Wife can't handle my blindness any more

Posted by drudixon on 2/22/2012 at 3:23 PM

So I'm 36, married, and a father. My wife of 10 years and I have been having issues. One of the big hang ups is she feels she can't have the career she wants because I have Usher Syndrome. She also is tired of the responsibility of driving and she doesn't want the burden of me later in life. I've been doing more to take care of the other issues, and to take cabs more often and reassure her that I can take care of myself. Other than that, what can I do? I love her beyond reckoning and don't want to lose her.

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Re: Wife can't handle my blindness any more

I am sorry for the pain you are obviously feeling. It sounds to me that your wife may be afraid and intimidated by the responsibility she is feeling in your relationship. I had normal vision (and no clue I would ever be otherwise) when I met my husband. Now I am dealing with low vision and the prognosis of an unknown amount of continued deterioration. My husband and I have had our struggles. He worries about what I would do should something happen to him. Perhaps your wife needs to know that you can take care of yourself. And she probably would like to feel that you can take care of her in some ways also. I wish you the best as you work through this with her. Remember often the thing you fight about is not the real (or only) issue.

Re: Wife can't handle my blindness any more

My lisence was revoked by the State due to Fuch's corneal dystrophy. cataracts off didn't help as other issues.I 'm the amputee cut of 4 fingers and thumb on dominant hand. So my husband and kids have to drag me every where and I'm as agraviated and maybe more so.I'm the one who worries what is going tio happen to me as My optic nerve is causing blindness.I was the handyman now no one does it and I can't.As my many health issues increase what will happen to me. I will be married 24 years on July 22 nd.

Re: Wife can't handle my blindness any more

Im sorry. My ex Doug in NY is the same way.

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