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Kind of stressed and upset,

Hi all;
I'm currently feeling upset, and stressed. Sort of. Cuz my school teacher is pressuring me to be so independint. I don't mind being independint, but I feel like she doesn't want me asking for no help at all. I feel like she's treating me unfairly. Because lately, I've been denying that I need help. Like when my assistant asks if I need any help, I'll say, no, or I won't say anything. When I really do need help. All this pressure my teacher has given me has made me kind of afraid to ask for help, with anything. All I do is try to do everything on my own, when I know I cant. And I always ask myself, how do I do this, am I doing this correctly? Lately because my teacher had told my parents that I rely on my assistant way too much.
Anyone have any advice on what I should do to fix this problem?
Any advice would be great.
Thanks;
Windows 7.

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What exactly do you need help with? I'm not allowed to have an assistant because I'm too independent. I can ask for help whenever I need it but my counselor told my mom I was being lazy. They think I am lazy and just want to get out of doing work, which is not the case.


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Well, basicly when ever I need it. I mean, if I get stuck on something, I'll ask for help, but, now because my school teacher has told my parents that I rely on my assistant too much, I've been scared to ask for any help.
My school teacher keeps telling me, "You need to be more responsible and more independint". Yes, I get that. I understand.
But she's nagged me so much that all of a sudden I don't want any help, when I really need it. Here's an example.
One time, I was given a second folder to organize my work. My assistant told me if I need any help, to ask her. Well, I didn't. I just organized it myself. I don't even know how I did. I think I did it all wrong.


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I understand how you feel. My braille teacher nagged me a lot from when I was in middle to high school now. I suggest that if your assistant walks you to class and your teacher is nagging about that. I think your assistant should walk behind you a few feet, and maybe she could say "Your doing good." And as the time goes on you should get use to it. Now when my teacher say to walk somewhere I already no where to go. The thing is she nagged me so much that my freshman year I thought she was going to scare off all of my friends. It got to me so much that I spent my whole sophomore year, during lunch, in Content Mastery. Because I didn't have many friends to hang out with. Because I was so independent they must have thought I didn't need them. Now my Junior year I'm very independent and I go hang out with some friends during lunch time in one of my favorite teacher's room. Don't let your teacher get you down. Everytime my teacher nagged that I always told her how I feel. For example, when she used to get mad at me for walking with friends, I just said, "You can't stop me from having friends." Now she just leaves me alone and i just go my own way.


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Yeah, I could do that. But you know, she's told my parents that I rely on her too much, which I don't. I'm not.talking bad about my teacher, I'm just telling you guys how I feel she's treating me. And I'm so mad at my teacher right now, but I don't show it. I'm really good at hiding my anger. And another time, this happend Friday.
I didn't do so well on my math homework, my teacher told my assistant to give me homework for the weekend, order of operations. She told her to give me a lot. She yelled at me. I feel like she's making me look bad, and feel guilty. Luckly, it isn't a lot. I was only given 6 problems.


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What did you miss on the Order of Operation homework? It's pretty easy. What did your parents say when your teacher told them about your assistant helping to much.


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Well I'm not sure what she says, cuz I wasn't there. I feel like she's talking about me behind my back. And order of Operations, I get it, but when she saw it, she screamed at me cuz I didn't do so well.
I want to leave that school. Seriously. I'm not gonna lie. I don't really like it.


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I have hated school my whole life. For lunch, since I have nobody to talk to, I sit in the attendance office. One time, my braille teacher called me a monkey-faced pig because she said I look funny when I eat. Ever since that day, I hate eating in front of anyone. I'm sick of everyone and everything putting me down.


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Why would your braille teacher call you that! I don't understand, what's the point of some of these braille teachers. It seems like they're there to help the blind. But sometimes they criticize us and still get paid for it.


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This is a great discussion.

I want to offer my opinion and it is just my opinion. I was a teacher and I have been a student.

I think you should set up a meeting casually with your teacher and explain how your feeling. Brainstorm prior on how you will explain how you feel, specific situations. Try and be logical about it, and try not to get too emotional, that may be hard. though.

Explain to the teacher that you are trying to do things on your own -- examples and such. What you are having difficulties with. Plus, mention, that you will only ask for help when you really need it. Explain that you are trying your best to be as independent as possible. No one is totally independent, we are all interdependent and independence is a sliding scale.

If you have an assistant and such, this all will have to be explained to them as well. I would first get the teacher on board.

The criticizing thing, not too sure about what the point or purpose is of this type of behavior. If you treat them with respect and act as a young adult, you will get the same respect back. It is tough sometimes, I know you can handle this situation.

Keep us posted!

Sincerely,
Joe S.
AFB Staff


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Well, I could talk to her, and I will, but she's made me so angry and stressed out that I just wanted to snap at her. But she needs to understand what it's like to be blind. And, sometimes, she even yells at my assistant! That's right! I said it!
My assistant told me that one time, in my sixth period class, they were watching a movie that I had no interest in, so she left me because she's not gonna sit there and explain what's going on. Unless I want to know, but I didn't. Anyway, she went back to our home room, and she yelled at my assistant. She told her, you need to sit there and explain to him what's going on. And it made her feel bad and guilty. That's the way I feel when she yells at me too. My assistant's name is Ms. Beth, by the way. But, she doesn't need to yell across the room in front of everybody.


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I hear you, yelling is never the answer.

I understand that you may not have had a want to have the film explained, but in school you should have it explained. This is an accommodation to allow you equal access to information that the other students are getting. It doesn't mean that you have to pay total attention, but this person is getting paid to provide that access. Specific funding is getting pad to her to provide that access and audio visuals are a huge part of that. Students can see that film and zone out, you have the same opportunity with her explaining it. Students typically don't get to choose what they learn. This information could end up being important and has been put into the curriculum for a reason.

Just another way to look at it.

Hope that makes sense.

Sincerely,
Joe S.
AFB Staff


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Well I'm not sure about what the philm was about, but I did know for a fact, that it didn't have to do what the subject. Read180. I'm just sick of that teacher treating me like I can just do anything in a flash.
I will admit, she's very nice, but when it comes to school work, assistants, or assignments, she'll get serious. Like I said, she's nagged so many times, to be more independent, that I have to start doing things on my own. She keeps telling me over and over That Beth isn't gonna be with me in college or when I grow up, I understand that. And my assistant thinks I'm very responsible. She thinks I do very good and that I've proven to her that I do things on my own.


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Your assistant sounds a lot like my acedemics counselor, Ms. Falahee.


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Did she think the same?


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I think they both care a lot about you, at least from what you have stated. I think your teacher has a point about getting you prepared for college, employment, and life. The more you can do independently, the better. The assistant is meant to be a resource and used in limited situations, otherwise, a person could become lazy about trying to work on their own. It doesn't sound like you are becoming lazy. I think you and your teacher need to discuss when it would be best to utilize your assistant. Seriously, sit down with her and talk about it. This could be a growing experience for you. She is right, you will not have that type of support later and it should be utilized for what is necessary such as audio description of something visual. An assistant is typically there to allow you access inaccessible materials, such as a non-described film.

You are handling this well, keep it up!

Sincerely,
Joe S.
AFB Staff


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She is always making sure I do my work and that I'm not slacking off, which is great because I need to graduate high school.


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Yeah I know she does the same with me.


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I know the feeling. In sixth grade I had a braille teacher whe physically and verbally abused me. That was one of the first reasons why I became so troubled later. Now I'm at a school for the blind and so I expected support, but because of some things that have happened a lot of the staff are acting with malevelence towards me. I'm graduating in a month so it's easier for me to hold on. Here's what I suggest you do. Take it one day at a time, ask for help from staff when there is absolute no option, and rely on friends for the rest


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If you have no friends to rely on that's immpossible.


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