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I need help as a parent

Hello,
My name is Greg and I have a 15 year old son who is legally blind. He is so talented with music and is just a wonderful person to be around. He feels because of his severely limited vision that he does not offer much to other people in terms of a cosistant relationship and friendship. He isolates himself and does not want to limit his life to focusing on summer camps for the blind and such.
I want to get him involved in something for the summer. I have tried putting up flyers which say looking for band members and such but no success.
He would also like to find some work for the summer but we are also having a very difficult time with that as well.
If anyone has any suggestions that may help I would so much appreciate it.
My email address is : gcorbett@morvilloandsons.com

Thanks,
Greg

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Re:I need help as a parent



Hey, I have an 11 year old son that has LCA. He is not blind but very limited vision. He does not want to be involved in the summer camps for the blind either. But, he is very uncomfortable meeting people. Once I realized that he liked to be around people and have friends, but felt he was so different that all they would do is make fun of him. ( He has been made fun of alot) I had him get some counseling. (school and from dr) I also kept pushing him. I constantly reminded him that there is children out there that will be your friend, you just have to wade through all the bad. I also told him to be honest with people. Educate them on your eye condition so that they understand. (some kids are just freaked out by someone being different) Once they understand then show them the things you can offer. (Ex: I cant throw a ball with you, but hey I'm real good at.....) These things have seemed to help. He goes to a summer camp. (Only one visually impaired) and these kids have really been a big support for him. They have made him feel better and help when he couldnt see.(without him asking) He then started getting phone calls and asked to be at sleepovers. Now he feels alot better about himself. It sounds to me your son is going through same situations, sadness? lonely? afraid of rejection? Have you tried counseling? Regular camps?


Re:I need help as a parent



Hey, I have an 11 year old son that has LCA. He is not blind but very limited vision. He does not want to be involved in the summer camps for the blind either. But, he is very uncomfortable meeting people. Once I realized that he liked to be around people and have friends, but felt he was so different that all they would do is make fun of him. ( He has been made fun of alot) I had him get some counseling. (school and from dr) I also kept pushing him. I constantly reminded him that there is children out there that will be your friend, you just have to wade through all the bad. I also told him to be honest with people. Educate them on your eye condition so that they understand. (some kids are just freaked out by someone being different) Once they understand then show them the things you can offer. (Ex: I cant throw a ball with you, but hey I'm real good at.....) These things have seemed to help. He goes to a summer camp. (Only one visually impaired) and these kids have really been a big support for him. They have made him feel better and help when he couldnt see.(without him asking) He then started getting phone calls and asked to be at sleepovers. Now he feels alot better about himself. It sounds to me your son is going through same situations, sadness? lonely? afraid of rejection? Have you tried counseling? Regular camps?


Re:I need help as a parent



Hi. You may find FamilyConnect.org a very useful resource. Check out the Teenagers section on "Transition to Independence":

http://www.familyconnect.org/parentsite.asp?Sectio...

which has some articles about summer programs as well as finding work. There is also a forum there specifically for parents of teenagers:

http://www.familyconnect.org/message_board_subject...


Re:I need help as a parent



Hi, let me just say as an adult now who came from the same feelings as your son. I actually found that going to the summer camps for the blind or visually impaired did help. Camp Bloomfeild in Malibu, Ca is a great one. They have a session there for just teenagers and another for parents and teens. He will probably not want to, but I found actually being around other teens as I made me feel not so alne and actually connected. I had so many friends at the end of it and even had a couple of boyfriends. You expand more knowing that you are not alone and there are somany around the country just like you. It is only for a couple of weks but can really help. I would also looking into websites as said above. Hang in there


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I am a fifteen year old girl, and I know exactly how your son feels. Being different at our age isn't fun sometimes. I understand if you would not feel comfortable with this, but if your son ever wants to talk I will leave my email at the bottom. I do think that a summer camp would really help him. I went to one and had an excellent time being with others who could relate to me. Unfortunately there are not many camps available where I live, but I will always remember my experience. My email is abeds1028@gmail.com


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