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Driving and Dating

Hi all. I am a 23 year old girl, who is visually impaired due to an eye disease. Due to my impairment I can see and function without aides but I am unable to drive and it has been one of the most devastating things to have happened in my life. Not driving has affected my ability to work, go out and be with my friends, and especially dating. I am so worried that no one will want to have a serious relationship with me since I cannot drive, and it is such an inconvenience. Many of the people in my life tell me I’m crazy, and that some one will love me for me, but I just do not see it that way. Not driving is an issue that I can barely deal with, so how am I supposed to make someone else deal with it? If anyone has any advice, or has had a similar issue, any help would be great

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Re:Driving and Dating

22 yo guy here and I feel pretty much the same. I still haven't found a solution for these problems, it's hard not to feel depressed.

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I'm a sixteen year old girl and I feel the exact same way...

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My husband is completely blind, and was when I married him. If you want to know the truth, his needing some help doing some everyday things was what brought us together. As I helped him, we became wonderful companions. It is his personality that makes living with him so wonderful.

My point - you have every bit as much chance of finding someone as people who are sighted. I truly believe that often it's just fate that brings people together. In the meantime, increase your chances by taking advantage of going to places with people, even if you don't think you would especially like it. My husband would go to baseball games, concerts, and anything he could.

By the way, we live in a rural area. He lost his sight at 40 (100% blind, diabetes). While no one would choose blindness, there are so many people who have problems so much worse.

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When I met my wife who can see, I was already unable to drive. I think it comes down to personality, confidence, and determination. If dating is important enough, you will find a way to do it. You can group date at first and then branch out into other arrangments from there.

If you come across like a blind person, you will be treated as a blind person. Just be yourself. If the guy cannot handle your condition then the guy is not worth it.

PS. I have been married for 10 years and I dated my wife for 5 years prior. I have had 5 serious girlfriends prior to my wife and I could not drive for any of them. It is all about the attitude, personality, and confidence.

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Hi, I can sympathize. I had to stop driving at 24 (3) years ago). It has been tough, but you do fine ways. You do not metion where you live. I live in Washington D.C.. where the public transportation is very good. I think this is really important. If you live in a more rural area, you might have more trouble. Here, I can hop on a bus or metro train and meet friends and go on dates. You may need to make some life changes to make things easier on yourself. I think your friends mean well, but lets be practical, you meet more interesting people when you can go out and actually meet them frequesntly and in places where you are comfortable being. Driving is not the real issue, it is independance. You can gain that back without a car.

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