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only read this if ur a girl, i need helllllllp

hey please give me some advice. i went out with this guy 4 2 months. i went out with him because i felt sorry 4 him, and things got way out of hand. he started talking about a long term future and the physical part went way too far way too fast. it got to the point where i started 2 cut way more and i didn't even want 2 b his friend. finally i talked 2 a friend and she helped me get up the guts 2 break up with him. we've been talking more and more and now he's taking the liberty 2 try and guilt trip me about what i did, and he implies that he has something snide 2 say about me, then he doesn't. i don't want 2 talk 2 him anymore, but i dont know wat 2 do. someone please give me some advice. alana

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I mean, I haven't felt love for either a girl or a guy. I've never felt a strong friendship either because just when I trust someone, they betray me.


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I agree with you 100%.
and thanks Yada3, I guilt tripped without even noticing.


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i like this one guy his name is dalten nd we hav ben friends for a while. some ideot started a roomer tht we wer dating. i didnt like him like him at the time but now i do. ive felt this way for a while. its like fire in my vains in a good way. the thing is tht its akward to talk to him or b near him cuz of some ideot. also if a guy wants to push things to ffast its not worth tht relationship. if he wants nothing but sex with u thts also messed up.


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r u saying that u like girls or that guys r just not worth ur time right now? i dont think ive ever loved anyone either, in fact i'm fairly sure of that.


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I'm not much in to dating guys. I've dated, but I never had any feelings toward any guys. I have never actually felt love for anyone.


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facing others is a common fear, I understand I have been in the same situation before. It is true that our friends and the ones we love are harder to talk to because sometimes you are afraid of their response.
You said above that you do not want to talk to him anymore, so if you were to upset him you would not talk anymore anyway.
You also said that you like talking to him, so if you try and he is upset with you then that is his own problem and at least you were the better person.


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thanks yaha, u have some good ensites. i know i should talk 2 him, but i admit ime 2 scared of wat he'll say.


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Love is something that can develop quickly, so its quite possible that he loves you like he says.
I am awstricken by the fact that he wanted to continue talking to you after you broke up with him, most guys would have hated the girl in question and moved on.
When he says he loves you just except it, dont try and deny it. It is good to have someone care for you.
Zumer7, you had no business pointing out her flaws, she is vary understanding of them herself.
I would suggest that you wait and give her time to think.
Alana, I would suggest that you try and explain yourself to him in person, so that he will understand you better.
It is not worth throwing the friendship away just because you are upset at one another.
Msk5, ignoring problems is no solution to them, it is not a good thing to walk away from issues that are fixable.


joe hell'll'll'll'll'll'll'll'llp



joe could u please delete this entire thread when u edit this page? its getting entirely out of hand here. i just wanted some advice and its turned in 2 a bad reality show. please delete it, it's not doing any good being up here, thanks,
alana


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yes zumer7 is the one. its really complecated. we'd been friends 4ever so of course i tried 2 think about him. i like talking 2 him, but when he tries 6make me feel like crud every time we talk it gets tiring. trust me when i say i've tried, and 4 not just 1 reason it couldn't work out. i know how i've betrayed him, first i said that i cared, then i admitted i didn't, and now i don't want 2 talk 2 him anymore. his post states that he loves me, we were going out 4 2 months and he's 15, is that really love? or is it an exadurated responce triggared by hormones?


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have you considered the feelings of the guy in question, from the above post I would assume zumer7 is the one. From the way he talks try looking up the lyrics for Vermillion part 1 and vermillion part 2 by slipknot. It may help you.


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I guess Msk5 is right about me being stupid, I fell so hard for someone that I would have done anything for her and still would, no I'm not saying I want another shot at the relationship, Your heart can only be jerked around so much before an internal explosion occurs. I have been holding some things back, because I am in serious fear of completely destroying the friendship that we agreed to maintain between us. I should have been more careful about the way I concealed this information, but I wasn't. This is of my own ignorance, and I know it. Never once did I tell a lie, nor did I lose trust over the countless ones that I recieved. I have made the mistake of concealing this feeling, instead of benefiting me, it seems to have ended a friendship with someone that I love, and that I should have explained myself to way before now.
I'm sorry.


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ive cut myself since i was 10 or so, riecently i havn't been doing it so much, but when i was going out with this guy i did it a lot more then usual, he made me so uncomfortable. i try ignoring him and he calls my house phone.


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hey i would just ignore him. guys can be stupid
what do you mean by cut more and more?


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