What's it like for a blind parent to raise a kid, curious?
Posted by windows7 home premium on 9/20/2009 at 6:46 PM
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Re:What's it like for a blind parent to raise a kid, curious?Posted by asmac33 on 9/22/2009 at 1:46 PM
You know that is a good question. Since my daughter will become either legally or completely blind due to her usher syndrome I would like to know also. I hope you get a response from a blind parent.
Re:What's it like for a blind parent to raise a kid, curious?Posted by windows7 home premium on 10/5/2009 at 10:26 PM
Thanks. I hope your daughter does well.
Re:What's it like for a blind parent to raise a kid, curious?Posted by Windows7 home on 12/2/2009 at 9:28 PM
Elizabeth, that is such a good question.
Re:What's it like for a blind parent to raise a kid, curious?Posted by tragic_hero on 12/21/2009 at 2:25 AM
Hey, just providing some encouragement for your daughter. I'm a 27 year old with Usher's and while it's not been a walk in the park, I'm doing very well! I've got a job as an engineer, live on my own with a couple of friends and am generally vert happy! That said, the fun is just beginning as I'm learning to live with less and less peripheral vision and I have profound hearing loss in both ears already.
Although still single myself, I'd recommend constructively challenging your daughter. I can't stress how important that is. Be understanding, but challenge her. It's easy to get discouraged and end up wallying in self-pity. Growing up, my parents were very supportive of anything I did . . . almost too supportive. If I wanted to give up, they'd accept that when what I really needed was for someone to push me forward and tell me: No, I know it's difficult, and yes it's different but you have to do it.
Oh, and encourage her learn sign language AND braille. As an adolescent I refused to accept my condition and learn either. And my rationale, humbling though it is to confess, was that I didn't know if I'd be blind or deaf first! In so doing, I cut myself off from the best friends that were the most like me.
Re:What's it like for a blind parent to raise a kid, curious?Posted by Music fan24 on 1/25/2010 at 10:06 PM
wow!! that's amazing that you got threw that.!
Well, I am also curious even though I am only 16 I would like to know what is it like.
good luck with everything!
Re:What's it like for a blind parent to raise a kid, curious?Posted by opalbrite on 1/25/2010 at 10:36 PM
I am the daughter of a blind single parent, and I can honestly say, from visiting my friends and such that there is almost no difference at all. In fact, I think I have had a more positive upbringing than most people. The only difference is that he relied on my sight. For instance, when we went shopping I read the labels, and when we went to the bank I made out the deposit slips. Having found out that the condition is hereditary, I am now dealing with the fact that one day I will lose my vision completely, and I am so grateful to have had my father's example to guide me.
As a side note, when I found out that my condition was hereditary, I swore that I would never have children. I am attending a center for the blind, and when I told a fellow student this, his response was, "What is so wrong with a blind child?" I could not answer him, and now that I independently travel as a totally blind person under sleepshades, I see that there is nothing wrong, and I cannot wait to be a mother.
Re:What's it like for a blind parent to raise a kid, curious?Posted by little wolf on 3/12/2010 at 1:54 AM
Well let's see. I happen to have four children. A 1 year old, a 2your old a five your old and an 8 year old. I've been maried for 7 years but my husband works 10 hour days so I am with the kids alone all the time. I have to say that once you get the hang of it, it's really easy. That's not to say that I would look after them in an unfamiliar environment. But I do very well in places that I know. I would say that I only have four things that I would considder difficuly to do, but not impossible. Transportation: I wish I could drive. taking a buss is hard cuz I'm totally blind, no sight at all. And for those of you who know what it's like to travel without sight, holding on to more that a cane and a bag is difficult. In my case, I would have four hands to hold plus my cane. Shopping for specific items: Let's say I need size two clothes, and I find them. how do I know whether they look good. You know some colors just don't look good on people. Plus most stores aren't organized at all. Clothes on the wrong hangers and so forth. But I deel. Filling out forms, cleaning up stains, getting stains out of clothes: All I can say there is if one of my children vomets, how do I know if I got it all? What takes a sighted person minutes to clean up, takes me much longer. But again I deel. Birthday parties: I feel like when I take them out, that I'm expecting a lot of other people towatch my child. I find I have to swollow my pride a lot in those situations. But really. I'm not complaining at all. I love my kids. I love what I do and I wouldn't trade them or my situation for anything. I'm open to questions. I love to talk.
Re:What's it like for a blind parent to raise a kid, curious?Posted by marandasuponit on 3/18/2010 at 5:57 PM
Some thing I know a lot about, finally! I am a single, or atleast for four years I was, mother of two great little boys whom are only 11 months apart. It's like having twins. I have to say that it's really no different than any of my other friends that are sighted. Now that my children are older I tend to rely on my older son for help from time to time. He reads lable at the store for me, helps me get the laundry together, you know getting the white away from the other cloths. My kids got sick of whereing pink underwhere and sox! LOL. he also helps me with the mail and stuff like that. He is really mature for his age and kind of had to grow up a little faster but he really doesn't mind helping. I would have to agree with the other girl that said it just takes us a little longer to get things, but, they get done. There are times when my children try and take atvantedge of me, but, knowing them as well as I do, it doesn't happen very often. I love being a parent and wouldn't trade it for any thing in the world. Hope this answers your question. Please write me at my e.mail address if you would like to chat. firstname.lastname@example.org
Re:What's it like for a blind parent to raise a kid, curious?Posted by Thrill Monster on 4/10/2010 at 9:51 AM
Would any of you let your kids bungee jump or ride roller coasters? I'm very curious. I want to be a blind parent. What's it like taking your kids to amusement parks?
Re:What's it like for a blind parent to raise a kid, curious?Posted by little wolf on 4/13/2010 at 1:51 AM
I wouldn't dare. There are just too many people around for that kind of thing. I'd take some one with me for sure. As much as it kills me to say this. I can't do everything for them. Sometimes you have to rely on other people. Birthday parties are hard to. But I'd definetly go with them. I'd want to be a part of their fun.
Re:What's it like for a blind parent to raise a kid, curious?Posted by ores23 on 5/3/2010 at 12:57 PM
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Re:What's it like for a blind parent to raise a kid, curious?Posted by little wolf on 5/6/2010 at 12:39 AM
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Re:What's it like for a blind parent to raise a kid, curious?Posted by hockeydude on 5/6/2010 at 11:54 PM
I am about to be blind, like in the next few months. Disease is getting worse quick and I am starting to make plans to be blind -- yet maintain employment and joint custody of my child. I am not coming up w too many helpful ideas of how enter into this phase of my life. Transportation being the biggest issue. No family in town. Public transportation is not close. So any tips you all have I am willing to learn. I'm terrified quite frankly, but I am willing to learn. Hoping my ex won't try to gain sole custody.
What's it like for a blind parent to raise a kid?Posted by mishca34 on 2/6/2012 at 6:34 PM
Well, I know have a four year old daughter and am totally blind as of a year in July. Has not been easy , but if not for my baby I don't think I would have ever over come my depression and still suffer from. It is not easy but is so able to be done. Asking for help is neccessary. And that was not easy for me who liked to do thinkgs on her own. Help from teachrs and any friends. If your around a Braille Institute or any transportation services such as in California like Access Services or Dial a ride. But, transprotation can be a pain. Just prepare for the blindness to come and know that kids are very understanding and will learn your limitations. I am still able to play, cook and tell my daughter stories. She also is able to let me know colors as well and this is very helpful.
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