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Legally blind mom of one child considering having another child

Hello, I am 34 and have a 4 year old son. My husband and I are considering trying to have another baby. I just have so many worries and concerns. I would love to talk to parents whohave more than one child, and who are not able to drive.

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I myself have four kids. I'm totally blind. My kids are 8 4 2 and 15 months. My husband works ten or sometomes 12 hour days. It really sucks. What does your husband do? What kind of concerns do you have?


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Hello, I'm Sylvia. My husband and I are both totally blind and have 2 children. A nine-year-old boy and a seven-year-old girl. Our biggest challenge is transportation. We're always having to depend on people to drive us most of the time. As our kids are growing it's getting harder for people to accommodate our family of four into their vehicles. we are thinking of having more children, but transportation issues are the only things that are our stumbling block. I would love any feedback any of you might have about how to handle these transportation issues as well as some child diciplinary issues. Obviously with both of us being blind our children feel they can get away with more than kids with sighted parents. Look forward to chatting with many of you.


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I plan on not having kids. I'm a teenager and I can't stand the thought of not being able to drive my kids whereever they want to go. That's why I'm not having any.


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I am a single mom of two children, ages 6 and 4. We definitely have our challenges, among the most difficult is transportation. However, depending on the area in which you live, there is usually a way to work out the most important transportation concerns such as school, daycare, work, etc. If you live in a tiny town somewhere, this may be a totally different matter.

As far as whether or not to have children, I would never consider not being a mother. Having my children has been the absolute best thing in my life.

I understand the concern about children trying to get away with things since both parents are blind. I have the same problems at times. When I catch my children in their sneaky moments, I remind them how much I love them and how it hurts to have them lie to me. This usually works wonders. Other than that, disciplinary actions would be the same such as taking away their favorite toys or activities until a time when they are able to behave appropriately. Also, some parents choose spanking but that is entirely an individual decision.

I would be glad to chat about life with my kiddos.


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Hi there.
I am a single mother of two boy's who are 11 months apart. I love my children more than any thing in this world and wouldn't never think about not having them or not havingany more for that matter. Yes, at times, it's hard because they think they can get away with more because you can't see, but, they will soon learn that they really can't get away with as much. My children at 6 and 7 years old. Yes getting from one place to another can be hard at times, but, there is always some one out there that is willing to help you. Never be afraid to ask for help. Most people will take you to the store and places that yu have to go, the only prob I have found is finding those who will take you where you want to go. Try getting all the things you need to do done in one day, then try doing the thing you want to do in another. That way your time and the persons time isn't being waisted. i hope some of this is helpfull. please feel free to write back on here or email me, marandas09@gmail.com.
ashley


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My son Patrick is legally blind, He is trying to get custody of his son. We are having difficulty with the court system believe he is capable due to his vision. Patrick has a full time job and maintains his own house. I need some ideas on how to convience the judge of his ability as a blind father. The mother has given her rights over to her mother. My son and the baby mother were never married but we have determined through DNA testing that it is his baby. Help Please...


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I was a programmer for many years and we have a blind programmer on our staffhttp://pureafricanmangoextract.org/african-mango-p...>. He was pretty good too. We always treated him like a seeing eyed person. When you think about it its quite amazing.


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I was a programmer for many years and we have a blind programmer on our staff. He was pretty good too. We always treated him like a seeing eyed person. When you think about it its quite amazing.


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I have kids ages 15, 10, and 7. I was diagnosed with RP last year and has progressed rather quickly. I immediately lost my drivers license. Our family has had several adaptations specifically with transportation. The kids ride bikes and roller blade to many activities. My husband is able to adapt his schedule to meet most of our transportation needs and we have several friends and neighbors that help us out. You never know when life is going to send you a curve ball. If you'd like additional children have them while you have the chance! They'll adapt better than you think.
Angela


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Seems I have come upon very old posts but will comment a little just in case someone else searches and see older information too. I am legally blind and slowly losing more as the days pass. I have RP. My 1st child was/is an amazing helper, my 2nd child is too, they are 23 months apart, currently 2 1/2 & 4 1/2. There are impossible days, where I feel like I am failing them but most days are good and some are even great... one recent great day was overhearing my oldest playing dolls... "your eyes are broken? That is OK, I will help you" it feels really good to know I am raising a caring human being. They are bad, they are kids, there are hard days, but who doesn't have them. I think for me I had to look long and hard at the relationship I had with my husband and if he could handle more, as well as myself, could I? I am a stay at home mom, I know one other LB mom. My husband is a cop, works midnights so I care for my kids most of the time alone. Reading the story of Patrick and fighting for his kids breaks my heart. We are not less of a parent for vision loss. We make up for it in so many other ways. It disgusts me that someone could try and take that from him or me... which I know if something happens to my husband my estranged in/out laws would fight to the death to take my girls form me, even though they are out because they treated us/me so bad after our 1st was born that we could not handle them. I walk my kids to school, my husband drops me off to cloth shop for them while he heads to a movie... It is all good, I suggest it and prefer it. I think if you want something bad enough then you will make it work. I try never to let my blindness define me but I would be lying if I said it did not from time to time but that is more me than anything. Only you know if something could work for you. If you are thinking about it then you think you can handle it, not every day will be a breeze but who ever has it that way. Hopefully this helps someone and makes sense. Wishing everyone luck and happiness.


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I wanted to let everyone know that I have created a facebook group called low vision/blind parents. I hope to create a place to come together to discover the world of parenting and how to resolve issues. I hope that all of you will join the group.


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