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how do you stay focus and keep your self esteem up when your family tells you you can't do this or that because of your legally blind?     

how do you stay focus and keep your self esteem up when your family tells you you can't do this or that because of your legally blind? 
   

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Re:how do you stay focus and keep your self esteem up when your family tells you you can't do this or that because of your legally blind?     



My mother is blind, actually from a disease in one eye and we are working hard to keep the other working. We offer her lots of love and attention which lifts her spirits.


Re:how do you stay focus and keep your self esteem up when your family tells you you can't do this or that because of your legally blind?     



all this is good advise, but don't forget Jesus. i wouldn't be sane today if i didn't lean on him. also, let your family know when you are away from any situations that make you mad, that you can do anything they can, you just might do it different.


Re:how do you stay focus and keep your self esteem up when your family tells you you can't do this or that because of your legally blind?     



Hi
I'm in almost the exact same situation. My grandma especially tells me what i can't do and she told me to my face she had no faith in me what so ever. Which it might just be my bull headed nature. I do the exact opposite of what they tell me to do i in a word act like its opposite day all the time when it comes to can't. I try to keep moving for the most part to keep my spirits up. I try all sorts of things i have had some depression because i had to slow down this summer but i will try what ever i can to complete my goals just try different activities to keep you mentally in addition to physically active. To help me get closer to my goals this past month i wrote 50000 thousand words in 31 days for JulNoWriMo.
Also having a list of goals and positive phrases as was already said will help too. Try to think about the good things in life and how things will work out. Just don't get too stressed always take some time to de stress
Hope that helps if you want to talk you can email me at reallifedaredevil52@yahoo.com
"Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes into us at midnight very clean. It's perfect when it arrives and it puts itself in our hands. It hopes we've learnt something from yesterday." John Wayne


Re:how do you stay focus and keep your self esteem up when your family tells you you can't do this or that because of your legally blind?     



I never had this problem as a teen (didn't lose my eyesight until age 23). I had a supporting set of parents (Aunt and Uncle) and I did try to maintain some independence. The family for me wasn't the problem though. it was everyone else. I have gotten into the habit of simply responding to their negativity with "prove it!". I usually end up winning by proving my point.

Keeping to goals (writing them down in whatever format you choose) and not taking "no!" for an answer generally help to keep your esteem up. I find that physical exercise can help with keeping the mood from sinking (you get too tired to worry about it).

Sometimes though, its just more helpful to tell your family outright that what they are doing to you is more harmful than helpful. I would be careful about that though, being too blunt will alienate your family.


Re:how do you stay focus and keep your self esteem up when your family tells you you can't do this or that because of your legally blind?     



If you believe in something, go for it. It doesn't matter what people say and in the end they will see waht you are capable of.

Remind them that there are many talented blind people who end up doing great things. Maybe you can show them the Braille Without Borders website, its a charity started by a totally blind woman who started the first school for the blind in Tibet, invented the braille system for Tibet and then started a training center for blind leaders in Kerala. She was my inspiration and i too, started a charity and am now living in Vietnam. Yes, it was challenging. Life in Vietnam is very different and there is limited access to things like equipment. I had no one to teach me O and M here, but I was determined to do my best. I also taught myself to eat rice with chopsticks and wash clothes by hand, since washing machines are hard to come by here. At first, everyone doubted me, and now I've been here for 4 years and I've become arole model. So don't let anyone stop you from trying new things or accomplishing your goals.


Re:how do you stay focus and keep your self esteem up when your family tells you you can't do this or that because of your legally blind?     



my husband has been blind for four years now. He is 56 and has no idea what to do with his life now. He is beginning to get depressed because he just sits at home all day not doing anything. If anyone has any ideas about things he might could do please give suggestions. thanks


Re:how do you stay focus and keep your self esteem up when your family tells you you can't do this or that because of your legally blind?     



well i am blind since 13 my age. i have lot of experience to live as a blind person i can help u perhaps better than other's because i have clearer words to describe my feelings. please contect me if u want.
rana.yasir.nadeem@gmail.com is my contect.


Re:how do you stay focus and keep your self esteem up when your family tells you you can't do this or that because of your legally blind?     



ou may also want to use the internet as a resource to counteract negative input from folks. You can join supportive mailing lists or message boards such as this one. Such places give you the opportunity to ask questions, create strategies for doing various things successfully and generally get positive creative support from others. Other people have solved many of the problems you will encounter and can give you ideas to smooth your own path.


Re:how do you stay focus and keep your self esteem up when your family tells you you can't do this or that because of your legally blind?     



First of all I would recommend writing your goals out in braille or print which ever one suits you best and refer to them every day. Just because your family says you can't doesn't mean you have to believe or listen to that. Every time you feel your self esteem lowering do what ever you have to do to bring it up. If it is listening to music, taking a walk, being out in nature. You do what ever it is that makes you happy and then once you have had a chance to clear your head and regain the focus you need, push forward. Eventually family will see your determination and will eventually eat their words. I know my family did when I said I was wanting to start my own business ;) Hope that helps.


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