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I have a 19 year old female friend who lost her full vision about 5 months ago ...

she went totally blind due to a tragic car accident. I've never had a blind friend before, and I now I'm wracking my brain for fun ways to entertain her: any suggestions? All the people she thought were her friends have now drifted away from her because of her blindness, I'm not like that, so I want to see her happy and active again, I am just running out of ideas on what we can do together other than just talking.

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I love jumping off the stratosphere!


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I'm going to jump off the 1,456-foot tall Stratosphere Tower in Las Vegas.


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Hey, does your friend have a guide dog?


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I want to ride The Monster!


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SHERYL_F,

Despite your post being a slight bit dated, I am wondering,
has your friend already been set up with assistive
technologies -- most importantly, a screen reader program
for the computer and her cell phone?

Also, along the guides of independence, has she received
any training as in learning how to get around skillfully with a
cane, using the computer, cooking, laundry, house keeping,
shopping, etc; you know, the simple basics.

The reason behind my question is that with mastering the
basics, your friend will see that she can function as everyone
else does, and from that, she will feel confident enough to
develop and indulge herself in her own kind of fun --
becoming a co-conspirator in your adventures; a partner in
crime (P I C) as it were.

As an aside, I am compelled to say that your head is in the
right place, and that choosing to stand by your friend through
such a trauma says something about your character.

For your particular question, I agree with the previous posts
wholeheartedly. Try anything; whatever it happens to be,
some small modifications will make it possible.

Here is something that you can do right away...

Go old school and grab a piece of paper and pen. Then write
this question at the very top, "What are girls my age doing?"

Follow this up with a list of things off the top of your head. Do
not think if it will work. If you think about the details at all,
you will begin to get discouraged with all the 'what-ifs'. Do not
think of details; Just write the activity down.

When the list is done, you can begin to go through the list
item by item, and work on the details of how to make each
one work.

Also, as an easy bonus, you can ask your friend what she
misses doing most while she had her vision and secretly
make a list. Then, as above, go through the list and get
creative. Later, you can surprise her with your
creativity.

If you find an idem on any of your lists that seems impossible
to you, post them here on the boards, and You will get a
plethora of suggestions.

Okay, SHERYL_F, that is more than enough ideas to put you
on the right mind set for creativity and fun adventures ahead
with your friend. Have fun! :)


Talk soon,
Master Glitch


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Ride Fireball! And ride Dragon's Tower, Gravitron, and the Log Ride. Wooooooohoooooo! Does anyone want exclusive ride time? If you want exclusive ride time, go to the West Coast Bash! It is on March 20 at Magic Mountain! And on March 21st, it's at Knott's Berry Farm. I am supposed to go to the Magic Mountain event!


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Ride Silver Bullet and Xcelerator! Totally Awesome Rides! And ride GhostRider and Supreme Scream! Woooooohooooooo!


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There is nothing that I wouldn't ride.


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Here is a list of all my favorite rides: The Zipper, Rip Tide, X2, Tatsu, and The Kamikaze. Those rides are super awesome!!!!!!!!! Ride Them!


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Remember what I said in my above posts about carnival and amusement park rides when I said that they were dangerous and stuff? Well, guess what, April Fools! The truth is, I looooooooove amusement parks, carnivals, and bungee jumping. And this is not a joke, I really do love rides! The faster, the more loops, the better!


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Please Don't Ever Ride Rip Tide! You Will Die! I have dreams about falling off of it every night.


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Please Don't Ever Ride Carnival Rides! And Never Ever Ride Tatsu!


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Please don't ever ride X2! You Will Die! It is just like the Zipper! Please don't ever ride it!


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Oh, and I forgot to tell you, fleas avoid carnivals! They are dangerous. The ride you should never ever ride is the Zipper! You will surely either die or fly off! Please avoid carnivals, and amusement parks! You will get very hurt!


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Okay, what I said before about roller coasters and bungee jumping, you guys shouldn't do it like I said you should. I have seen and heard about too many accidents related to amusement parks. I am terrified of amusement parks and adrenaline rushes now. Please don't do it, it is too dangerous and you could die! Don't Do It!


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My sister totally lost her vision at the age of 18...I still do the same things with her as I did when she was sighted, although some things take a little bit of adaption. We have a blog that may help answer some of your questions.
http://beautifullyblind.blogspot.com/


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I would also add that with minor adaption anything is possible!

Aiming big


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I am visually impaired too, and I would be happy to help you and your friend. She can do anything a sighted person can do. I am a crazy adrenaline junkie. I ride roller coasters, bungee jump, and I have flown a stunt plane. I am a good swimmer. Does she like amusement parks and roller coasters? She would have a blast. If you like roller coasters, take her to an amusement park, and you or her won't have to wait in line at all. That is what I do. Hope I helped.


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Wow, I am a person who has been visually impaired all my life so to me everything comes naturally but to suddenly lose it and all your friends as well would be very hard for someone.
As far as things you two could do together there is a very simplified answer. You guys could do pretty much anything, I suppose there are acceptions and limitations but most things can be adapted. With your help and proper adjustments, she can still be active and have fun.
If she is in to music and movies she can still enjoy watching them and going to concerts, dances, things of that sort. Also, there are things like talking computer softwares called JAWS that could help her use computers, sites like myspace, and this site.
I love what the person in the other post said about the camping, hiking, accessible sports, and there are also board games and cards in Braille if she has access to learning how to read it.
If you have any more questions feel free to ask or post and I'd be happy to help.


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Wow, that is a tough situation, I am visually impaired and can see that you really care about your friend. There are support groups in a lot of areas that may be able to help her as well. She can contact her local consumer groups whether the American Council of the Blind or the National Federation of the Blind. First off, you sound like you are doing the right thing by being her friend and asking for help.

There are movies that have audio description, you both can enjoy those. There are books on tape. There are sports that are designed for people who are visually impaired or adapted. Most can be played by people who are or visually impaired just by you wearing a sleep shade. There are tandem bikes that you could ride together, you would be the one steering. Swimming is still accessible. Most activities are still accessible, it just takes some adaptation. I enjoy hiking and camping. When hiking I use a thick walking stick and a friend acts as a spotter.
What activities do you both enjoy and we can talk about how to adapt them. You can jog together if you can stay at a similar pace, by using a short bungee chord or rope. You would both hold an end in opposite hands and jog with less swinging of the arms.
www.usaba.org shows some paralympic sports and explains them. You can see if you any representatives in your area. Working out in a gym is a good one. I really enjoy that as well.
If you can find something that she doesn't feel she can do anymore and with some adaptations, it is possible to offer that or a similar activity. This would be a great confidence builder for both of you.

I hope this helped and wish you the best! I hope you both have a lot of fun!

Shrimp Goat King


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