Dating people that are legally blind/partially sighted
Posted by roses4linda on 4/19/2011 at 4:21 PM
It is very difficult for a legally blind/partially sighted person such asd myself (I have RP and am a woman) to date seomeone "normal" because they seem to freak out when you tell them that you can't see very well. Hey I'm perfectly normal in every other way, I am a decent, loving, caring, sweet person, have a great sense of humor and great personality, and have been told I'm pretty and have a lot to offer someone. As we get older (I'm in my 50's) it gets harder to date people but when you have a sight problem of some sort, that seem to put you in a totally different place in the dating scene, guy or gals seem to freak out and don't want to get to know you, the person you are inside, they can't get past the fact you are blind and afraid they might get what you have. I would love to meet someone, I get lonely and want someone to share and love again, doesn't everyone? I still love to go out and do things, I'm not dead yet! How do we get the general public to see we are just normal and just like them, just need a little help every once in a while, I'm open to suggestion, I always seem to get losers or guys that want to take advantage of me or me to pay for everything. What happen to old fashion way of dating and love, is it a thing of the past and no one believes in love and romantic anymore?
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Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by Thrill Monster on 4/20/2011 at 12:04 AM
I'm 18 and since I'm legally blind, I have never had a real relationship. People freak out like you said.
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by roses4linda on 4/20/2011 at 2:04 AM
You are still very young and still have a full life ahead of you, don't give up, I have been married 3 times but never gave up when them went bad, have to keep your chin up and keep looking, at least that's what people keep telling me, there is someone out there for everyone somewhere, but where I don't know, I'm 55 and still looking. If you find out where they are hiding let me know ok? And I will do the same for you. Keep smiling, your prince will come sooner than you think
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by Blkmi on 4/20/2011 at 4:23 AM
I'm 25yrs,male,black,not blind but willing to have a blind person. Email me email@example.com
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by puromichoacan on 4/20/2011 at 11:15 AM
Well... not EVERYBODY freaks out
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by Thrill Monster on 4/20/2011 at 12:23 PM
I want a guy who is a thrill seeker, who will take me bungee jumping and skydiving.
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by roses4linda on 4/20/2011 at 2:36 PM
No not everyone freaks out, but most do, are you dating someone or are you partial sighted? I would like to talk more about about your experience with normal people and how you have been lucky to find ones that don't freak out, I haven't been so lucky, so if you know someone who would like to date someone like me (I live in Southern California) please let me know. Tell us your story anyway.
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by Thrill Monster on 4/20/2011 at 7:07 PM
Have you ever skydived or bungee jumped?
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by roses4linda on 4/20/2011 at 8:22 PM
No, I have had the desire to do either one, I let the guys do the scary stuff, I used to watch them, it's pretty exciting watching them jump, such a rush watching them, so all the power to you kid, keep up the good work.
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by Thrill Monster on 4/20/2011 at 9:23 PM
Skydi&ng is the biggest rush, especially when you first jump out of the plane.
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by puromichoacan on 4/20/2011 at 9:30 PM
roses4linda I don't know why blind people assume that sighted people won't like them. It simply isn't the case.
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by roses4linda on 4/20/2011 at 11:56 PM
puromichoacan, probably because lately I haven't had much luck with dating guys who are sighted, they seem to shy away from me, saying it is too much trouble to watch out for me when I need it, or give me a helping hand, I don't know where you live, but here in Los Angeles, a lot of guy are very selfish and only want someone who makes them look good and don't want to take the time to get to know you as a person. Are you dating a partially sighted person?
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by puromichoacan on 4/21/2011 at 10:52 AM
I don't much like talking on here. But if you give me your contact info I'll drop you a line.
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by roses4linda on 4/21/2011 at 12:36 PM
puromichoacan, as your requested here's my email address firstname.lastname@example.org, I would love to talk to you, please feel free to email me and we can talk more freely
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by Thrill Monster on 4/22/2011 at 12:45 AM
My email is email@example.com if anyone is interested.
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by Alucard817 on 5/9/2011 at 5:25 AM
Im a 35 year old sighted man and I think it would be fun to date a woman who's blind. We are around it's just hard to find us.
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by Writing For Children on 5/20/2011 at 3:37 AM
I just always assumed that blind people do not want to be bothered, so I tend to not approach you guys.
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by Alucard817 on 5/20/2011 at 3:38 AM
I am fully sighted and would love to date a woman who is blind. I think the experience would be great.
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by puromichoacan on 5/20/2011 at 12:02 PM
Right... but she is also sighted and looking for someone who is blind. Maybe the two of you could take turns closing your eyes. :) :) :)
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by puromichoacan on 5/20/2011 at 12:04 PM
Oh, my bad, I was referring to jules, not the orriginal poster. Ignore my other post.
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by roses4linda on 5/20/2011 at 7:59 PM
Thanks alot, I'm the original poster and you make it seem like I'm desperated or something, I have dated both sighted and non sighted, and don't have a problem dating either. The only problem I have is the sighted tend to make fun of the partial sighted and think it would be "fun" to date one and not get to know the person inside, that's it what I don't like, I want a healthy relationship just like anyone else does, isn't there anyone one here that want the same thing? I was once told that many of the responsers on there are a bunch of jerks and now I am beginning to believe them and just come on here to make fun of partially sighted and blind people
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by EmergencyRoomNeuron on 5/21/2011 at 11:42 AM
I'm not so sure about the blind comunity on here being jerks. Most of them are ok people. Please take my advice to heart. The sighted people on this forum, not all, are sick in their minds. By that I mean that they're hunting spacifically for blind women, for a myriad of unhealthy, terifying, and possibly dangerous reasons, I would know. As hard as it may be to wait, I don't recomend looking for a sighted man on a forum spacifically for blind people. Dating sights like EHarmony, match.com, and even OKCupid are less dangerous for you. There are dating sights spacifically for disabled people, A thread called dating and relationships has some links I believe. If you choose to continue looking online, and choose a dating sight like the main streem ones I listed above, I would suggest not hiding your visual impairment, but not making it a big deel either. Just mention it in passing. Good luck, and be extremely careful.
Re:Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by apollo1966 on 11/22/2011 at 4:49 PM
My names Scott.I met a girl in Virgina that was blind from birth.I really liked her a lot.But she wanted the person she dated to like everything she liked.I told her i get nervous in crowds ans she didn't like that.But i do like to help people i am a care giver by nature.Also i know there's technology being tested that i know in a short amount of time there wont be totally blind people in this country and that's exciting.Another advantage is i dont have to wait till the lights turned off before i take off my cap.Please if your interested in knowing me e-mail firstname.lastname@example.org
Re: Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by pepino on 3/17/2012 at 4:33 AM
Re: Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by brendan83 on 3/20/2012 at 10:01 PM
I have such a hard time finding someone who is willing to date a blind person. I am so full of life and a lot of fun but there is nothing out there.
Re: Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by AGC95 on 7/23/2012 at 12:51 PM
Hi, I'm a new member here; but, would like to put in my two cents on this subject. As a legally blind 35 year old male, I understand the problems involved when it comes to dating.
In high school and college, I attempted to date girls; but, most of them got nervous and/or freaked out when I brought up the subject with them. After I graduated from college, church was the only place I went where there were others my age; but, I pretty much had the same experiences there as I did in school.
I'm not much into dating sites; so, that leaves facebook. I've tried to talk to a few girls on there and when it gets to the part about going out for the first time, I get the silent treatment.
Now, that brings up something that I'd like to ask the ladies who are reading this. Is it too much to ask for people that I show an interest in to be courteous, rather you are interested or not? Being turned down does not bother me near as much as the lack of respect exhibited by most girls in my age group. If you're not interested; then, a simple "That is very nice of you to offer; but, I'm already in a relationship" or "Thanks; but, I already have plans" would be all that's necessary and that would be the end of it.
There was a girl that I was talking to at college and I thought things were going well. On the day of final exams, we were talking and I asked her if she wanted to go eat after exams were over. She said that she'd like to do that, told me what time her last exam was over, and said she would meet me in the break area. So, I rushed to finish my exam so I could make sure I didn't miss her. A few minutes after returning to the place where we were to meet, I heard a door open. Within a few seconds, I realized it was her and as soon as she saw me; she took off like a rocket, jumped in her car, and left. There again, there was no respect or consideration here. If she was not interested in going out, she should have been up front to begin with instead of telling me what she thought I wanted to hear, only to do the exact opposite.
IMHO, one problem here is that many people are afraid of what they don't know. What's sad is that many of these people, both male and female, don't want to take the time to get to know us. Most of them have the attitude that if he/she is not a member of the "cool clique"; then, they are not worth the effort. Another problem is the "entitlement culture" that we live in today. Many people in my generation are given the best of everything by their parents because their parents don't want their kids growing up the way they did. I'm not saying that parents shouldn't provide for their children; but, anything can be taken too far. As a result, these children grow up to be adults who expect the best of everything right out of the box and they will not associate with anyone who can't or won't give it to them. Growing up, I had an Aunt, who was very poor; but, there was much love in that house. She lived out of town; but, we'd visit several times a year and I always looked forward to going to her house. OTOH, I had another out-of-town aunt who was just the opposite. They were well off, acted snooty towards people who were not in their economic status, and were constantly trying to keep up with their rich friends. I always hated to pull up in their driveway and was very happy when it was time to leave. The point I'm trying to make is that money and material goods are not everything. I'd rather be living in the poor house and have people in my life who truly loved me for the type of person I am instead of being super rich and have people in my life who were only hanging around for the status and what they could get.
With that said, I used to get down in the dumps when I'd get rejected. Then, I came to realize that God has a plan for all of us and if He has someone in mind for me; then, it will happen. If not; that's OK, too. Even though I still don't like the actions of some people; I don't go into a state of depression if a dating attempt goes sour. I just say to myself, "Well, this one didn't work out; so, that means it wasn't meant to be in the first place."
Also, be happy with who YOU are! If you are not happy with yourself; then, others will likely not be happy to hang around you.
Don't move too fast. Get to know the person you're interested in. I think one of the mistakes I made was moving too fast. The result of moving too fast may be that you scare the person off and/or you find out that they were not the kindhearted, nice person that you thought they were. In my way of thinking, I always thought that if I didn't move quick enough; then, someone else would slide in. Looking back, that was probably not the best way of thinking.
Just be yourself and don't try to be someone you're not. If someone does not like you for who you are; then, you don't need them in the first place. I've had people tell me to be an ***hole and I'd have girls falling all over me. I will not compromise my standards for the sake of getting a date and I urge anyone reading this not to do so, either.
Don't assume that blind/VI persons can only date people with the same condition. It burns me up when someone ask, "Aren't there any blind girls you could date?" I take that to mean that no one who is "normal" would give you the time of day. If you truly love someone and they truly love you, it will not matter what is wrong with you.
Anyway, I guess I've rambled on enough about this subject. Feel free to coment with any other advice of if you think I'm totally off my rocker on any of this.
Re: Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by SensuallyNaturallyLiving4Today on 4/3/2013 at 12:19 PM
Well, I am totally blind and I am married to a sighted man. Please don't use the word "normal" it puts sighted people down, and it puts blind people down, it is just inaccurate, negative and not necessary. The first step to getting what you want is getting your mind right, making you right with yourself, comfortable and confident in your own skin. Lots of guys are jerks, and lots of women are jerks too. Also, anyone can be shallow and not worth your time, sighted or not. If you want a meaningful relationship I suggest you A. take the word "normal" out of your vocabulary. Blind is not a dirty word, and neither is sighted. B. Get out there, make sure you are getting to work, school or volinteering at least 4 or 5 days a week, to church, or cinigog or mosque or whatever your place of spiritual or religious gathering is, once a week, and to a community event or group at least once a week. You can't meet people if you aren't out there in the real world. C. Join a dating website and carefully and fully create a nice profile and ensure that you have honest, attractive pictures of yourself to post. Whenever someone doesn't post a picture it is clear they have something to hide. Check out and give a fair chance to every match you are sent, without either giving up your standards or being so picky as to exclude genuinely nice people. Communicate with them without disclosing your blindness, make sure your photograph doesn't show your cane, guide dog, and that your eyes are open and that your expression is friendly, and let them know you are blind once you've had a good chance to make an impression. Don't blind side them with it on the first in-person date, but don't go shouting it all over your profile and initial communications either. D. Make sure that you are nurturing and putting your self forth in ways that are appealing to all 5 senses, including how you look. You don't have to be a fashion plate and wear a ton of makeup, but you should know how to apply makeup for special ocasions and at least some degree of thought and style should go into every single outfit you wear. E. Go on dates, give them and yourself a fair chance and just keep trying. F. develop some strong interests that can be common ground on dates and in new relationships, both the friend and the romantic variety. Have a good solid base of TV shows, movies, musical artists and books you can discuss, have well-thought out opinions and views on political and current events issues, have a clear and confident sexuality that you neither throw in their face or hide away, have at least one sport or athletic interest, have at least one artistic interest such as music, sculpture, archetecture, painting, theatre, etc, have at least one clear accademic interest: psychology, mathematics, biology, phylosophy, literature, etc, have at least one style of cuisine you know a lot about and truly enjoy that you can share with them either through cooking and or introducing them to new restaurants. In essence, make sure you have a life, something to share, because an empty boring person won't find successful relationships, whether they are blind or not. I hope this helps. If you have more specific questions about how I went about dating and or how my husband and I balance our relationship, feel free to email me at email@example.com with AFB and Relationship discussion, in the subject line.
Re: Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by oshman on 4/14/2013 at 11:31 AM
hi this is oshman .I am a new comer I lost my vition one year ago I like to have friends my email is firstname.lastname@example.org.
I like to talk and like to make a good communication with all over the world
Re: Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by Bamm on 8/2/2013 at 2:44 AM
I've, strangely enough, never met a blind person before. The idea that people are functioning in the same world as me but perceiving it completely differently is very Intriguing to me. I'm a college student and would love to meet and talk to someone my age who is blind email@example.com
Re: Dating people that are legally blind/partially sightedPosted by EastCarolina on 11/22/2013 at 10:37 PM
This is interesting to me. I'm leagly blind and know lots of other leagly blind and blind people. It seems to me leagly blind guys have more luck finding normal sighted girls to date and marry than leagly blind women do with sighted guys which I find kinda funny with all the hard up guys out there lol. Anyway I have been married to my wife for 13 years. We started dating when I was 19 and she was 17 and have been together ever since. When we started dating the only trouble she had was her high school friends asking dumb questions and making jokes. Now I would say the only part about being with me that's different from being married to someone with normal vision is she has to drive ALL THE TIME lol. She has to take me to work then she goes to work. I get off before she does so I have to wait for her lol. Just don't be scared to be you use online dating sites etc. There are so called normal people that don't mind being with someone leagly blind lol. But then again back when I first started dating my wife I was a smooth talking good looking guy leagly blind or not. I'm kinda fat now so I better hang on to her lol.
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