Posted by Chlorine17 on 1/5/2011 at 5:09 PM
i was wondering if anyone has planned their life out, and lived for that future for a decade or more, and then sudenly realized that no matter how hard you try or what you do you'll never in all of eternity get there? how did you open your eyes every morning and face your entire future wiped clean of everything you've ever wanted? what do you do? i thought two weeks ago when this happened to me that i could burry the knowledge and continue like i had, but i was wrong. i could use advice from anyone and everyone. thanks in advance for any responces.
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Re:quick ?Posted by Thrill Monster on 1/5/2011 at 6:51 PM
I know how that feels. I feel like I'm never gonna get a guide dog, never gonna graduate school or never be happy again.
Re:quick ?Posted by Joe S on 1/6/2011 at 8:53 AM
That is tough!
But, I don't think it is as clear cut as you think. There are always related activities, careers, and such (if that is a concern). Most adults would say that they are not doing what they planned to do while at your age.
I can tell you that I played sports, wanted to continue that and or work in professional sports. I had to move past playing college athletics due to vision loss. I found other ways to be connected to sports. I had changed my goal to work in professional sports and did that for a bit. I actually didn't enjoy it and left my career. I took a temporary job (year & 3/4), and figured out what I wanted to do. I then went to graduate school to pursue what I wanted.
Throughout life, we are thrown curve balls, some come faster and harder than others. It is how we deal with these curve balls that truly develops us as a person. I am very honest that it isn't easy and people go through truly tough times. I had a hard time dealing during my first year of college, when I lost a large amount of my vision. I had to adjust and adapt, but I sought help. I saw a psychologist and it helped me. It will not help everyone, but counseling can be a great thing.
You seem very strong and we will be here for you!
My life now is great, I am happier than I have ever been. A number years ago, I found paralympic sports which gave me that other outlet back too. Mentors who are blind and others who are not, have also made a great difference for me.
I think you should check out CareerConnect and try to connect with some mentors. I could also connect you with some great mentors. I know some young people, early twenties and such too.
Hope you get a good response, I am sure many people have felt similar. No one can say they know exactly how you feel, but they can try.
Have a great day!
Re:quick ?Posted by Chlorine17 on 1/6/2011 at 10:33 AM
i've tried going there, the braillenote is unable to support a website of that size. even on this one i have to reset every time i link to a thread and respond to it. if you wouldn't mind connecting me with someone in the medical field (i don't care about age) i would aprisheate it. there are two blind medical doctors that i know of but i don't know if either of them are connected with afb. but a nurse would be good enough. thanks
Re:quick ?Posted by Thrill Monster on 1/6/2011 at 11:30 AM
I'm in counseling.
Re:quick ?Posted by Chlorine17 on 1/6/2011 at 12:07 PM
i was for years, but i stopped last may.
Re:quick ?Posted by Joe S on 1/6/2011 at 12:52 PM
I think we can make that happen!
Plus, I have a former student who graduated Florida State University, works in a lab there now. I think he is going to go to graduate school or medical in the near future. He was one of the top science students at FSU. He has retinalblastoma. He has some color or light perception, not much though. He lost most of his vision in high school towards the middle or end -- pretty sure.
I taught him at a college program I oversaw. I will also line up a few other contacts for you (doctors).
Re:quick ?Posted by Chlorine17 on 1/6/2011 at 8:57 PM
your last post just made my day. you don't know how much i aprisheate that. i don't care if they're blind or sighted, as long as their doctors or medical students i'm not picky. if you know someone who has specialized in er med that would be extremely lucky, but like i said, i'm not too picky. how will this work? like how will we get in to contact?
Re:quick ?Posted by Wingman on 1/6/2011 at 10:30 PM
i know how you feel and what your going through is very difficult one quote i think of when ever i get depressed because things seem to be going south is "Its always darker before the dawn"
Re:quick ?Posted by Joe S on 1/7/2011 at 9:30 AM
I can check you profile and if your email is up to date. I can send you contact information for the specific mentors.
I emailed my former student who works for FSU and plans to go on to med school or grad school to see if he can help mentor you.
I will send you some contacts of current mentors who are doctors or have gone through medical school.
Some will have email addresses and I know at least one prefers phone calls (he is a doctor). I know one or two of them are still active.
Just trying to help!
AFB Staff (CareerConnect)
Re:quick ?Posted by Chlorine17 on 1/7/2011 at 11:39 AM
I got your email. thank you so much. i'm going to try and contact the three that you sent me, but more are always wealcome. just encase i don't get in contact with any of them. you mentioned one was a psychiatrist, do you know what the other two specialize in?
Re:quick ?Posted by Joe S on 1/7/2011 at 1:57 PM
One is internal medicine and the other is... hmmm...
Something similar, trying to remember.
I will get you the contact information of my former student as soon as I get the okay from him.
Let me know how they go and I can always add more.
When you email the ones that have email, make sure to introduce yourself and why you are contacting them. Tell them your interests and some about yourself. Ask a couple questions and wait for a response, you can follow up with more questions later. You don't want to over whelm them.
Re:quick ?Posted by Chlorine17 on 1/7/2011 at 8:26 PM
i emailed the one who's address was at earthlinks. i'm not sure as to what to put in the subject so i said "reseaved you contact info from joe s" was that alright to do? also, the first thing i did was introduse myself and briefly explain why i was contacting him via email. i'm afraid though that my sessage may not even be opened. after i post this i'm going to email the other one. new york is easter time i think so it's too late to call the third, so i'll do that tomorrow.
Re:quick ?Posted by Thrill Monster on 1/7/2011 at 11:55 PM
Good luck! I have to get a root canal.
Re:quick ?Posted by windows7 home premium on 1/8/2011 at 7:46 AM
Alright, I love how you guys are bonding and connecting with other people.
Second, having a root canel does not sound fun!
Third, how can you see someone's profile on here? Thanks. I am so sorry Alana. Sorry if I misspelled your name.
Re:quick ?Posted by Chlorine17 on 1/8/2011 at 10:16 AM
i think only the moterators can look at profiles. and no, a root canal doesn't sound fun. you didn't misspell my name! :)
Re:quick ?Posted by Thrill Monster on 1/8/2011 at 1:55 PM
I'll be sedated.
Re:quick ?Posted by Joe S on 1/8/2011 at 2:34 PM
I have the ability because I am staff and work for AFB.
As said above, moderators can view that info and I am the moderator. I hope that makes sense.
I hope you all have a great weekend!
Re:quick ?Posted by lizzym15 on 1/9/2011 at 1:56 PM
Joe, do you have any connections with anyone in the political field? I am very interested in becoming a politician I just have a few questions about what it's like and things I should be doing to prepare for a job such as this one.
Re:quick ?Posted by D&Bcheerleader on 1/9/2011 at 10:41 PM
Oh My Gosh!
I know EXACTLY what you mean.
I have always wanted to join the Air Force, but I can't due to my eyesight and hearing. Now that I am almost 18, it is really hard for me, knowing I can not join the Air Force.
When my dad told me, I burst into tears I was probably about 8 to 10 years old. I cried before I went to sleep for weeks. My lifelong dream was crushed. I still cry sometimes when I think about it. I am still not sure what I want to do.
Re:quick ?Posted by Joe S on 1/10/2011 at 9:19 AM
There a lot of opportunities to get acquainted with the federal government, politics, and more. There a number of internship programs for persons with disabilities with the federal government (in Washington, D.C.). Most of these programs are during college, but do remember persons in high school doing a similar program. Not sure if the high school one is still around, but it is worth checking into. Most are aimed at full-time college students. The White House even has one, they just closed applications today or this past Friday, but I am sure they will continue this type of program.
AFB actually has an office in Washington, D.C., it is out programs and policy office. We have two visually impaired persons in that office. They do advocacy, work on legistlation, and more. (typically a law degree is important in the polical arena, but it depends what you want to do.)
I can see whom we have in our database that works in the political field otherwise.
There are many related fields that would offer you the ability to be active in politics. Working in Public Affairs and Lobbying (often mean public relations or law). They have financial people, they have all kinds of aspects. I will look for mentors, but another thing you can do is explore your local government. You can set up a tour and informational interviews at your local city or state government (town or city is much easier). I did this with a student who was in college, we met with an Human Resources Director and a number of city officials. He was able to find out their path.
Government has all kinds of jobs, you can check out www.usajobs.com to explore. The Federal Government is going to hire like 100,000 persons with disabilities over the next 5 years -- pretty amazing. This is initiative from years ago that Obama is following through on. Check out the Office of Personel Management for the feds at www.opm.gov as well. This has a link about applying as a person with a disability. Check out this article:
There is also an article on tips for navigating VR in that issue as well. Hope this helps!
Re: quick ?Posted by Thrill Monster on 11/21/2012 at 1:09 PM
I don't understand or care abo*t politics.
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