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Sighted Girl looking for a Blind guy

My name is Alice. I am 18 years old. It probably seems odd that I'm looking for someone who cannot see, but then again, does anyone really know why we do what we do? I'm a college student in Florida. I love music, especially considering that I eventually want to be a music director. I am full of randomness :) i feel that sight is not required for someone to be who they want to be. If anyone is interested, I'm open :)


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Hello again, I'm Adriene. And I'm just updating my post in this thread because it's been about two years to be exact since I've even been on here. But so far I haven't found anyone that I'd love to talk to as of yet. I'm 33 and have two children, but I'm hoping to find somebody in my own age range. Because it seems like everytime I think or try to put myself out there, I either get all the older men, or the weirdos, lol! Not trying to be rude, but it's just truth. I'm a full-time college student and a full-time single mom of two girls. I do still have a preference for a Mexican/hispanic man, but I'm also still open to anything within, reason of course. I'm hoping this will get some attention, if not, then I guess I'll keep looking. Hope all is having a wonderful week.


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My name is Heath. I am totally blind and live in Huntsville, AL. I am looking for a blind or sighted girl to have as a great companion. If your interested write me at: kc4hrx@gmail.com or Skype me better yet at: kc4hrx.


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Hi Ryan –
Nice to see you on here. My name is Tammie and I’m fairly new to this site. I have Retinitis Pigmentosa and I’m also hearing impaired. I’ve been chatting quite a bit with Mike and DeMarco under different threads under ‘Water Cooler’. Both those guys are amazing and very inspiring! I wish I could talk to them in person and pick their brains all day!
I’m very sad to read about what your dad did to you. That is just so wrong. I have a son and no matter how irritated or frustrated I get with him, I could never, ever lay a hand on him that way. Do you still have a relationship with your dad? I don’t know if I could if one of my parents did that to me.
I hope to see you on here again. I don’t do FB or Instagram. They’re too impersonal and I can’t chat that way. I guess I just like ‘talking’ too much. LOL!
Tammie


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Hello everyone my name is Ryan Hernandez I lost my right eye when i was 15 to a detach retina caused by my dad beating me and not wanting to take me to the eye doctor
I had a -10 in my left eye but it seems like day by day i am loosing my eye completely i can now only see shadows a few feet in front of me
I am also gay and have a great partner who is very supportive but makes stupid jokes here n there
I am here because i want to meet others to get knowledge from you to inspire me I am a very humble person that welcomes your friendship with open arms I live here in Las Vegas NV
You can find me on Instagram & facebook as my username Ryan_C_Hernandez and you can also google me
I recently was in Florida and would have loved to meet you
If you want to contact me you can also send me an email
I don't read them often tho
Sincityworldent@live.com

XoXo

Ryan


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Hi;

I am trying to find the "rhythms and" guy who posted
October of this year (2015). You left no way to get ahold of you.
Also, why does it seem that all the blind or VI men live up North? Isn't there anyone who is in Texas?

Thanks


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hello....I would love to meet someone....sighted or blind....I am an artistic individual with a poetic streak...in fact I have published a book of poems...I am forty six now and still have not found the girl who can understand me.....I love what was said...it fills me with a beauty and wonder...one can stilll sea so much even without full sight and it is a heart sight rather than a physical sensory image...we can touch and connect in a way that goes beyond the passions of normal being....please there must be more girls who feel that sight is not an essential to who we are ...we can touch and be close .... and draw the passion with our fingertips on the screen of the others soul....


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Hi, I've posted here before. And I would just like to say, I wouldn't mind dating a blind or sighted young man. But I do, prefer a blind man, simply because it's just my preference. Just like I'd love to date a Hispanic man. But, I also have an open mind to other races as well. I'm sure most people have a preference, that doesn't mean they're always going to get that preference. But I'm still looking for a great guy who will take me for who I am, not what I am. And someone who won't reject me just because I'm a single mother of two daughters. And I'd love to have a couple more kids soon enough, but only if, I find the right one for me and my daughters. I'm sweet, honest, faithful, loyal, and I love life. I'm mostly a home body, but I love to go out sometimes if it's together or with friends. So, if you're out there Mr. Right, my email is, alpatterson85@hotmail. I'll be waiting. I also can sing, cook, play the flute, and other things as well. And I'm very independent, I just want someone to love and who will love me back. :)


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I am a totally blind male, close to retirement but gainfully employed. I travel extensively for my job. I have dated only sighted women, and would be interested in talking with/meeting a sighted woman who is interested in a blind male. I am open to just a friendship, or a closer relationship.


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hi rey,
how r u .i am also blind and looking for friendship.e-mail me at njagroo@gmail.com.


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hi hakuba,
how r u i am blind too and will like to talk to u my e-mail njagroo@gmail.com.talk to u soon.


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Hello,

I’m a 41 year old guy still looking for a great woman. I might be blind but I don’t believe that defines who I am. I think the most important thing to seek in a relationship is love. It doesn’t matter to me whether someone is disabled or not. Though it’s nice to know that there are some people out there who can accept and are even attracted to sharing their lives with someone that has a disability. I just hope that they’re honest with themselves to know why they seek such a relationship. As a previous poster stated, an individual who is blind is still human. And as we all come to know humans are far from being perfect. If anyone would like to communicate with me here is my email shiroitaneuma@yahoo.com. I really enjoy getting to know new people. Good luck to you all finding that special person.


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Anyone in orange county? In California I am looking for a ffriend or a guy to date that is blind. I am going blind and it would be great to have someone with me and that has been there. I am 40. So reach out and let me know.my email is sherrykornaa@gmail.com


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Well I was coing some research on how I might meet someone who is sighted who may be interested in dating a visually impaired man. So, although this is a few years old, I figure why not. I just turned 33, I a have a Master's degree in counseling psych and I have a wonderful job helping kids and families. I have an awesome service dog who has been with me about 2 1/2 years. Although I don't make a lot of money I am exceedingly happy, but only as happy as you can be when you're alone. I love music, sports of all kinds and traveling. Tobyinabq at gmail.


This is interesting.



Hi.
My name is Brad and I'm 20 years old. I live in the UK and have been blind all my life.
To me it doesn't matter if the woman I date is blind or sighted or has disabilities, just as long as I get on with her.

As for dating a blind guy. First ask yourself, why you want to do that?
Oh as for having things people like, for me it's chubby women, i like that they are soft and can be kind, but on the other hand I'm sure you can get those that are not kind. What I'm getting at is that just because you might be dating a blind person doesn't mean that that person doesn't have ideas of his or her own that he or she finds attractive.

I've been on here for about a week or two now and honestly I'm kind of shocked at what I'm seeing.

I'd say about 99% of these threads are all about dating.
Oh there's nothing wrong with that but I don't know, maybe it's just me but I feel that dating should be done via going out side and interacting with people. Instead of asking over the internet.
but that's just me.

I've not dated a woman in my life time, not yet anyway, but i know when I do it won't matter to me if she does or does not have a disability.


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I need a friend in dallas I am blind from retinitis and hope to get the bionic eye soon I live in Oklahoma and need some help getting around dallas if you can drive a car that would be great not looking for money just a friend thanks mark my e mail is alpn78@yahoo.com


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Hi. in addition to my post above seeking a loving girl, it is not intended just for American women, it was just that this is a US website and wasn't sure if people from other countries post here so sincere apologies for those that misunderstood my post.

I am 49 and legally blind but as you all know, not all people are totally blind like myself. I am different to most guys and quite proud to be. I would consider myself to be a very loving, caring, thoughtful, loyal, devoted and very romantic English guy seeking a loving partner who still believes in long term relationships and marriage etc. I live in the UK and raise my 17 year old daughter all on my own so if you would be interested in writing to get to know each other, please feel free to respond to my post or email me pbronicki@btinternet.com


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Dear Paul,

I am from UK. But your advert title shows a bit of a racism. Just out of curiousity, why is that you are after only American woman?


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Sorry, I apologize.
I was responding to someone who was blind and said something in the likes that PARENTS DO WHAT PARENTS do... and the result is a blind child. Perhaps from premature birth or in general. He was being honest in my opinion, and I liked his response.

Why?
Since I'm proud of my parents. They're hard working Mexicans who taught me great family values. I'm the youngest in my family of 6 and I want to copy what they did. Unfortunately, my dad died when I was 11. The last person closest to my father's side is my blind aunt in Mexico, who was his sister. Is it wrong for me to like to marry a blind person than? No, I'm male. My mother is still faithful to my father who is in heaven, and she is the proud great-grandmother of various children. Soon to be great-great-grandmother I presume. Sorry if how I reacted insulted you.

Sorry.
I know your perspective. In the situation I am though it involves color. United States American teachers though, taught me self-respect and pride. I thought that blind person who I was responding to, was proud of his parents. I know his perspective too. I don't judge a girl who is not blind, for falling in love with him because of his pride towards his family. I hope she doesn't play with his feelings though and with immature reasons especially like color of the skin.

That is love.
Hi! My name is Amado. I am donating $100 to AFB.org right now. (As I post this the donation has been done.)

Be careful.
I have seen young blind girls saying that they will date someone. Yes, I am young too but it is wrong of me to date someone that young. Is it right of me to send them an e-mail in the hopes I have a chance? Well not really legally since the law allows it. Spiritually though, it is WRONG.
If she was around 25 though..., that would be about the right age though for me. Plus it is wrong to take away a blind young guy's chance with a blind girl his age. I have self-respect, a heart, and many friends. I hope you are my real friend too.

I only live once. As I have lived, I met God and he offered me his friendship. He said I was his best friend and told me he was named Jesus Christ of Heaven. I want to see the world through God's eyes. I want to see her through God's eyes.


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Wow.


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hi justintime.


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hmm. I'm confused. blindness as a sin? wtf? who wrote that? you need to check your bible buddy. What really annoys me and I'm going to get very, very blunt here. is the blind people that feel one, that they can't do anything because they're blind, and two the ones that act all superior and because of it and not knowing the whole situation and thinking they do going into it and screwing up royally because they don't take the time to get feed back. whne ou sighted ladies are dating a blind guy remember one thing. communication is super important so is patience it's like any other relationship. I met this one girl on a dating site and she actually goggled dating a blind guy after we started talking for a few months I was both amused and frustrated that she had to resort to that because it showed me that my blindness was still foremost in her mind. for you blind guys that are dating or want to date a sighted lady, remember this. Use this time to educate and try to .. forestall any of the normal stereotypical thoughts surrounding blindness. there are so many missnomors (think I spelled that wrong) and.. myths surrounding blindness that I can sort of understand a reluctance. If the ladies want to ry dating a blind guy I applaud them. on the other hand I've had women find out I was blind and either friend zone me, or avoid me altogether. it sucks but.. crap happens. you just keep on keeping on. nad someday the right one will come along. :) oops I think I just put a smiley face there sorry guys so used to texting lol.


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Sighted Girl looking for a Blind guy

Posted by alice0731 on 1/28/2013 at 6:40 PM

My name is Alice. I am 18 years old. It probably seems odd that I'm looking for someone who cannot see, but then again, does anyone really know why we do what we do? I'm a college student in Florida. I love music, especially considering that I eventually want to be a music director. I am full of randomness :) i feel that sight is not required for someone to be who they want to be. If anyone is interested, I'm open :)

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Posted by Writing For Children on 1/30/2013 at 3:14 AM

Hi;

I can't find where to post on here, although I'm sure I have done it. I too, am a sighted female (age 52 though, very youthful-smile), looking for a VI/Blind male, aged 40's-55 tops. I really need u to live in the Dallas, Tx area. (You can be in Mesquite or Garland,-Richardson,..just not too terribly far since I would most likely being the one who drives). I am degreed, so I do prefer that, and am a non-smoker (allergies), and very light drinker.
I am chubby, but swim 3 times a week and am trying to get a recumbent bike for the weekends. I also have a regular bike for when it's a little warmer and on weekends. I LOVE to dance, 'jitterbug' or 'swing', to oldies. I enjoy many things like classical music, jazz, walks at the lake. Am affectionate (with the right person). I am into God very much, so u should be too. Not evangelical, but as The center of your life, in a very personal way. I do have issues with ocular hypertension (but I use eye drops and am checked frequently). So write me already! Smile.
Mountains_1@juno.com

Hello im rey
Posted by Ishrey on 1/30/2013 at 9:42 AM

Hi im tryin to find that woman with a big heart and is passionate, who can see pass my blindness Im a single hispanic whos been struggling with my sight since 07 i just had a birthday im 24 i like to read workout spend time with my family outgoing
Im learning guitar and i still Dj so yes i love music... Hmu hope to here frm u
Rey.mesteco@gmail.com

ALICE
Posted by livelove&laugh on 2/7/2013 at 7:28 PM

Look i will be your freind or whatever you are looking for, but i am not blind, i dont see with my eyes though... i see with my heart and dont look at peoples down falls, but their pluses!! ;) i love life and everyone in it!
... So ... love ya!!

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Posted by Ishrey on 2/10/2013 at 3:55 PM

Hmu rey.mesteco@gmail.com

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Posted by Writing For Children on 2/28/2013 at 3:50 AM

Hi;

I've posted on here before and I'm baffled. Is
There some unspoken thing around the blind
Community where most Blind single men date
Only blind, single women? Since I posted above
I've received one VI male who actually wrote
Me. I have a couple of VI male friends who I have met
On here, but it's been slim Pickens, so I was
Just wondering if There is some unspoken click
Or are the men afraid of a sighted female? Cuz
I just don't get it. ( it does seem that there are
More vi men in the Northeast than in my state.
Please, anyone's thoughts? Thanks

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Posted by Daddycoolwitit on 2/28/2013 at 12:15 PM

I THINK AGE PLAYS APART AS WELL, I'M A 50 YR OLD LEGALLY BLIND BLACK MAN. SO NOT ONLY IS THERE AN AGE FACTOR, RACE IS ALSO AN ISSUE WITH SOME. EVEN HERE IN NORTHERN CALIFORNIA. A DATING SITE FOR US WOULD BE NICE...
ALFRED

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Posted by Chlorine17 on 2/28/2013 at 5:17 PM

As a blind person, I find the idea of a relationship, especially a physical one, with a sighted person nerve wracking. It's hard to explain exactly why, but it doesn't feel like I can be their equal and I don't like that. Then again, it could just be my own insecurities speaking. I guess what I'm trying to say is that maybe some blind people feel more comfortable around other blind people, and tend to stick with what they know.

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Posted by jerafb314 on 2/28/2013 at 6:44 PM

Chlorine17, I am sighted. If we entered a physical relationship I would feel I had a very important learning experience. I would enter it very slowly. I would be especially concerned that I did not make you feel insecure. I think other sighted fellows would feel the same. In lacking sight you are correct in saying you are unequal. But in having had to make up for it by enhancing other ways to feel your environment, you would be ahead of me.

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Posted by Chlorine17 on 2/28/2013 at 7:28 PM

It probably depends on the person too. I lost all my vision about two years ago, so I'm still getting used to it. Maybe people who have been blind longer see things differently than I do.

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Posted by mandalee33 on 3/3/2013 at 9:28 PM

Whomever stated that someone who is blind is "less of a person" I am so angered by that statement. You have clearly never dated someone who is blind or know anyone who is. My boyfriend got into an accident a little over a year ago and has had to rebuild his entire life go back to school and relearn everything because he completely lost all sight and smell. And he is more than any sighted man I have ever been with. He is more of a person than any other "regular" person can ever be. Those with disabilities seem to have a handle on who they are and what they want.

And my advice, if you are looking to date a blind man, take it from me as a sighted girl doing that. It's not easy because it requires a lot of effort especially if they are newly blind. But that man will teach you more than you will ever know and provide so much love and happiness because he will know what a bad day looks like to enjoy every good day you two share. But sighted or not sighted should not be how you choose your man. It seems kind of insensitive that you're so particular on what "disability" you wish your partner should have. It won't make you cool or make you seem sweet but if you don't care about the person.

I stayed with my man after he went blind because I love him. And when people tell me it's so "nice" that I stayed with him I just smile. Because if I didn't love him it wouldn't be nice. It'd be the cruelest thing ever. Disabled folks don't need sympathy.

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Posted by Chlorine17 on 3/4/2013 at 1:00 PM

I had a person date me simply because I was blind, and it was a very creepy and degrading experience.

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Posted by country girl101 on 3/4/2013 at 5:38 PM

Hi
My name is Abby and I have had only one relationship and that has been with a blind guy who turned out to be a complete jerk. He decided not to call me or answer my texts for two months and then he decided to confide in one of my other friends and then he lied to me about her asking him out. So I want someone that I can talk to that won't hurt me again because when that happened it hurt a lot. So if anyone would like to get in touch with me my e-mail is abbylcochran@aol.com and I'm 19.

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Posted by AndAubreyWasHerName on 3/19/2013 at 4:24 AM

I'm new here and offer two things. One, that girl
May or may not 'prefer' a man with a VI but even
If so, who but she could know why. (I just think
It's unfair to judge since dudes are so picky about
Who they will or won't date. If I were totally blind and as
A female, I'd be cautious who I went out with too. But
Heck, in today's times it sucks to be a woman wanting to
Date anyone. I have a lot of vi and sighted friends. The
Sighted females tell me often how they end up with
Attractive yet angry blind men. Makes me wonder
What THAT is all about' I know vI women who aren't
Angry people. So is that more of a vision thing or
A gender thing? T


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Wow. It Seems that there are many ladies on here
Who are interested in Dating Blind men.
I have been writing a man for a few months now
who has very limited vision, but I can honestly
say that it was not that that caused me to write ( nor keep writing him. I am quite attracted to him for the PERSON that he is, and If anything


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Hey there , I'm a 17 sighted girl , really nice and fun loving , caring and with a big heart, romantic , a good listenner. I'm really into sport and music, especialy the classic one , you may be asking yourself why would she date a blind guy ? well the answer is quite easy I've always wanted to , I'm someone who see by his heart not with eyes, someone who cares about personality and not appearances , I've always been like this , I respect everybody for who is , this is my email if you want to talk : saerhj@hotmail.fr
I hope you'll have a good day who ever was reading this.
Lot of love , Wissal.


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Good morning!
It's good to hear from blind people who live in Canada.
I myself moved back to Goleta, CA and wouldn't mind marrying a blind girl (as long as she is still *ahem* like myself to a degree.) I am gathering resources to relocate to Klamath Falls, Oregon in a year to continue my education on-campus@ Oregon Tech..

I saw a blind girl once on TV asking me to marry her, I am still wondering if she is out of danger from the known sexual-predator who was the host of the show, thank God I and others were able to get his show cancelled ASAP (coincidentally his last show was where I last lived [Las Vegas.])

Thanks for being honest about blindness being sin. I do believe God is perfect and your honesty is proof. It is true that children are not to blame for their parents sin, but they do suffer because of it. That's what my mother taught me, and I can see the beauty in her wisdom as you, yourself have the chance to have your own children and learn from your parents mistakes (as I'm sure you have forgiven them if they ever treated you wrong or failed to support you.)

I wish you great luck, as I one day wish to visit La Canada quand je pouvais depuis mon education (sp?) LOL ... to visit the places I remember seeing that blind girl walk, especially with her walking stick and guide dog. I have already notified the government of Canada and they responded within minutes as best as they could, and very kindly. I'm aware that we originate likewise from Europe as my greatest-of-greatest-grandfather was most likely he who conquered the Aztecs in Mexico and have met already those natives "Northern" of where I was born who were also his children (funny.) I'm not surprised therefore, that justice does exist in Canada and people with a soul who wouldn't take advantage of a blind girl, much less and young guy who is not even blind (it is considered adultery to blackmail a young guy by saying you will marry him and then sleep with a 50+ year old black rapist against him. It is human-injustice.)

Anyways, why am I in love with that girl if she is *the right girl*
Well, first of all... my lovely aunt in Mexico is also fully-blind.
... but I swear to God the first time I met her when we visited her in Mexico... that in dim light she was looking at my soul as she gave me the biggest hug and the biggest mango to eat. She is still living in Mexico where it might be for reasons why in God, that blind people (perhaps better right now) have less luck than blind people for example in England. If you read the bible, God promises to build roads and the right government for blind people to live prosperous as well. So it hurts me to have a blind girl make fun of her condition and wait for what? For her to die and never see another blind person marry her nephew? Remember, she asked an uncle of 20 nephews and nieces to marry her... where is she? Will I never have an opportunity to take her to Mexico in a vacation and let her meet my aunt. Life has no meaning therefore. Should I now turn into a "male prostitute" and go out with a prostitute? No, and I will die resisting temptation through heaven and hell.
I like her, because she symbolizes half of the world as I myself symbolize the other half, in my opinion. .. and I like her eyes when I see their sadness and her smile shine upon me and see them wiggle and extra bit with love.


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Good morning!
It's good to hear from blind people who live in Canada.
I myself moved back to Goleta, CA and wouldn't mind marrying a blind girl (as long as she is still *ahem* like myself to a degree.) I am gathering resources to relocate to Klamath Falls, Oregon in a year to continue my education on-campus@ Oregon Tech..

I saw a blind girl once on TV asking me to marry her, I am still wondering if she is out of danger from the known sexual-predator who was the host of the show, thank God I and others were able to get his show cancelled ASAP (coincidentally his last show was where I last lived [Las Vegas.])

Thanks for being honest about blindness being sin. I do believe God is perfect and your honesty is proof. It is true that children are not to blame for their parents sin, but they do suffer because of it. That's what my mother taught me, and I can see the beauty in her wisdom as you, yourself have the chance to have your own children and learn from your parents mistakes (as I'm sure you have forgiven them if they ever treated you wrong or failed to support you.)

I wish you great luck, as I one day wish to visit La Canada quand je pouvais depuis mon education (sp?) LOL ... to visit the places I remember seeing that blind girl walk, especially with her walking stick and guide dog. I have already notified the government of Canada and they responded within minutes as best as they could, and very kindly. I'm aware that we originate likewise from Europe as my greatest-of-greatest-grandfather was most likely he who conquered the Aztecs in Mexico and have met already those natives "Northern" of where I was born who were also his children (funny.) I'm not surprised therefore, that justice does exist in Canada and people with a soul who wouldn't take advantage of a blind girl, much less and young guy who is not even blind (it is considered adultery to blackmail a young guy by saying you will marry him and then sleep with a 50+ year old black rapist against him. It is human-injustice.)

Anyways, why am I in love with that girl if she is *the right girl*
Well, first of all... my lovely aunt in Mexico is also fully-blind.
... but I swear to God the first time I met her when we visited her in Mexico... that in dim light she was looking at my soul as she gave me the biggest hug and the biggest mango to eat. She is still living in Mexico where it might be for reasons why in God, that blind people (perhaps better right now) have less luck than blind people for example in England. If you read the bible, God promises to build roads and the right government for blind people to live prosperous as well. So it hurts me to have a blind girl make fun of her condition and wait for what? For her to die and never see another blind person marry her nephew? Remember, she asked an uncle of 20 nephews and nieces to marry her... where is she? Will I never have an opportunity to take her to Mexico in a vacation and let her meet my aunt. Life has no meaning therefore. Should I now turn into a "male prostitute" and go out with a prostitute? No, and I will die resisting temptation through heaven and hell.
I like her, because she symbolizes half of the world as I myself symbolize the other half, in my opinion. .. and I like her eyes when I see their sadness and her smile shine upon me and see them wiggle and extra bit with love.


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Hi my name is David, and I am from Saskatoon Saskatchewan in Canada. I have been legally blind for the past eighteen years. At first it was hard coping with my blindness because I had just gotten my hearing a month, and a half before. I am a 27 year old single male, and I have tried being in relationships with women who are blind as well. I just haven't found the right person yet, and I wouldn't be afraid of being with a sighted woman. I have a heart full of love to share with someone. I am a whole person even though I don't see all that good. I know that I am a whole person because of the love from God. I don't blame God at all for my blindness either. It is something that happens because of sin, and accidents that happen to people. I would like to get to know you sighted single woman. I just want someone to give me a chance of being with them. I also want to be treated the right way from my partner. I want to eventually have kids with my partner. Thanks for hearing what I have had to say.


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Hello. Kind of new but wanted to get my two cents in.
I'm blind and I do not know many blind people for me dating a sighted person is complete normal and no problem. 36, living in Erie PA just moved here in February going to school for massage therapy. Honestly I hate this whole thread. blindness shouldn't stop you from anything I don't let it. Sure it hinders me at times but havin been married to a controlling wife for ten years it doesn't stop me from loving the idea of dating a sighted woman. I guess it's because I've not had much experience in the blind community persay. anyone wants to chat my email is
michaelhoffman1976@gmail.com
Skype michaelhoffmanh76
Hope to hear from you. can argue the finer points of this subject. And, alice, if you still r eading this, it's your choice nothing psychological about it though I understand the point the previous poster made and can see their side of it.


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Hi, I am Paul and am 49 from the UK. I am visually impaired (blind but with some sight) and I have a 17 year old daughter. I am looking for a long term relationship looking for that end result, a happy loving family and marriage.

I have a great deal of respect for women but it seems women don't fancy dating a VI/blind guy, too much hassle for them apparently. Im also a photographer with images at www.aperture-photography.co.uk but I really could do with someone to love and hold tight.

If you would like to write to me, feel free at pbronicki@btinternet.com


Re: Sighted Girl looking for a Blind guy



hello! am blind guy who is 26 years old living outside US
am hungry of real love with real woman who is sighted or partially sighted one around my age. am personally respectful, honest, sincere, caring, god fearing and down to earth for my upcoming dream woman. a woman who decided to lead stable, exciting and affectionate life can hit me up with out hesitation.
my address is henistar12@gmail.com or my skype address is henok.selemon
may god bless our world.


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to SensuallyNaturallyLiving4Today,
I love your post. It's honest, painfully so for some, and has a lot of insight to the real working is a blind/sighted relationship with a lot of good points to think about.
I am a sighted 20 year old female. I too am interested in dating a blind man (though not limited to). Honestly, after wondering about this interest for many years, I can boil it down to nothing more than a physical quality that I find appealing (like how guys like a certain breast size, butt, or body type). I have yet to meet a VI/blind person, and maybe the 'mystery' about living blind is part of it, but I do wish to someday at least meet someone who is blind and curb my curiosity.


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I have the same problem dating also.
I live in Columbia South Carolina, and I am working on my second master’s degree. I am in very good shape intellectually spiritually, and physically. Most women who have obtained my level of education won’t date me because they can find men who can drive; they have their pick of the men. I’ve given up on most Christians from down here because they don’t see me as a viable mate, or they want to save my sight, oops I meant my sole, but to them, it is all the same. I have aimed my sights towards the new age or off brand religious seen; it seems like my best chance; I’m into that sort of stuff anyway. I’m a cane user, and most women are simply not interested. I dress nice, and I have worked on myself through personal development, reading books and exploring cultural events and the like. I’m just curious; what is the best and most accessible online dating sight for the Blind. I am a jaws user. Unfortunately, I haven't been taught how to use tools, and fix things around the house. It's a little annoying, but it is what it is.


Re: Sighted Girl looking for a Blind guy



No problem. I like to be helpful.


Re: Sighted Girl looking for a Blind guy



I like you. You're honest about what you think and you gave me some things to consider. Thanks.


Re: Sighted Girl looking for a Blind guy



Alright, where to begin? I guess my first concern/question would be as to your motivation for wanting a blind man specifically. The obvious psychological concern would be whether or not you are seeking out a blind man because you think that he will be less judgemental, treat you more kindly, be less concerned with material posessions and wealth and physical appearance. This is a common theme, and it may not apply to you, but I want to address it either way because this is a prevalent problem. Let me just put this out there. I know blind people, men and women who are child molesters, drug dealers, have engaged in child, spousal, elder or animal abuse, who commit rape, frawd, physical and or sexual asult, theft and adultery. I also know blind men and women who are members of the clergy, volinteer workers, baby sitters, wonderful parents, blood doaners, social workers, caring, moral, honest people, but your partner simply being blind does not ensure you any better treatment than dating a sighted man. To address the issue of physical attraction further, I want to make it clear that blind men, and women can be just as accepting or just as shallow as anyone else. If you think they won't care about your appearance, think again. For one thing, they can feel acne, can tell if you are short or tall, fat or thin, if your skin, nails and hair are healthy and attractive. They will have preferences based on breast and butt size, hight, weight, skin, hair and eye color, face shape, etc. If you are a slob and don't take care of yourself, believe me they will notice and they will not want to be with you. If you take good care of yourself, they will also notice. If you date a blind man you will still need to wear makeup, if you are ordinarily a makeup wearer. You will have to buy the same dresses, sexy jeans and lounguree that you would be expected to wear if you were dating a sighted man. All blind men can tell you if they are a tits man, an ass man, etc, they will react to your wearing a teddy or a boostier or fishnet stockings. I know blind guys who are active in the BDSM community, I know blind men who are active in the GLBT community, who have foot feddishes, who are into transvestism, and all of them have clear sexual preferences, and standards. If you are, and I don't know you, so I am speaking generally, but if you are thinking that having a blind partner will help compensate for your low self esteme, then go get some counsiling and find a man, blind or sighted once you've gotten your self together. Its the same as insisting a sighted partner only have sex with the lights off, or always wearing shapeless baggy clothing. Sexy is as sexy does, and no matter what hang ups you have about your body or your appearance, seeking out a blind partner won't help this in the long or even in the short term. I also want to address something that another poster asked. I want you to consider the following. Of all of the blind people in the United States, the majority are senior citizens who went blind due to diseases of aging. Not that older people can't be sexual or in relationships, but for most of them, they are already in committed relationships or ar too busy with adjusting to their new life challenges to be involved in seeking out new relationships, friend or romantic. Of the remaining blind individuals, a large percentage are multipli-handicapped, and this often includes cognative disorders, previously refered to as mental retardation. Chances are you are not interested in someone who isn't your cognative equal, and there is no shame in that, BTW, the importance of conversation and mental engagement is a non-negociable deal breaker for me personally. Of those blind people who are neither severely multipli-handicapped or senior citizens, many of these remaining individuals are of average or above intelligence, but are extremely sheltered due to micromanaging parents, institutionalization, and other restricting and stunting influences. For these individuals the comfort and familiarity of dating only other blind people is seen as safe, stress reducing and desirable, and they don't see how terribly restricting this can be. Refusing to date sighted people is just as biggeted, ignorant, close-minded and abelist as refusing to date blind or other disabled people. So, of that pool of blind individuals who are not seniors, have no other serious disabilities, and who are not socially sheltered and stunted, you have a pretty small percentage remaining that you would want to date or that would not be intimidated by dating you. You mentioned not being equal in sight, and I want to challenge that. I was a moderately high partial as a child and am now totally blind. My husband is sighted, and who designed our wedding invitations? Me. Who decorated our house? I did. I give him advice on clothing choices and color pallots for projects. I have a clear idea of what I want to do and I seek feedback on my ideas and ask sighted friends and store employees for evaluation as I progress through a project, but mine is the creative vision, no pun intended behind the look and decore of our home, our wedding, my wardrobe, and other visual aspects of our lives. Also, I am a visual learner and continue to be a very visual person to this day. So I want to challenge this notion. Lastly I want to address one difficulty for blind men in particular. In our society men and women have very different expectations held of them. Also, men and women are fundementally different. I don't need any feminist babble about equality. Men and women are not equal, they are not the same, they just aren't. Men and women are of equal worth and have equal rights and equal human rights, but this does not make them the same. Generally speaking, the things that men are good at and that they are expected to do are harder for a blind person to do than those things a woman is good at and expected to do. For instance, society is more likely to see something wrong with a relationship where the sighted wife drives the blind husband everywhere than the relationship where the sighted husband drives the blind wife everywhere. Domestic work, the caring for of small children, and many arinas of volinteer activities, church activities, community responsibilities and work responsibilities are easier for blind people in the traditional female realms. For instance, the wife makes the beds, washes the dishes and does the laundry, the husband mows the lawn, cleans the gutters, uses the snow blower and works on the car. Can a blind man do these things? Yes, to some of the above, maybe to other tasks, and absolutely not, to others. It is important for the blind man to find enough masculine tasks in the relationship that he can do that satasfies his masculine nature and his role in the relationship. For instance, the husband should be the one to research a good lawn care service, hire them and supervise the workers, even if he can't mow the lawn himself. The man should do whatever work on the car that he can, and should be knowledgable enough to have detailed, informed conversations with automative sales and repair personelle when he needs someone else to work on the couple's car. He should let his wife read him the dirrections while he essembles the new furnature. He can still do many house hold repairs, including painting rooms, installing outlet plates, switch plates, doorknobs, curtain rods, etc. If his eyes don't work, he can still provide the muscle or the bulk of the muscle to get that couch up the stairs or to push the car out of the mud or to shuvvel out the driveway, etc. It is fine for men to help out around the house, and a stay-at-home dad is still way better than daycare, when it is possible, but if you want to date a blind man it is important to avoid mothering him, or acting as his parent. A side note, even sighted wives of sighted husbands can fall into the mothering trap, which is neither productive nor healthy. You want a lov


Re: Sighted Girl looking for a Blind guy



I'm new here and offer two things. One, that girl
May or may not 'prefer' a man with a VI but even
If so, who but she could know why. (I just think
It's unfair to judge since dudes are so picky about
Who they will or won't date. If I were totally blind and as
A female, I'd be cautious who I went out with too. But
Heck, in today's times it sucks to be a woman wanting to
Date anyone. I have a lot of vi and sighted friends. The
Sighted females tell me often how they end up with
Attractive yet angry blind men. Makes me wonder
What THAT is all about' I know vI women who aren't
Angry people. So is that more of a vision thing or
A gender thing? Thanks


Re: Sighted Girl looking for a Blind guy



Hi
My name is Abby and I have had only one relationship and that has been with a blind guy who turned out to be a complete jerk. He decided not to call me or answer my texts for two months and then he decided to confide in one of my other friends and then he lied to me about her asking him out. So I want someone that I can talk to that won't hurt me again because when that happened it hurt a lot. So if anyone would like to get in touch with me my e-mail is abbylcochran@aol.com and I'm 19.


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I had a person date me simply because I was blind, and it was a very creepy and degrading experience.


Re: Sighted Girl looking for a Blind guy



Whomever stated that someone who is blind is "less of a person" I am so angered by that statement. You have clearly never dated someone who is blind or know anyone who is. My boyfriend got into an accident a little over a year ago and has had to rebuild his entire life go back to school and relearn everything because he completely lost all sight and smell. And he is more than any sighted man I have ever been with. He is more of a person than any other "regular" person can ever be. Those with disabilities seem to have a handle on who they are and what they want.

And my advice, if you are looking to date a blind man, take it from me as a sighted girl doing that. It's not easy because it requires a lot of effort especially if they are newly blind. But that man will teach you more than you will ever know and provide so much love and happiness because he will know what a bad day looks like to enjoy every good day you two share. But sighted or not sighted should not be how you choose your man. It seems kind of insensitive that you're so particular on what "disability" you wish your partner should have. It won't make you cool or make you seem sweet but if you don't care about the person.

I stayed with my man after he went blind because I love him. And when people tell me it's so "nice" that I stayed with him I just smile. Because if I didn't love him it wouldn't be nice. It'd be the cruelest thing ever. Disabled folks don't need sympathy.


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It probably depends on the person too. I lost all my vision about two years ago, so I'm still getting used to it. Maybe people who have been blind longer see things differently than I do.


Re: Sighted Girl looking for a Blind guy



Chlorine17, I am sighted. If we entered a physical relationship I would feel I had a very important learning experience. I would enter it very slowly. I would be especially concerned that I did not make you feel insecure. I think other sighted fellows would feel the same. In lacking sight you are correct in saying you are unequal. But in having had to make up for it by enhancing other ways to feel your environment, you would be ahead of me.


Re: Sighted Girl looking for a Blind guy



As a blind person, I find the idea of a relationship, especially a physical one, with a sighted person nerve wracking. It's hard to explain exactly why, but it doesn't feel like I can be their equal and I don't like that. Then again, it could just be my own insecurities speaking. I guess what I'm trying to say is that maybe some blind people feel more comfortable around other blind people, and tend to stick with what they know.


Re: Sighted Girl looking for a Blind guy



I THINK AGE PLAYS APART AS WELL, I'M A 50 YR OLD LEGALLY BLIND BLACK MAN. SO NOT ONLY IS THERE AN AGE FACTOR, RACE IS ALSO AN ISSUE WITH SOME. EVEN HERE IN NORTHERN CALIFORNIA. A DATING SITE FOR US WOULD BE NICE...
ALFRED


Re: Sighted Girl looking for a Blind guy



Hi;

I've posted on here before and I'm baffled. Is
There some unspoken thing around the blind
Community where most Blind single men date
Only blind, single women? Since I posted above
I've received one VI male who actually wrote
Me. I have a couple of VI male friends who I have met
On here, but it's been slim Pickens, so I was
Just wondering if There is some unspoken click
Or are the men afraid of a sighted female? Cuz
I just don't get it. ( it does seem that there are
More vi men in the Northeast than in my state.
Please, anyone's thoughts? Thanks


Re: Sighted Girl looking for a Blind guy



Hmu rey.mesteco@gmail.com


ALICE



Look i will be your freind or whatever you are looking for, but i am not blind, i dont see with my eyes though... i see with my heart and dont look at peoples down falls, but their pluses!! ;) i love life and everyone in it!
... So ... love ya!!


Hello im rey



Hi im tryin to find that woman with a big heart and is passionate, who can see pass my blindness Im a single hispanic whos been struggling with my sight since 07 i just had a birthday im 24 i like to read workout spend time with my family outgoing
Im learning guitar and i still Dj so yes i love music... Hmu hope to here frm u
Rey.mesteco@gmail.com


Re: Sighted Girl looking for a Blind guy 2



Hi;

I can't find where to post on here, although I'm sure I have done it. I too, am a sighted female (age 52 though, very youthful-smile), looking for a VI/Blind male, aged 40's-55 tops. I really need u to live in the Dallas, Tx area. (You can be in Mesquite or Garland,-Richardson,..just not too terribly far since I would most likely being the one who drives). I am degreed, so I do prefer that, and am a non-smoker (allergies), and very light drinker.
I am chubby, but swim 3 times a week and am trying to get a recumbent bike for the weekends. I also have a regular bike for when it's a little warmer and on weekends. I LOVE to dance, 'jitterbug' or 'swing', to oldies. I enjoy many things like classical music, jazz, walks at the lake. Am affectionate (with the right person). I am into God very much, so u should be too. Not evangelical, but as The center of your life, in a very personal way. I do have issues with ocular hypertension (but I use eye drops and am checked frequently). So write me already! Smile.
Mountains_1@juno.com


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