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Hey Everyone,

Passionate about people, relationships and communication. My world has changed drastically over the last several years as my eye sight has deteriorated. Stuck between two worlds, the one I used to fit in with and the ever changing one I'm figuring out, I am desperate to connect with others that get it.

I'm educated, confident and happy. I'm not looking for romance or a pity party. I would love to connect with people that used to be able to see well and have or are adjusting to the transition of changing vision. Anyone interested in sharing their journey and friendship, feel free to let me know.

I look forward to hearing from you!

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I'm 34 years old. I'm a father, in graduate school, and work full time. I have pigmentary dispersion syndrome which has lead to open-angle glaucoma. I was in denial for many years but recently I began to notice considerable deterioration in my left eye, right eye is also deteriorating but not as rapidly. I'm on eye drops and will more than likely have to have a shut surgery. I'm scared. I feel lonely. I'm worried that I won't be able to support my family in the next couple years. I've decided to stay positive, but at the end of the day I'm left with my fear. No one around me understands but my partner and daughter have been supportive. I'm fortunate to have so much love in my life. How do I work through this, knowing that I will lose vision in the near future? How do I keep from breaking down? What helps keep me positive? I've read some incredible narratives about living life with vision impairment. In those stories I have found new heroes, role models, and a greater respect for life. Still, I feel selfish about my condition. I would very much like to talk about my feelings, and I would respect those who feel the same.


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I don't know what it is like to have or lose sight because I have been blind all of my life.

I really enjoyed reading each post.

All of my prayers go out to each and everyone of you.

All of you take care and God bless to all of you.


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Hi. My name is Sam. I'm a 24 year old girl and totally blind. I live in Chicago and love meeting new people online.
If anyone wants to chat my e-mail is samnelson1@verizon.net
Also I'm on several e-mail lists for the blind like blind penpals blind family and blind-friends. See you all there hopefully.


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Hi K!
Thanks for the encouraging words. You are right. It just takes a bit of ingenuity to reinvent oneself. I am working on it. I am sure I will figure it out. I have never been the quiet or idle type! Good days ahead for all!!


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Hello Doc,
Welcome! Glad you found us! So...you are a licensed physician with a unique skill set which surely can still help people despite your loss of vision (which I am so sorry to hear ). I realize it could be daunting, but you are blind, not deaf, not paralysed... You could still write (books, articles, do scholarly research, lecture, blog, work in admin positions, do radio. All of us here are capable people, we just happen to be blind!
Glad you posted! Peace, -k


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Wow, all of your posts have hit home with me. I had really good sight and no clue of what was to come for many years. I was a practicing physician when I started to notice a decrease in my vision. That was 7 years ago. Now I am legally blind. I haven't driven in 5 years and I had to stop working 3 years ago. I am still trying to figure out this next chapter in my life. I am however grateful every day for the life I have already had. I look forward to something new now even though it won't be what I expected. It is wonderful to come to this site and feel less alone. Thank you to all of you for sharing.


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Hi Alana,
I could totally relate to your post. You are not alone. In my 20's after school I worked as a midwife. Then in my 30's returned to grad school
and worked as a psychotherapist. By the time I reached 40 I had planned to return once again to med school to be a Physician's Assistant. I, too, always wanted to go to medical school...:( But then vision severely decreased to nearly nothing...I could never go on to PA school. Sad sad realization for me. However, I have swallowed that bitter pill and have learned to live my best life as happy as I can. I went on to become licensed professionally in 3 states.

Alana, take courage where you can. Blindness and being a professional isnt' always easy but it's do-able. Sometimes thinking things like how will I get through college, interview for a job, begin a new job or sit for state or national boards can be so scary and daunting or overwhelming. I have felt all of those things:( BUT my best suggestion is take one hurdle at a time and never give up on your dreams. You are not alone!


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Hey all, I'm Alana. I never had what would be considered good vision, but I had enough. I lost all my vision two years ago, and don't even have light perception now. I got lost in my own bedroom at first, which was upsetting. Since I was a kid, I'd wanted to go to medical school and work in an emergency room. Obviously, I can't do that now. For a while I was more depressed about losing the future I'd always wanted than anything else. It took me a while to get on my feet again, but now I'm back in college studying to be a psychologist. Honestly, I'm dying to talk to someone who knows what it's like, even though I've pulled myself together.


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Julie, facing a future with vision loss can be so scary. My suggestion is to follow dr recommendations, maintain excellent diet and avoid looking far off into the future which can be so scary. Embrace each day with gusto enjoying each sighted moment with people you love.

Alfred, i so admire you and your courage. You're a brave soul. Thank God for chat rooms that we can use to gain support from each other.
"Comecahatwithme" yes, yes and yes I too have sat in the driver's seat, started the engine & listened to the radio on the driveway with my former car that has since been absorbed into the daily existance of my husband's world. That's a tough one. I, too, am a very happy positive person that has helped me get through this challenge. BTW, no one in my life is blind or even close to it but my family is supportive. I am proud and rarely ask for help.

Lastly, for the two of you who would like to date but struggle to find an interested someone who isn't running a marathon opposite of your general direction... Keep the faith. I believe there are angels amoung us whom you have yet to meet. You both have so much to offer.
I have always said the best place to meet a good soul is at support groups ...these are the hardy, the few, and the hanger-oners who have not bailed when life handed them lemons...they didn't make lemonaid ,they made margaritas! Keep your positive outgoing self and that will attract a special someone!


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Katharine - Thank you so much for your reply. It sounds like our visual challenges are very similar. Is your network of family and friends mostly sighted people? I guess that is where one of my challenges lies. It's encouraging to hear the stories of others and how they're overcoming challenges; especially going from sighted to less vision. I'm hopeful that you'll continue to find ways to continue successfully in your chosen career. I know what you mean about wanting to forget you're blind. Sometimes I sit in the driver side of the car I used to drive and just dream of putting the keys in and driving somewhere, anywhere. I miss it, the freedom, independence and security that comes from being able to care for myself as well as help others. All is not lost though. There are still ways to be useful and enjoy life. Every day is an adventure and a mystery of figuring it out! :)

Julie - Thank you for your thoughts and concern. I hope you never have to deal with vision loss but I know if you do, you'll be okay.

Alfred - I know exactly what you mean about the dating thing. Most people with healthy vision are not interested in the challenges that come from befriending a visually impaired person. The pursuit of a romantic relationship is even less likely or so I've found in my experience. Though I know there are people that find love and happiness so don't give up hope. You never know. As you said, you are young and have a desire to enjoy life to its fullest. It sounds like you have a great attitude, too. So hang in there!

If any of you would like to chat more feel free to contact me at
come_chat_with_me@ymail.com.

Take Care!


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WELL I'M ALFRED AND MY VISION IS THE SAME AS YOURS DUE TO A BRAIN TUMOR 2YRS AGO. NO SIGHT IN MY LEFT, VERY LITTLE IN MY RIGHT. I'M ON SSD, 50 YRS OLD. I KNOW THIS WILL SOUND CRAZY, BUT JUST WAKING UP EACH DAY IS A GIFT TO ME. I STILL LIVE ON MY OWN, AND THE ONLY PROBLEM I HAVE IS DATING. I'M STILL YOUNG, WANT TO HAVE A LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN, BUT MOST RUN WHEN THEY KNOW MY VISION ISSUE. I JUST TRY TO STAY FIT, AND GREATFUL EACH DAY.


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That is sad. Because I am sighted, yet I too have glaucoma, and have ALWAYS been afraid of losing my sight. Even as a kid. I can only relate to the fear of the loss but then again, that's a lot.
Peace be with both of you. Julie


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I completely understand about vision loss & having a career that you still want to work in. From birth I have had issues with my eyes. Fortunately, I knew in college my vision would eventually decline so I picked a career path with that in mind. I went on to grad school and worked for a number of years before losing significant amounts of vision. Now in my 40's I am mid-career with no vision in one eye & the other is 20/200 (which is now decreasing-don't know new measurement) with loss of visual field only central vision. It's difficult working like this... I constantly think about the challenges. I wish sometimes I could simply forget I am blind.


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