he knows how to get in touch with you. So, if he want to do so, he will. Anything else on your part might be perceived by him as crowding behavior. Trust that he will do what he wants to do if only you wait. "Give him space" as the expression goes. He know you like him. Wait and find out if he wants to take it further and you will give him the opportunity to take the initiative.


Re:Need Help!!! Urgent re relationship with blind person.



Thanks for advise.
Actually he have no idea whether I like him or not, as I never revealed it to him.
Today I sent him a detailed email, explaining him why I contacted him time and again, and why I took the first step,as he don't know who I am etc.
I am waiting for his reply. If he does not reply then its over. as I wrote in my email to him too. I did everything now, even told him openly by now. so what ever is his decision, i will accept it and we both will continue our lives if we are not supposed to be with each other.
Lets see. I keep my fingers crossed.
Wish me good luck if you see any hope in it.


Re:Need Help!!! Urgent re relationship with blind person.



Thanks for advise.
Actually he have no idea whether I like him or not, as I never revealed it to him.
Today I sent him a detailed email, explaining him why I contacted him time and again, and why I took the first step,as he don't know who I am etc.
I am waiting for his reply. If he does not reply then its over. as I wrote in my email to him too. I did everything now, even told him openly by now. so what ever is his decision, i will accept it and we both will continue our lives if we are not supposed to be with each other.
Lets see. I keep my fingers crossed.
Wish me good luck if you see any hope in it.


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