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Dating in college.

I don't know, I guess I'm self conscious no one will date because I'm VI or something. I don't know. I mean, I had girlfirends in high school, but those were just stupid high school relationships, and the high school days are behind me now, graduated in May. I guess I think because I am VI no one will want to date me or something, I don't know. I don't know, I've heard of people leaving one another because one of them was VI. I don't know what I'm looking for here, maybe incurragement? I dunno. Now, I'll be starting community college in the Fall.

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I don't date, because people won't date me because I'm VI. I hate dating people in high school.


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all VI people feel how you do and have fear that no one will want to date them because of their vision. Its normal. But that doesn't mean its true; there are people who will date VI people. You have to be proactive and sometimes seek relationships bec they won't always start it being afraid of ofending you or something like that. You just have to get out there, be yourself, and make the effort and give it your all and pretend that you weren't VI and don't focus entirely on that part of you. If all you focus on in the relationship is your vision than people won't want to date a VI person and the same if that's all you talk about. College is definitely more challenging for dating because its a different type of people you are dealing with than high school but if you are proactive then it will be fine. And don't be assamed or nervous about answering questions about your vision, if you can answer questions that will help. My advice is although you have a fear of people turning away from you bec of your vision, you can't let your fears stop you from doing things and living bec if you do, you won't enjoy your life as much and you won't be as successful, and being successful academically and socially in college is everything.

I'm sorry for the rant and extra info, but I speak it as I see it.

Aiming


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all VI people feel how you do and have fear that no one will want to date them because of their vision. Its normal. But that doesn't mean its true; there are people who will date VI people. You have to be proactive and sometimes seek relationships bec they won't always start it being afraid of ofending you or something like that. You just have to get out there, be yourself, and make the effort and give it your all and pretend that you weren't VI and don't focus entirely on that part of you. If all you focus on in the relationship is your vision than people won't want to date a VI person and the same if that's all you talk about. College is definitely more challenging for dating because its a different type of people you are dealing with than high school but if you are proactive then it will be fine. And don't be assamed or nervous about answering questions about your vision, if you can answer questions that will help. My advice is although you have a fear of people turning away from you bec of your vision, you can't let your fears stop you from doing things and living bec if you do, you won't enjoy your life as much and you won't be as successful, and being successful academically and socially in college is everything.

I'm sorry for the rant and extra info, but I speak it as I see it.

Aiming


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Sometimes, it can be really fun to date. I have been in a few relationships, but I'm sure dating in college is way different than dating in high school. I'm very open with my vision loss, people can ask me anything they want.


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hi i know what you mean. i am attending college i am going to be a sophmore in the fall. i sometimes wonder if i will ever have a boyfriend. i have never dated before. but we never know what will happen so hopefully one day it may happen for you too. at my school it is kind of hard to meet guys because i am in theatre so a lot of the guys i hang out with are gay. and i am also in a sorority so a lot of the frat boys drink and do stupid stuff a lot. so i don't hang out with them that much. we just have to try and stay positive and we shall se what will happen. tiff


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That is why I don't date.


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I agree dating with VI is very hard. I met my now husband in college. For a while I played it off like there was nothing going on. I used to bump into things and get embarrassed but he would just laugh along with me. There is hope out there. My husband who is not VI is always there to help me and I'm thankful for him. Good luck,


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I hope when I grow up, I have a husband.


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I'm sure you will have a lot of people that are intersted in dating you.


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Hi there, my name is Mimi and i've had a few boyfriends since I left high school. Unlike most of you, I didn't date in high school and I think it was because of the vision thing.
But you know what, college is so fast paced and busy that sometimes, you don't even have a lot of time to be looking for relationships. I agree with aiming, just take it slow, put yourself out there and don't look too hard. I have always thought that you don't have to go looking for love because it will find you when the time is right and that is the best feeling ever.
Good luck.
Mimi


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Every time I try to have a relationship at my high school, I'm lucky if it lasts for more than a w"ek. I don't date any more. I don't enjoy it all that much.


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I'm new and interested in learning more about vision impairment. My son was born blind, and he couldn't talk, or walk/ wheelchair bound. What are your fears with being blind? Has anyone hear really had a relationship and if so, what was it like. A good romantic one. How did you all learn you were blind? What kind of testing was done?


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I was born 4 months too early, and I was 1 pound 4 ounces when I was born. There is only one positive thing about being blind, and t3at is getting on ri~es at amusement parks. Everything else about it is depressing. I `an't get a guide dog because I have severe depression.


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I wanted to respond to the parent asking if anyone has had a relationship. Yes, i have had two really great ones, one was for over a year and we were considering marriage. it was wonderful.
Another was with my best friend that lasted eight months and that too was great but we realized we were better friends. i still talk to both of my exes that were the most serious with me and I am trying to work things out with the first one I mentioned.
It is possible to have real adult relationships and be blind, don't lose hope.


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Yeah, I've had relationships and I'm only in high school so don't lose hope.


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Don't discourage yourself. There are dating sites for people who are blind and I am sighted and would love to date someone who is blind. There are other girls too that it doesn't make a difference too. So don't be worried I am sure you will find someone.


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