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parenting with low vision

I am an 18-year-old with moderate low vision (20/50-20/100, at best and worst) who plans on having, and/or adopting, children in the future. How does a mother with low vision get to places safely and independently with the kids, explain her condition to them as they grow older, and navigate through unfamilliar areas with the kids such as Disneyworld or the city? Ideally, I hope to rely on others for these tasks as little as possible. But I fear that this may not be possible considering how easily disoriented I get. Also, I have my learner's permit and have considered using telescopic lenses to drive, but do not know if this would help or hurt. Advice on any or all of these issues would be greatly appreciated, especially from parents with low vision.

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Medical help aside, the main ones are, in first place, information; secondly, what help the administration offers; and finally the ones which facilitate personal rehabilitation, education, and work and social integration.
The desolation that doctors experience when they must tell a patient they can't do anything more is only surpassed by the loneliness and isolation the patient, who does not know where to go or what to do for help. Administrative aids are valuable allies, though sometimes they may lie hidden under a legal mess. Adaptation to the disability and psychological help are priority-one issues and must be confronted from the start. Not least =important and almost as urgent is the education of the patient and their family to confront the new situation. The adaptation of the work place (the one the person currently has or a different one) is regulated by laws and norms and there are interesting subventions for companies that make the necessary modifications to allow a person with disabilities into their work force; therefore the reluctance to hire visually handicapped people is an anti-economic prejudice, for the company and society. Lastly, social integration aids facilitate adapted leisure and cultural activities, and private and public initiatives tending to improve mobility and better access to information for everybody, including the visually impaired.

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parenting is the most difficult profession as they say. IT entails a lot of sacrifice and understanding to the different behavior of the children. It is worth a cash advance to know the real essence of being a good parent.

Re:parenting with low vision Benefit of Yoga and Prayanam in Eye Disorders

Dear friend,I am from India and I am blind by right eye due to cataract then before retina detactment and left eye having spactacle for near and distant.I consulted with so many doctor but no one give perfect treatment or said my problem is critical and there is no perfect medicine for this but once I heard about Yoga and Prayanam and started the both then after six month my spactacle removed and my blind eye becoming healthy but slowly.So you can easily find Yoga and Prayanam Classes in your location if you life.
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"As for your getting around in large and crowed areas; for sure, you'll always need somebody to guide you, unless you know the place really well!"

This kind of statement drives me crazy. I am a mom of two rambunctious toddlers (bio) and we're licensed to adopt a third (no problems getting licensed). I have low vision (about the same as the first poster in this thread). And NO I do not have to have someone guide me around an unfamiliar mall for example. I'm a good mom to my kids and have lots of tricks to be independent. For example, putting bells on their shoes when they are little or dressing them in unusual and bright colors means I can find them across the playground at the park. Buying a nice jogging stroller means we can walk downtown when we want to, although I drive when the light is good, too.

If I get lost in a Mall (happens a lot) I just take time to walk near enough to signs or maps to read them, find landmarks like the Cinnabon shop (oooohhh, the smell!) and pretty soon I have my bearings again.

I know this thread is a year old, but statements like the one above need a good response. People should NEVER let low vision stop them from having a family, nor should they let the stupidity and lack of creativity from others dictate their limits. With enough cleverness, parenting with low vision is not only possible, it's easy, as long as your kids forgive you for tripping on those darn Lincoln Logs that blend into the hardwood floor!

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I am visually impaired since birth and the parent of a 17 year old. I have been married for nine years to a wonderful man who is sighted. Before meeting him I raised my son on my own. I also am no learning how to drive with biopitics. That is really a wonderlully freeing experience. Although I always find ways to get places, it will be wonderful to be able to just get in the car and go. You can definately raiise children and do anyting else you want just don't let anyone tell you no. As far as disney and places like that get some mobility training so you are comfortable getting around. I have taken my son to Spain, Mexico and Canada as well as all over the U.S. I just decided to do it and wouldn't let anyone stop me.

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If she loves you why is she so fed up with driving you places knowing your situation?

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There is no reason why you shouldn't get married and have children. A devoted partner can be a huge help.

My vision has be 20/200 since birth. My wife and I have 2 children, 10 and 13. One of the major difficulties I have had is not being able to shuttle children to events like ball games and school--at least not by car or on a regular basis. At times the car is used against me as a means of control. The other difficulty I have is my relationship with my wife. We've been married almost 18 years.

If I could make a suggestion, look for a partner who is totally devoted to you. When you are dependent on that person for transportation, its got to be there regardless of whether you're having a fight or not. Transportation is not the reason I got married, but it has become a sore spot in our relationship.

Last, don't let my problems dissuade you from getting married; my sister has the same condition I do (albinism) and she is happily married with child.

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in regards to bioptics for driving, please do consider them! some people with 20/200 vision can see the 20/30 line on a snellen chart using bioptics- they have a HUGE potential to aide your distance vision, which is a very good and helpful thing when driving.

In regards to general moving around, try to obtain orientation and mobility training. Knowing some of the tools and helpful things to rely on even when your vision isn't incredible is a great step in making you feel confident enough to raise children. There are countless couples in which one parent is blind, and even a few where both are- so please be assured that it is possible to parent a child with only slightly higher levels of support than might be expected of sighted parents. Don't let your vision make that choice, rather considerations like a long term partner or financial stability.

I wish you the best of luck.

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I do think you should keep on with your projects... It is good to be optimistic, but, one thing you should know, living with vision loss is, at times, very hard and you may also feel down... Anyway, I think you should marry, one day, and have a kid your own... I don't know exactly how the law go, but I do think that it is pretty hard for a partially blind person to obtain a kid...! I'm sure you cope with difficulties, but this idea of having a kid that is not your own, doesn't seem the best to me... I'm telling you this just because I don't exactly know the law, but I honestly think it should be pretty hard to have a child because having bision problems is something which can determine the process of keeping the baby! As for your getting around in large and crowed areas; for sure, you'll always need somebody to guide you, unless you know the place really well! Good luck for everything, Angela

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